0:00 – Welcome Back & A Quick Recap
Josh and Ali dive right in with the backstory behind their whirlwind love story—five days dating, seven weeks to marriage, sixteen years and four kids later.

1:35 – Why Making Time to Connect Matters
The heart of this episode: why weekly connection (even in short bursts) can radically shift the tone of your marriage.

3:10 – Shared Activities, Even If It’s Not Your Thing
Josh talks about finally saying yes to Ali’s workouts—and the surprising joy of trying something new (even when you don’t love it).

5:45 – Morning Gym Dates & Small Changes That Matter
They share how even 15 minutes together in the morning has created intimacy and consistency during a busy season.

7:08 – Boundaries, Kids, and Mandatory Date Nights
No phones, no kids, no finances. Just undistracted time with each other. The simple rule that saved their connection.

9:45 – Real Talk: Where This All Started
Ali shares the bold moment a friend called her out and told her she’d be divorced if not for Joshua—and how public date nights started that very week.

11:20 – Don’t Wait for a Crisis to Create a Rhythm
How they’ve built sustainable rhythms that bless their marriage (and their parenting)—and why boundaries are the blessing.

13:50 – Set the Standard for Your Kids
Your kids are watching. Ali and Josh share how their littlest, Jake, responds to their date nights—and how it models love, consistency, and joy.

15:15 – Call to Action: Start Now
Pick a day. Set it. Stick to it. Even six weeks of consistency will transform the way you love, listen, and show up for each other.

17:00 – Final Encouragement & Outro
Why this one simple strategy can change everything—and how to invite God into your rhythms and relationship.

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00:00 – Welcome Back!
Ali & Joshua dive into the real-life tension of marriage communication—especially when one spouse is ready to sleep, and the other is ready to talk 🫠

01:20 – When Is the Right Time to Talk?
Why timing matters when discussing big topics like finances, parenting, and expectations—and the communication mistake they stopped making.

03:00 – Date Nights Are Not Strategy Meetings
Why your marriage needs protected time for connection—not confrontation.

04:15 – How Miscommunication Builds Resentment
Ali & Joshua get honest about how lack of clarity and emotional overload creates unnecessary conflict in marriage.

06:05 – The Bottler vs. The Talker
Joshua shares how he used to internalize everything—while Ali was rapid-fire ready. Why understanding each other’s processing styles is key.

08:40 – Knowing Each Other’s Strengths & Weaknesses
Ali explains how their opposite personalities—her fast pace, his slow-and-steady discernment—have become a strength (once they learned how to honor each other’s rhythms).

10:30 – Divine Order in Decision-Making
Why submitting major decisions to God—and each other—creates peace in the home. Ali shares what changed when she stopped pushing ahead without Joshua’s covering.

13:00 – The Shift That Saved Their Communication (and Finances)
Ali opens up about losing her first business and how giving Joshua financial leadership helped bring restoration, clarity, and unity.

15:30 – Servanthood vs. Selfishness
A biblical lens on communication: laying down your life, not proving your point.

17:20 – Walk it Out (Literally)
Joshua shares his go-to strategy for emotional regulation before tough conversations: walking, praying, and reframing.

18:40 – Out-Serve Each Other
The simple marriage principle from their premarital counseling that still shapes their communication today.

20:15 – Letting Go of Stubbornness
Ali shares how surrender, patience, and Spirit-led restraint softened her strong personality and strengthened their unity.

22:00 – Let’s Talk About Sex (Yes, Really)
Why open communication around sexual needs matters—and how couples can avoid disconnect, temptation, and unmet expectations.

24:00 – Don’t Go to Bed Angry
The rule they live by, rooted in Scripture: resolve conflict before sleep and never let little wedges build into big gaps.

25:30 – Final Word: Soft Answers & Celebrating Growth
A closing encouragement to give grace, celebrate progress, and commit to growing in communication—together.

00:00 – Welcome to Marriage Made in Heaven
Ali & Joshua kick off the podcast with laughter, awkward confessions, and the real reason they’re doing this show together.

01:22 – “Smoking Hot Spitzbergen” Enters the Chat
Meet Joshua (aka Smoking Hot) and hear how this preacher’s kid was raised in a Spirit-filled church—and why that shaped his whole life.

03:58 – Ali’s Wild Encounter with the Word
Ali shares her totally different upbringing and the radical way she encountered God in college (hint: it involved a chaplain, volleyball, and some very real questions).

07:18 – When Chicago Bears Met Sunday Service
Their first meeting, the jersey moment, and what made Joshua keep watching Ali from afar (for a year!).

09:50 – A Life-Changing Loss & A Faith Awakening
Ali recalls the moment everything changed: a tragic loss, a summer with Athletes in Action, and finding her hunger for God’s Word.

13:40 – Switzerland, Snowboarding & Supernatural Provision
From NYC to the Alps, Ali reflects on the doors God opened—including a random job she had zero credentials for.

15:18 – Surf, Church, and That One Bold Paddle Out
Joshua finally makes his move in the ocean—and the real conversations begin.

17:00 – Snowboarding Wipeout & Their “Pre-Relationship” Bond
Ali injures her ankle, rebroke it in PT, and still went snowboarding the next day. Joshua knew: this girl was built different.

19:22 – The Cliff, the Ring, and a Five-Day Dating Story
Crutches, cliffs, and a promise ring kick off their whirlwind romance—and then… a text message breakup?!

21:00 – Fast Regret & the Motorcycle Helmet Apology
Joshua has second thoughts and shows up in the most Joshua way ever: helmet, flowers, and Twizzlers in hand.

22:35 – Dreams, Discerning Marriage & God’s Confirmation
Ali shares the prophetic dreams and signs that confirmed Joshua was her husband—even after the “cold feet” moment.

24:10 – The Engagement That Came with a Side of Tight Pants
How the engagement actually went down, what her phone blew up with, and how the restaurant bill almost tanked it all.

26:42 – The Wedding, The Timeline & Why They Chose July 4th
Spoiler: It was fast—but God was all over it. Hear how faith, family, and fireworks became part of their love story.

28:05 – What We Want This Podcast to Be
Ali & Joshua share their heart for this show—real marriage talk, biblical truth, and the belief that your marriage can be made in Heaven.