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Is there a timeline for saving a marriage?

If you are asking "How long will it take to save my marriage?" the honest answer is that there is no magic formula or set number of days. It relies entirely on consistency over time. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam explains that saving a relationship is not an immediate event. It is a process of changing the negative narrative your spouse has about you by consistently doing the right things, even when it feels like it is not working.

In this episode:

Dr. Joe Beam breaks down the typical pattern of marriage dissolution and shares the hard truth about separation. Did you know that once a physical separation occurs, the likelihood of divorce rises to between 75% and 80%?

Dr. Beam explains why this happens using a concept called Negative Affect. This is when your spouse interprets everything you do through a negative filter. Even when you try to change or work on your PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual attraction), your spouse might attack you or criticize you.

Why do they do this? Because your positive changes are messing up the negative narrative they have created to justify leaving.

You will learn:

• The typical "devolving" pattern of a marriage heading toward divorce.
• Why you should avoid or delay separation if at all possible.
• Negative Affect: Why your spouse sees you as the "bad guy" regardless of what you do.
• Why your spouse might get angry when you start working on yourself.
• The vital importance of consistency over time to change their mind.

It is unfair that you have to do the heavy lifting right now. However, if you are the one standing for the marriage, you are the one who has to change the dynamic. It is not easy, but we have witnessed "hopeless" couples turn it around even after years of struggle.

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Learn how they saved their marriage after an affair and addiction, even after 25 years of what looked like a "perfect" life. In this raw and honest interview, Aaron and Rena Garcia open up about the secret pornography addiction and infidelity that nearly destroyed their family, and the specific steps they took to rebuild trust from the ground up.

If you are asking, "Can a marriage survive infidelity?" or "Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?" this video provides a real-life roadmap. Aaron, a former pastor, lived a secret double life for decades, while Rena was completely blindsided by the discovery. They discuss the intense physical reality of betrayal trauma (flooding), the shame of addiction in the church, and why they believe leaving isn't always the "easier" option.

In this video, we answer hard questions like:

• How do you rebuild trust after cheating?
• What does real healing look like for a betrayed spouse?
• Why does the "good guy" or spiritual leader fall into addiction?
• How long does it take to save a marriage after an affair?

Rena and Aaron’s story proves that while trust is lost in buckets, it is earned in drops. With the right help, including the Marriage Helper workshop, they didn't just go back to their old marriage... they built a new, stronger one.

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Did you know that divorce filings increase by 30% in January? It’s not a coincidence. The holidays don't just magnify relationship problems; they market a perfection that no marriage actually has. If you are dreading this Christmas because you feel like you are walking on eggshells, you are not alone.

In this video, I’m sharing the exact "Stop The Chaos" plan you need to implement next week. This isn't about fixing your whole marriage in one day. It is about damage control. It is about getting through the holidays without becoming a statistic.

I was where you are 12 years ago. I know the fear, the loneliness, and the overwhelming anxiety. But I also know there is hope.

In this video, we cover:

• The "Knee Surgery" Analogy: Why you need to calm the inflammation (the chaos) before you can have the surgery (the workshop) to fix the root cause.
• The Holiday Truce: Why you must stop all relationship talks from Dec 23rd to 26th.
• Managing External Chaos: How to handle nosy family members and protect your children from the tension.
• The "If/Then" Plan: Practical ways to manage your own anxiety if your spouse doesn't show up or acts distant.
• The PIES of Attraction: How to focus on YOU physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to become a safe place.

🎄 THE "STOP THE CHAOS" PLAN FOR CHRISTMAS:

1. Stop Pushing: No begging, pleading, or "heavy" talks.
2. Be A Safe Place: Warm, kind, and accepting (but not smothering).
3. Manage Expectations: If your spouse is distant, treat them like a guest. Be hospitable, but don't force connection.
4. Damage Control: Your goal this week is not to "save" the marriage, but to prevent making it worse.

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