Ari went on three dates with an attractive, successful woman. He paid for the first two dates (including a $200 dinner), then asked her to pay for the third. She immediately went cold and ghosted him completely. Sound familiar? In this episode, we break down exactly what happened — what Ari did right, what went wrong, and the deeper dynamics at play when it comes to who pays for dates in 2025.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about:
The primal vs. conscious expectations around dating and money
Why "I like to be spoiled" in her profile was a red flag he missed
How paying for expensive early dates creates the wrong frame
The difference between leading with money vs. leading authentically
Why asking her to pay felt like a "test" — and what her reaction revealed
How to call out the "elephant in the room" when things get awkward
The covert contracts we create when we try to impress women with resources

Why high-value men assess women instead of trying to impress them
Setting the right expectations from date one (without being cheap)
Whether you're wondering if you should split the bill, tired of always paying, or confused about modern dating dynamics, this episode will help you get clear on your approach. We've all been there — now we help men navigate dating from a place of authenticity instead of desperation.
Stop trying to buy her interest. Start assessing if she's actually worth yours.

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Connect with Dr. Ari Graff:
https://drarigraff.com/
https://draribgraff.com/register [divorce recovery program]
https://youtube.com/@AriGraff