Episodes

  • From Marines to OnlyFans: Conzo's Unconventional Path to Healing and Advocacy

    From Marines to OnlyFans: Conzo's Unconventional Path to Healing and Advocacy
    Feb 6 2026
    Season 6, Episode 715: **A Marine's Unconventional Path to Charity Work** When Conzo left the U.S. Marines, he never imagined his next chapter would involve OnlyFans, a UK dating show appearance, and becoming an accidental meme. (Ladbible apparently loves using his image as clickbait for completely unrelated stories.) This former Marine now uses adult content creation to fund animal rescue, LGBTQ youth support, and domestic abuse survivor assistance—all while challenging society's discomfort with sexuality and nudity. Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conzo0311 LADbible: https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/tv/naked-attraction-contestants-where-are-they-now-connor-conzo-tiktok-777527-20230920 Daily Star: https://www.dailystar.co.uk/tv/marine-who-starred-naked-attraction-32726872 After discovering financial mismanagement at a horse rehabilitation charity in Scotland where he served as vice chairperson, Conzo faced a moral crossroads. The animals needed immediate help. His solution? **OnlyFans became his fundraising platform**, despite initial hesitation about the unconventional approach. Beyond the fundraising aspect, he found the work personally transformative and healing, helping him process past trauma and discover his sexuality. Why does sex work carry such stigma when it's simply labor performed by people—often parents with special needs children, disabled individuals, or neurodivergent people—who struggle in traditional employment without adequate state support? Conzo argues that opposition stems from control rather than genuine welfare concerns, noting how society suddenly found moral outrage when women started controlling their own earnings on platforms like OnlyFans. Ready to hear more about redefining masculinity, navigating stigma, and finding purpose through unconventional means? This conversation goes deep. Key Takeaways: • **Sex work as trauma healing**: Conzo describes his OnlyFans work as genuinely transformative for processing military trauma, challenging the assumption that sex work is inherently exploitative or damaging to the performer. • **Diverse sex worker demographics**: A significant portion of sex workers are parents, disabled individuals, and neurodivergent people using it out of economic necessity due to inadequate state support—not a fringe phenomenon. • **Decriminalization as harm reduction**: Conzo argues that criminalizing sex work increases danger and exploitation, suggesting legalization protects workers better than moral crusades framed around "rescue" narratives. Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals: PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠ BeeDee app. Enter the code ohfuckyeah on the Whips ('superlikes') page to get 1 free Whip, use my affiliate link to check out this app at ⁠https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeah⁠ The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠ ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2152196/26423 Opus Clip
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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • Beyond the Performance: Ms. Amanda on Authenticity, Community, and Building an Adult Empire Promoting Sex Positivity

    Beyond the Performance: Ms. Amanda on Authenticity, Community, and Building an Adult Empire Promoting Sex Positivity
    Feb 1 2026
    Season 6, Episode 714: Building a Sex-Positive Community Through Multiple Ventures with guest Ms. Amanda Websites ⁠www.msamanda.net⁠ Studio ⁠www.kasbhstudios.com⁠ Main swinger page ⁠www.krazykasbh.com⁠ When Ms. Amanda describes her journey from camming to running Full Swap Radio and Kasbh Studio, she reveals something unexpected: excitement, not fear, fuels her work. This multifaceted creator has built an empire around authenticity in an industry often criticized for being artificial. Throughout the conversation, Ms. Amanda explains her approach to filming adult content with remarkable honesty. She manages her hormones strategically, rarely fakes scenes, and believes genuine reactions matter to audiences. (Her husband films most of her work, creating what she calls the ideal partnership.) She shares what makes someone truly successful in this unconventional career path. With a swinger event planned for Kansas City in January and legal brothel tours at the Love Ranch scheduled for summer, Amanda's calendar stays packed. Her podcast "Crazy Truth About Swinging" focuses on educational content about navigating the lifestyle community, emphasizing that practices from a decade ago no longer apply today. She's received an ASN award nomination, viewing recognition itself as meaningful regardless of winning. Despite elaborate consent forms varying across platforms like XHamster, Faphouse, and OnlyFans, Amanda operates her studio to guide aspiring performers through entering the industry. She stresses that chemistry and personality compatibility matter more than follower count or reputation, everyone starts somewhere. **Listen to discover how Amanda balances multiple business ventures while maintaining authenticity in every performance.** Topics: From Camming to Building a Swinger Empire Discussing Favorite Music and Film Acting Body Image and Self-Consciousness Editing Your Own Content and Self-Perception Communication and Preferences in Adult Content Career Longevity and Collaboration in Adult Content Husband Films and Performs in Collaborations Navigating Consent Forms and Platform Requirements Giving People a Chance to Grow Choosing Practical Outfits for Filming Breathing, Sounds, and Multiple Orgasms Sexuality Changes Throughout Our Lives Key takeaways: • **Authenticity and genuine connection outperform polished production** – Success in adult content creation depends on real human interaction and honest communication rather than technical perfection or unrealistic portrayals. • **The swinging community is growing in awareness but faces persistent social stigma** – Despite increased visibility, participants still encounter significant judgment, making privacy and discretion critical considerations for those involved. • **Excitement and live audience engagement drive motivation more than fear or taboo** – Content creators in this space are primarily motivated by the thrill of real-time interaction and genuine connection with audiences, not by transgressive appeal alone. Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals: PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ All Ruan's links and books: ⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠ BeeDee app. Enter the code ohfuckyeah on the Whips ('superlikes') page to get 1 free Whip, use my affiliate link to check out this app at ⁠https://beedee.app/?r=ohfuckyeah⁠ The Fantasy Box, where you can try out a similar fantasy in a box, or find a theme you like! (affiliate link) ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2141126/26423⁠ ⁠https://thefantasybox.sjv.io/c/6250602/2152196/26423⁠
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Reclamation, Delicious Sex After a Work Trip

    Reclamation, Delicious Sex After a Work Trip
    Jan 27 2026

    Season 6, Episode 1, A Replay: The Coming Home Reclamation, Delicious Sex After Being Gone. An erotic story written and narrated by Ruan Willow. Kevin had been on a work trip, and Jenna was lusting heartily for his return. He'd shown his desire and excitement to return home to her, and his strong passion, by texting her steamy sexts during his travel. He had her on the verge of climaxing just by using his phone, but once he arrived, their foreplay skyrocketed into an intense fiery blaze, and they had the most delicious sex ever. Kevin had made plans to re-establish his leadership in the bedroom, much to Jenna's shock, surprise, and delight. The result was maximal gratification for them both, and a reaffirmation of their love. This is a later in life second marriage spicy romantic story.
    **Erotica / erotic romance fiction about relationships and sexuality that contains light Dom/sub elements of leadership and dominance/submission as well as playful, and flirty, fully consensual impact play.

    It's time to think about gifts for your lover for Valentine's Day!
    Ruan's Top Picks for Sex Toys for women: The Zumo (affiliate link, podcast may receive a commission on purchases, which support the podcast, thank you!) https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1558338&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack=
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    Ruan's latest books: Power Plays, Releasing February 1, 2026, Book 2 in the Mallory and Derek Attend Secret Parties Series Power Plays, Book 2

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    32 mins
  • Dean Robert Holmes on Creativity, Identity, and Queer Romance

    Dean Robert Holmes on Creativity, Identity, and Queer Romance
    Jan 23 2026

    Season 5, Episode 712:

    What happens when creativity becomes both escape and healing?

    Dean Robert Holmes, a transmasculine author from St. Paul, Minnesota, uses writing to manage schizoaffective disorder and explore identity through fiction. Since 2020, he's written over 350 fanfics and 2.5 million words (that's equivalent to five copies of Stephen King's "It") before publishing his collection "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust." Dean identifies as aegosexual, experiencing attraction only through third-person perspectives, and thrives in a relationship with his fiancée May through roleplay where he never portrays himself.

    In this conversation, Dean dives into his writing processes as a pantser who daydreams his way through stories. They discuss maladaptive daydreaming as a coping mechanism, the challenges of balancing creativity with social media, and how indie publishing has shattered traditional word count constraints (finally!). Both Dean and Ruan share experiences of losing mothers to suicide, which fuels an urgency in their writing careers.

    Dean's upcoming May release, "Treading Water," features a gender-fluid bi man and a plus-size woman with chronic pain navigating romance amid poverty and trauma. The book tackles serious themes while celebrating connection and joy, representation that's desperately needed in romance literature.

    Tune in to hear Dean read an excerpt from "Treading Water", his upcoming novel, and learn how writing serves as healing for both author and reader. Excerpt triggers: poverty, homelessness, explicit scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

    Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae. https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/ Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ

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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Treading Water Spicy and Caring Sex Scene Excerpt by Dean Robert Holmes

    Treading Water Spicy and Caring Sex Scene Excerpt by Dean Robert Holmes
    Jan 20 2026

    Season 5, Episode 711: Treading Water Spicy and Caring Sex Scene Excerpt written and narrated by Dean Robert Holmes.

    The characters are Susie and Westie. This is an excerpt from Dean Robert Holmes's upcoming book "Treading Water". Triggers with this excerpt include poverty, homelessness, explicit sex scene and language, chronic pain, body image issues, panic attacks, and mention of religion.

    Author Bio: Dean Robert Holmes (he/him) is an aegosexual, transmasculine author and artist who uses creativity to manage schizoaffective disorder. Like many alphabet porn purveyors, he got his start in the wonderful world of fan fiction. Through his saucy stories, he often explores psychological themes and the power of queer love. As someone who is autistic, fat, and disabled, he makes a point to represent those communities and possesses a strong belief in the healing potential of kink. After writing over 350 fan fics, including almost 200 requests and a feature on the celebrated podcast Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend, he recently self-published his first collection of short stories, "Unlocked: Seven Titillating Tales of Gay Trans Love and Lust," which is available at four bookstores throughout the Midwest. His debut novel, "Treading Water" will be released soon. Currently, he lives on stolen Dakota/Anishinaabe land, also known as St. Paul, MN, and enjoys spending time with his lovely partner, Mae. https://deanrobertholmes.com/ https://www.instagram.com/fandomtransmandom/ Dean Robert Holmes's Book: Unlocked (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LKtFxZ

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    14 mins
  • Breaking Sexual Shame: Women's Bodies, Pleasure, and Self-Discovery with Dr. Stacy Friedman

    Breaking Sexual Shame: Women's Bodies, Pleasure, and Self-Discovery with Dr. Stacy Friedman
    Jan 16 2026

    When was the last time you truly prioritized your own pleasure?

    For over two decades, Dr. Stacy Friedman has been helping women understand what many were never taught: basic knowledge about their own bodies. With 26 years in medical practice and 20 years specializing in sexuality, she's witnessed how inadequate sex education and cultural shame leave women disconnected from their anatomy (even something as fundamental as the body organ called the clitoris). The conversation reveals a surprising statistic, only a small percentage of women achieve orgasm through penetration alone, yet this misconception persists.

    Dr. Friedman shares her personal transformation from ignorance about her own anatomy to owning an extensive collection of high-quality sex toys, emphasizing that modern toys have become empowering tools rather than sources of shame. Fact: The clitoris contains over 10,400 nerve endings, double that of the penis, underscoring women's significant sexual potential when they explore without limitation.

    After experiencing painful sex for six years following childbirth, Dr. Friedman found her purpose: helping others redefine intimacy beyond traditional intercourse. She recently launched The Purple Passion Project podcast and previously authored "Confessions and Lessons of a Sexpert." Affiliate link to the book Paperback

    https://drstacyfriedman.com/

    Listen to discover how prioritizing pleasure can transform your relationship and break generational cycles of shame and lack of female pleasure with sex.

    Bio: Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified sex & intimacy coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project. With 26+ years in the medical field and 20+ years working in the sexuality field, Dr. Stacy helps people break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy—without shame. She works with all aspects of sexuality but specializes in mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, low libido, and the LGBTQ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel safe, real, and seriously empowering. Her motto: "My passion is to help you create yours." Because at the end of the day, you deserve connection that's honest, exciting, and hot as hell.

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    Key Takeaways:

    • **The clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings** – far more sensory receptors than commonly understood. Direct clitoral stimulation is essential for most women's pleasure rather than penetration alone.

    • **Most women don't orgasm through penetration alone** – challenging the widespread myth that vaginal intercourse is the primary or sufficient path to female orgasm, revealing a fundamental gap in sexual education and cultural bias.

    • **Sex toys are normalized tools for exploration, not replacements** – reframing vibrators and similar devices as legitimate aids for self-discovery and pleasure, equivalent to using any other tool, rather than signs of relationship inadequacy or dysfunction.
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    58 mins
  • Sex with the King Scene Excerpt from Rejecting Queendom, & Presenting Myself

    Sex with the King Scene Excerpt from Rejecting Queendom, & Presenting Myself
    Jan 13 2026

    Season 5, Episode 709: Excerpt from Rejecting Queendom, a spicy Romantasy now in ebook, paperback, and audiobook. Rejecting Queendom

    Book Blurb:

    A love too good. Power and intrigue can't fill a void in any heart but set it searching for something more.

    Gabriella and Nocter fell in love as most do, but the difference was theirs bloomed in the sea. Their world was surrounded by the magical realm of the ocean, so their hearts were easily lulled into pristine moments that promised to be shining collections of the most amazing golden memories. They couldn't get enough of each other, nor could they steal enough moments to be satiated.

    Nothing could separate them, nothing but what did. When things seemed too good to be true, the truth shattered their hunger for love and splintered it into a billion cells of heartache that not even the vastness of the sea could hold.
    Tropes & Triggers:

    - explicit language and spicy scenes
    - daring to love
    - their kingdom at risk
    - sudden royalty
    -kinky king
    - an impossible choice
    -shrinking woman
    -kidnapping
    -betrayal

    Rejecting Queendom is an HEA Open Door Romantasy, where the romance is first and foremost.

    Plus, bonus story replay Presenting Myself.

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    30 mins
  • From Challenge to Bestseller: Mallory Glass on Writing Sensual Fiction, Plus Spicy Romance Book Excerpt

    From Challenge to Bestseller: Mallory Glass on Writing Sensual Fiction, Plus Spicy Romance Book Excerpt
    Jan 9 2026

    Season 5, Episode 708: "Why are men so sexy in gray sweatpants?" she asked. (from the excerpt at the end of the episode from the book "Me + You" by Mallory Glass, coming soon! Narrated by Ruan Wilow.)

    What happens when an old friend's challenge sparks a secret writing career that garners thousands of views overnight? Mallory Glass found out!

    Twin Cities romance author Mallory Glass didn't expect her foray into sensual fiction to take off so quickly. After initially writing in secret, she published a 75,000-word story on Literotica that consistently earned ratings around 4.7 to 4.8 stars. Her debut novella "Stone Heart" and award-winning flash rom-com showcase her commitment to portraying positive communication and consent in romance, deliberately avoiding the tired miscommunication trope common in the genre, plus adding in humor.

    Beyond the page, Mallory shares her home with a surprisingly hostile New Zealand rabbit that roams freely while she works. (The rabbit's personality definitely keeps things interesting.) After medically retiring in 2015, she returned to writing as therapeutic practice, discovering an unexpected passion for revision and editing.

    Through her work and upcoming micro press Sloth and Envy, Mallory champions sex positivity and bodily autonomy, transforming once-taboo vocabulary into celebrations of consensual human experience. She believes authenticity and fun should coexist in storytelling, and her writing reflects exactly that philosophy.

    Listen to hear more about writing sensual fiction without shame.

    Mallory Glass enjoys creating worlds within worlds for her characters to explore. She writes for those who love to embrace a temporary escape from reality.

    When she's not engaged in vicarious angst over the antics of fictional characters, she digests too much media and suffers the antics of her hostile pet rabbit.

    Her debut novella, Stone Heart, was released March 2025 from Sloth & Envy Press. Mallory's flash rom-com recently won first place in Writing Battle's professionally judged Heart contest. In October 2025, her short story "Wade vs. Roe" was published in Dread Mondays, a workplace horror anthology from Whisper House Press.

    Mallory's college romance, Me + You, will be released in spring 2026.

    She live in the Twin Cities, MN.

    Find her on Bluesky as @mglaz.bsky.social or email mglass@slothandenvy.com

    Get Mallory's book Stone Heart (affiliate link) Stone Heart

    Coming soon to preorder Me + You (book this episode's excerpt is from)

    Stone and Flame in preorder Preorder Stone & Flame

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    1 hr and 20 mins