This episode features an insightful interview with Jim Vance, a men's coach, who shares his transformative journey from corporate life and homelessness to guiding men in self-leadership and personal growth. The discussion delves into critical aspects of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of internal validation over external approval, and the continuous evolution required in relationships. Jim highlights the significance of self-love, self-acceptance, and the practice of self-forgiveness as foundational elements for a fulfilling life. He also touches upon the often-overlooked concept of 'play' for men and introduces his 'three by five' practice for profound self-reflection and growth.

•Jim Vance's Background: From teacher to corporate life to becoming a men's coach, and his personal journey through poverty, divorce, and homelessness.

•Masculine Leadership: The core principle of leading oneself before leading others in any aspect of life.

•The Conscious Man: Jim's brand and his focus on helping men move from a passive to a powerful state.

•The Pitfalls of External Validation: The importance of self-approval and detaching from the need for external validation, especially in relationships.

•The Concept of "Home": Finding a sense of home within oneself rather than in external achievements or relationships.

•The "Three by Five" Practice: A daily exercise for self-love, self-pride, and self-forgiveness.

•The Importance of Play: The need for men to incorporate play and fun into their lives to avoid burnout and maintain a balanced life.

•Continuous Learning in Relationships: The idea of continuously learning about one's partner rather than assuming to know them.

•Emotional Embodiment: The practice of being present with and processing emotions rather than suppressing them.

•"If you can't lead you, you can't lead a work, you can't lead a family." - Jim Vance

•"The only place you're ever home is with yourself." - Jim Vance

•"The only thing that keeps you from winning is you and your attachment to outward circumstances." - Jim Vance

•"You have to be selfish in the way you love yourself so that you can be selfless in the way you love the world." - Jim Vance

•"Live full, die empty." - Jim Vance

•"We don't try to know each other. We try to learn each other because knowing is a past tense. Learning is who are you becoming?" - Jim Vance

•"I'm a professional fuck up. I'm great at it. Everything I do. Every day, I'm going to fuck something up." - Jim Vance

Pitfalls of External Validation

Join us on Rebel Sage Radio for an unfiltered exploration of masculinity and self-discovery with our special guest, Tyler Woods, a dedicated men's coach and leader. Listen in as Tyler opens up about his personal journey, from his early years as an only child in Washington State to the transformative moment when his family dynamic changed with the unexpected arrival of triplet siblings. This pivotal event led Tyler to experience feelings of withdrawal and self-worth struggles, which he carried into his youth. In his mid-20s, a health scare prompted a significant lifestyle change, resulting in substantial weight loss and a new perspective on life. Despite these external changes, Tyler continued to grapple with internal issues, leading him to seek therapy and connect with the Mankind Project, where he found a community of men who shared their vulnerabilities and supported one another in redefining masculinity and self-acceptance.

As the conversation unfolds, we explore the broader themes of self-discovery and personal growth. Tyler shares insights from his transformative journey, sparked by an event similar to Burning Man, which inspired a deeper exploration of his internal landscapes often overshadowed by societal expectations. Engaging in men's groups and integrating personal insights shifted Tyler's approach from checking off life's traditional boxes to embracing emotional awareness and healing. We discuss the transition from living a performative, scripted life to experiencing genuine, fulfilling interactions and spiritual growth, underscoring the importance of authenticity and breaking free from societal norms.

Throughout this episode, we touch on the power of authenticity and the inner journey of self-reflection. With Tyler's experiences as a backdrop, we explore the challenges of peeling back superficial layers to uncover one's true self and the significance of integrity and congruence in achieving authenticity. By confronting personal addictions and distractions, we find the space to align with our true mission and lead a more purposeful life. Emphasizing the balance between structure and flexibility, we highlight the role of intentional living and community support in personal growth and fulfillment. Tune in to be inspired by Tyler's journey and insights, and discover the transformative power of authenticity in leading your own narrative.

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(0:00:12) - Unfiltered Conversations on Masculinity

(0:09:01) - Exploring Self-Discovery and Growth

(0:22:53) - Discovering Authenticity and Self-Reflection

(0:34:45) - Living With Intention

(0:41:59) - Navigating Authenticity and Personal Growth

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(0:00:12) - Unfiltered Conversations on Masculinity

Tyler Woods shares his journey of masculinity and self-discovery, including weight loss, therapy, and finding community in the Mankind Project.

(0:09:01) - Exploring Self-Discovery and Growth

Transformative journey of self-discovery sparked by Burning Man event, men's groups, and breaking free from societal norms.

(0:22:53) - Discovering Authenticity and Self-Reflection

Authenticity coach guides journey to uncover true self, overcome distractions, and align with mission through community and integrity.

(0:34:45) - Living With Intention

Wu Wei, discernment, non-negotiables, intentionalizing time, and balance between structure and flexibility for personal growth and freedom.

(0:41:59) - Navigating Authenticity and Personal Growth

Transparency, authenticity, and personal growth are emphasized, as well as confronting past patterns and emotions for transformation.

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(0:00:12) - Unfiltered...

Growing up in a strict fundamentalist cult, Yeadon Smith never imagined that he'd one day be a voice for practical masculinity on Rebel Sage Radio. Join us as Yeadon shares his extraordinary journey from the confines of his upbringing to becoming a husband, father, and accomplished entrepreneur. He opens up about the real struggles and triumphs he's faced along the way, from dealing with anger and frustration to embracing vulnerability in a world that often discourages it. This episode isn't just a story—it's an invitation to explore what it truly means to become a man in today's society.

Our conversation delves into the emotional challenges fathers face while balancing personal and family life, with a spotlight on moments of raw emotion, like the infamous broken granite countertop incident. Yeadon talks about finding guidance through supportive communities such as the Dad Edge Alliance and Porn to Purpose, which offer men a space to confront their personal struggles and cultivate authentic connections. We also examine the societal expectations surrounding masculinity and how programs designed to address issues like porn addiction can be pivotal in breaking generational patterns and fostering healthier family dynamics.

The discussion doesn't stop there; we explore the transformative power of daily habits and the essence of building a community rooted in authentic conversations. Yeadon reflects on his initial skepticism towards meditation and how adopting daily practices like journaling and exercise has been vital for handling stress and anxiety. By sharing experiences in a non-judgmental space, men can better navigate the complexities of relationships and leadership roles, ultimately creating a more fulfilling life. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges the conventional notions of masculinity and underscores the importance of growing together as a community.

Real Men Talk (00:11)

Yaden Smith shares his journey to practical masculinity, from a cult upbringing to real estate and coaching men recovering from porn addiction.

The Journey Into Manhood and Masculinity (15:34)

Struggles of balancing family life, seeking help through Dad Edge Alliance, and transformative experience with a program addressing pornography.

The Masculine Journey (24:57)

Manhood is more than external markers; it involves skills like responding, creating structure, and handling stress to be a true protector and provider.

The Journey to Masculine Freedom (36:52)

A father's late realization of masculinity, breaking generational patterns, societal challenges for men, and the importance of community and brotherhood.

Building Community Through Authentic Conversations (47:25)

Daily habits of reading, journaling, meditation, and exercise can transform our lives and improve relationships.

Navigating Relationships With Understanding (55:29)

Maintaining relationships through gratitude and respect, even during conflicts like taking out the trash, with insights from guest