What if the most rebellious thing you could do wasn’t to break the rules — but to stop worrying what everyone else thinks?

In this episode, Shayla and Kate crack open Mel Robbins’ bestselling book The Let Them Theory and explore why these two tiny words are such a potent tool for living like an Outlaw. Because Outlaws don’t build their lives by managing everyone else’s opinions — they build them from the inside out.

From family expectations to tricky work politics, they dive into how letting them think, feel, and do what they want (without you trying to control it) is actually one of the most radical ways to reclaim your time, energy, and joy.

It’s not just about ignoring people. It’s about getting very clear on what’s yours to carry - and letting the rest go.

Inside, they unpack:

- Why Let Them is the ultimate Outlaw move for stopping the exhausting job of managing everyone else’s feelings - How Let Me gives you permission to take up space, rest, fail, and chase dreams (even if no one else gets it) - Why guilt, culture and gender norms can make this shift feel “selfish” — and why that’s the very reason to do it - How letting go of control doesn’t make you a doormat — it actually clarifies where your real power lies

Whether you’re a recovering people pleaser, stuck in overthinking, or just tired of asking for permission to live the way you want, this is an episode for Outlaws ready to build life on their own terms.

- What exactly is Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory (and why it’s a bestseller) - Shayla and Kate on people-pleasing, perfectionism, and why this has been life-changing for them - The hidden role of gender, culture & family messages that make letting go so hard - Why professionals often think they can — and must — fix everything and why it is uncomfortable to think you can't - Practical ways to start small: one let them or let me moment at a time - Scripts for when your brain spirals: “Their comfort isn’t more important than my peace.”

– You’re tired of spending energy on what other people think – You keep bending yourself into knots to keep everyone comfortable – You want to live more from your own values (like a true Outlaw), not from guilt or expectations – You want real stories about how this simple idea helped two professionals stop burning out

📚 Read Mel Robbins’ book: The Let Them Theory 📝 Carolyn Hax, the advice columnist we love: Carolyn Hax at The Washington Post 🤯 Tim Urban on procrastination: Why Procrastinators Procrastinate 🎥 Tim Urban’s TED Talk: Inside the mind of a master procrastinator 📅 Wait But Why Life Calendar: Track your 4,000 weeks 🎵 Frank Sinatra’s “Love & Marriage” (for the bit Kate sings!): Watch on YouTube

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