In this week’s episode of Letters from Midlife, Kiran reads a deeply familiar letter from a listener who’s found herself awake at 2 or 3 am most nights, exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why her once-reliable sleep has suddenly fallen apart.

If you’re in perimenopause and your nights feel broken, scattered, or unpredictable, this conversation will feel like sitting down with someone who truly understands. Kiran breaks down why midlife sleep changes are so common, what’s happening inside your hormones and nervous system, and why none of this means you’re failing or losing control.

Here’s the thing… this isn’t about sleep hygiene or willpower. It’s about working with a body that’s in transition.

I share gentle, practical shifts that can help you reclaim your nights; from regulating your nervous system before bed, to creating space to rest during the day, to planning for those inevitable 3 am wake-ups without spiralling. She also speaks honestly about her own experience of lying awake in the dark, and how compassion, pacing, and support (including HRT) changed everything.

You’ll walk away with grounded tools, a calming perspective, and a journaling prompt to help you tune back into what your body’s been trying to say.

If your sleep has felt unpredictable lately, this episode will meet you right where you are and remind you that you’re not broken, you’re recalibrating.

Listen in, breathe a little deeper, and take what you need.

If you’d like the full written reflection, journaling prompts, and deeper guidance, you can read the full article inside Substack.

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In this episode of Letters from Midlife, I answer a tender question from a listener who writes, “Some days I feel calm, and other days I feel like I’m coming undone. Am I losing myself? Will I ever feel steady again?”

Together, we explore the emotional turbulence of perimenopause, the mood shifts, tears that appear out of nowhere, the foggy moments, the overwhelm, and the deep confusion about who you are becoming. This conversation unpacks what’s really happening inside the menopause brain, why emotions feel louder, and why you’re not breaking down, you’re recalibrating.

I share gentle, grounded ways to find steadiness again: slowing your inner pace, nourishing your foundations, creating emotional buffers, and remembering that waves don’t define you, they simply move through you.

If your feelings have felt too big lately, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone, and you’re not losing yourself. You’re unfolding into a wiser, more grounded chapter of who you’re becoming.

If you’d like the full written reflection, journaling prompts, and deeper guidance, you can read the full article inside The Midlife Circle on Substack.

In this episode of Midlife by Design, I open the door on a season of letting go, of chasing, performing, and trying to keep up, and stepping gently into ease. After years of doing more, striving harder, I’m learning that my next chapter doesn’t call for more hustle, but more softness.

I talk about perimenopause, midlife shifts, and how sometimes the greatest act of courage is to slow down, trust your rhythm, and allow your work and life to grow in harmony with who you are becoming. It’s not about grand leaps or dramatic reinventions. It’s about refining, listening, and aligning with ease.

If you’ve felt the pull away from old expectations and the longing for gentler living, this episode is for you. It’s your reminder that endings don’t always scar; sometimes, they open the way for your gentlest, most honest becoming yet.

For reflections, rituals, and resources to support your becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com and explore the Digital Library, or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.

In this episode of Letters from Midlife, I respond to a tender letter from a listener who writes, “I feel like I’ve outgrown my life, but I’m scared to change it.” It’s a feeling so many women in midlife quietly carry, that sense of being pulled toward something new while still standing in the familiar.

We explore what it means to sit in the in-between, when your old life still works on paper but no longer feels alive, and how to begin again without burning everything down. I share gentle, grounded ways to move through fear, reclaim clarity, and take small steps toward a life that feels more aligned, spacious and true.

If you’ve been feeling the whisper of change but don’t know where to start, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are, with softness, honesty, and practical guidance.

For reflections, rituals, and resources to support your becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com and explore the Digital Library, or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.

In this episode of Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter, I speak to the quiet grief and gentle grace of realising that the woman we imagined we’d be, disciplined, early rising, ever-consistent, isn’t always the woman midlife asks us to be.

Perimenopause changes the rhythm. Energy shifts. Sleep becomes unpredictable. The morning routines we once clung to don’t always fit anymore. And instead of forcing ourselves to perform, to perfect, to keep up, this season invites us to soften.

This is a conversation about letting go of the idealised version of ourselves we’ve been measuring against, and learning instead to listen to our bodies, our needs, our natural pace. It’s about trading perfection for presence, routine for rhythm, and doing for being.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re “failing” at consistency, this episode is your reminder that nothing is wrong with you. You are not behind. You are not losing yourself. You are learning to live from the inside out.

For reflections, rituals, and resources to support your becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com and explore the Digital Library, or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.

In this episode of Letters from Midlife, I respond to a letter from a listener who writes, “Lately, I feel lonely, even though I’m not alone. I have people around me, but I feel unseen.”

It’s one of the quiet heartbreaks of midlife, realising that even a life you’ve lovingly built can start to feel a little empty when you’ve outgrown the connections within it. Together, we explore the difference between being surrounded and being seen, and what it means to rebuild authentic connection in this new chapter.

I share gentle reflections and grounded ways to begin again, from creating connection rituals and reaching out bravely, to nurturing the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself. Because loneliness isn’t a failure; it’s feedback from your soul, asking for deeper resonance.

For reflections, resources, and rituals to support your own becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.

In this episode of Tea with Self, I talk about the quiet link between our inner world and our outer space. Sometimes it’s not the room that feels messy, it’s us. I share a simple moment in my living room that became a deeper realisation: the piles of “I’ll sort this later,” the browser tabs, the unread messages… they weren’t just clutter, they were signs that I’d been carrying too much. And how, when I slow down, clear a surface, light a candle, make the bed with intention, something in me settles too.

This is an invitation to tend to yourself like you tend to your home. To open a window, soften a corner, set a boundary, choose gentleness over judgement, not as a performance of “self-care,” but as a way of saying: I belong here. You don’t have to escape your life to start over. You can come home to yourself, right where you are, one small act of care at a time.

For more slow rituals, gentle reminders, and reflections on becoming, visit Kiransinghuk.com and explore my Digital Library, or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.

In this episode of Letters from Midlife, I respond to a heartfelt letter from a woman who writes, “I’m exhausted, not just tired, but bone-deep weary. I know I need to slow down, but I don’t know how.”

Together, we explore what it really means to rest, not as a luxury or reward, but as a practice of remembering your own rhythm. I share reflections on releasing guilt, redefining what rest looks like, and learning to listen when your body and spirit whisper, “enough.”

Don't forget to download your copy of 'The Gentle Rest Workbook' and let this be your gentle reminder that rest isn’t earned, it’s remembered.

If you’ve spent years holding everything together, this episode is your reminder that slowing down isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s an act of wisdom. You don’t need to earn your rest; you only need to allow it.

For reflections, resources, and rituals for your own rhythm of rest, visit Kiransinghuk.com, or join me on Substack at Midlife by Design: Curating Your Next Chapter.