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Is there a timeline for saving a marriage?

If you are asking "How long will it take to save my marriage?" the honest answer is that there is no magic formula or set number of days. It relies entirely on consistency over time. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam explains that saving a relationship is not an immediate event. It is a process of changing the negative narrative your spouse has about you by consistently doing the right things, even when it feels like it is not working.

In this episode:

Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the typical pattern of marriage dissolution and shares the hard truth about separation. Did you know that once a physical separation occurs, the likelihood of divorce rises to between 75% and 80%?

Dr. Beam explains why this happens using a concept called Negative Affect. This is when your spouse interprets everything you do through a negative filter. Even when you try to change or work on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual attraction), your spouse might attack you or criticize you.

Why do they do this? Because your positive changes are messing up the negative narrative they have created to justify leaving.

You will learn:

• The typical "devolving" pattern of a marriage heading toward divorce.
• Why you should avoid or delay separation if at all possible.
• Negative Affect: Why your spouse sees you as the "bad guy" regardless of what you do.
• Why your spouse might get angry when you start working on yourself.
• The vital importance of consistency over time to change their mind.

It is unfair that you have to do the heavy lifting right now. However, if you are the one standing for the marriage, you are the one who has to change the dynamic. It is not easy, but we have witnessed "hopeless" couples turn it around even after years of struggle.

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Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up.

If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this video provides a real-life roadmap. Aaron, a former pastor, lived a secret double life for decades, while Rena was completely blindsided by the discovery. They discuss the intense physical reality of betrayal trauma (flooding), the shame of addiction in the church, and why they believe leaving isn't always the "easier" option.

In this video, we answer hard questions like:

• How do you rebuild trust after cheating?
• What does real healing look like for a betrayed spouse?
• Why does the "good guy" or spiritual leader fall into addiction?
• How long does it take to save a marriage after an affair?

Rena and Aaron’s story proves that while trust is lost in buckets, it is earned in drops. With the right help, including the Marriage Helper workshop, they didn't just go back to their old marriage... they built a new, stronger one.

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Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone.

In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about damage control. It is about getting through the holidays without becoming a statistic.

I was where you are 12 years ago. I know the fear, the loneliness, and the overwhelming anxiety. But I also know there is hope.

In this video, we cover:

• The "Knee Surgery" Analogy: Why you need to calm the inflammation (the chaos) before you can have the surgery (the workshop) to fix the root cause.
• The Holiday Truce: Why you must stop all relationship talks from Dec 23rd to 26th.
• Managing External Chaos: How to handle nosy family members and protect your children from the tension.
• The "If/Then" Plan: Practical ways to manage your own anxiety if your spouse doesn't show up or acts distant.
• The PIES of Attraction: How to focus on YOU physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become a safe place.

🎄 THE "STOP THE CHAOS" PLAN FOR CHRISTMAS:

1. Stop Pushing: No begging, pleading, or "heavy" talks.
2. Be A Safe Place: Warm, kind, and accepting (but not smothering).
3. Manage Expectations: If your spouse is distant, treat them like a guest. Be hospitable, but don't force connection.
4. Damage Control: Your goal this week is not to "save" the marriage, but to prevent making it worse.

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The shocking termination of Michigan head coach Sherrone Moore has dominated the headlines, but beneath the sports scandal lies a profound psychological phenomenon: Limerence. In this video, we break down the reports from USA Today and Sports Illustrated to analyze the behavior leading up to Moore’s firing. From the alleged years-long affair to the reports of stalking and the "kitchen scissors" incident, we look at these events through the lens of relationship psychology. Was this just a lapse in judgment, or was it the destructive cycle of limerence?

What You’ll Learn in This Video:
The 3 Stages of Limerence: Understanding Infatuation, Crystallization, and Deterioration.

Why Good People Make Bad Decisions: How brain chemistry changes during an obsessive affair.

The Reality of Stalking in Limerence: Why the person "left behind" often resorts to desperate, unrecognizable behaviors.

Hope for Marriage Recovery: Can a marriage survive a public scandal and limerence? (The answer might surprise you).

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What is limerence in a relationship? Limerence is a state of involuntary obsession with another person. It involves intrusive thoughts, an intense desire for reciprocation, and can lead to irrational behavior that the person wouldn’t normally exhibit.

How long does limerence last? Typically, limerence lasts between 18 months to 3 years. As seen in the Sherrone Moore case, once one partner enters the "deterioration" phase while the other is still in "crystallization," it often leads to conflict or stalking.

Can a marriage survive limerence and an affair? Yes. While the process involves a difficult "grief period" for the unfaithful spouse, many marriages can be rebuilt to be stronger than they were before the affair began.

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This episode is from the Marriage Helper LIVE Call-In Show from December 10, 2025. Marriage Helper LIVE airs live on YouTube, every Wednesday at Noon CT. To listen in or have a chance to call into the show, you can head to https://youtube.com/@marriagehelper

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Getting served divorce papers can feel like the final blow, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your marriage. If you’ve just received the filing, you are likely feeling panic, fear, and anger. In this video, we break down exactly what you need to do immediately to stay sane, protect yourself, and maximize your chances of saving your marriage.

Just because your spouse filed for divorce does not mean it is over. Divorce is an event, not the end of the story. We see couples save their marriages even after papers have been served.

In this video, we cover the 5 crucial steps to take right now:

Regulate Your Nervous System: Learn the "Box Breathing" technique (4-4-4-4). Set alarms for 8:00 a.m., Noon, and 6:00 p.m. to do this for 3 minutes. This resets your amygdala and stops the fight-or-flight response.

Process Your Emotions: Don't bottle it up. Write down every thought, fear, anger, and resentment on paper. Getting it out of your head helps it lose power over you.

Analyze Your Decision: Create a Pros and Cons list. Think beyond today... how will this divorce affect you in 10 months or 10 years? Consider the impact on your children, finances, and future.

Find the Right Lawyer: You need legal protection, but you must find a lawyer who isn't "vicious." Find someone who will defend you financially and regarding custody, but who also respects your desire to save the marriage and won't use your children as pawns.

Seek Expert Guidance: The average divorce costs $25,000–$30,000, plus the emotional cost. Consider investing that energy into saving the relationship instead. Marriage Helper has worked with over 25,000 clients and has a 70% success rate with our workshops.

Why You Should Watch: If you are asking, "My wife filed for divorce, what do I do?" or "My husband served me papers, is it over?" this video is your roadmap. We explain why filing is often a cry for help or a reaction to pain, rather than a final door closing.

Next Steps: If you want to know if your situation is salvageable, please fill out our application. We work with hundreds of clients personally every month to turn hopeless situations around.

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Have you lost those feelings of attraction? Are you wondering if it’s even possible to fall back in love with your husband or wife after years of distance, hurt, or "storms" in life?

In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares the roadmap for How To Fall In Love With Your Spouse Again In 2026. Even if your marriage feels like it is on the brink of divorce, or you feel completely numb, you can get those feelings back. Don't throw your marriage away yet.

The process of falling in love isn't a mystery, it’s a predictable path called The LovePath™. By focusing on four specific steps... Attraction, Acceptance, Attachment, and Aspiration... you can revitalize your relationship and save your marriage.

In this video, you will learn:

The PIES of Attraction: How to work on your Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual self to naturally draw your spouse back.

The Power of Acceptance: How to accept your spouse without tolerating destructive behaviors (like alcoholism or affairs).

True Attachment: Why "commitment" is the safety net that allows love to grow.

Aspiration: How shared dreams can act as the "superglue" for a long-lasting marriage.

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Can your marriage be saved after an affair, separation, or even after divorce papers have been filed? Is there a point where a relationship is truly "too far gone"?

In this video, Kimberly from Marriage Helper reveals the shocking truth about which marriages actually won't be saved. The answer might surprise you—it has nothing to do with how much time has passed, the severity of the infidelity, or legal proceedings. Instead, it comes down to three specific roadblocks that stop reconciliation in its tracks.

If you are wondering, "Is there hope for my marriage?" this video is a must-watch. Kimberly shares insights on why complaining, making excuses, and letting fear paralyze you are the real reasons marriages fail—and exactly how you can start doing something different today.

In this video, we cover:

The psychological danger of focusing on the negative.

Why making excuses creates a barrier to intimacy.

How to overcome the fear that "nothing will work."

Why affairs and separation do NOT mean your marriage is over.

👇 NEXT STEPS & RESOURCES 👇

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🧠 WATCH NEXT: Kimberly mentioned that mindset is everything. Watch this video next: "5 Mindset Shifts You Need to Save Your Marriage"
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