It was 2019 when I realized something had to change.

I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life—
except one: intimate relationships.

Every relationship ended up in a mess,
and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster.

Then I discovered the concept of enmeshment—and everything clicked.
It was the root of the trauma bond, the codependency,
and the endless push-pull that kept me stuck in toxic cycles.

I was shocked.
Here I was—smart, successful—
yet always falling into this same, self-destructive dance.
Highs that started strong and fizzled out,
leading to me becoming the "bad guy" in someone else's story.

That last relationship?

It was my wake-up call.
I was committed to NEVER repeating that again.
So I dug deep, and I uncovered 3 hidden forces that kept me stuck in these patterns.

Now I’m married and there’s ZERO drama.

What were the blind spots I had to uncover to get there?

I share them in my latest Manxiety Podcast episode.

If you relate to #3, there’s good news—
you CAN break free if you’re willing to practice the skill I discuss.

If you want:

• Deep connection without falling into the same toxic cycles,
• To break the generational patterns of struggle in relationships,
• To be in control of your moods,
• And to honor your boundaries, rather than bulldozing over red flags…

It starts with understanding and healing these 3 forces.

If you’re ready to get uncomfortable and do something radically different,
this episode is for you. It’s about owning your freedom and creating the safety you deserve.

You’ve got this.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

P.S. If you’ve tried therapy, read the books,
done the work, have achieved success in your career,
but keep falling into the same anxious avoidant dance,
maybe it’s time to get to the root.

I’m offering a limited number of Trigger-Proof Blind Spot sessions
to help you uncover how enmeshment may still be running your relationships.
If you’re ready to take a real deep look in the mirror, and receive honest feedback
that’s intended to uncover what you may not be able to see,
and you’re humble enough to want to grow and committed to do the work,
hit reply with your back story and what work you’ve done,
how it’s impacting your career, and end it with:

"Nima, I’m ready to break free. Send me your private calendar link.”

If you’re good at following instructions, and I can spot a potential snag,
and I think I can help you, I’ll send you my link and we can talk.
No obligation.

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Listen to the full podcast transmission using THIS link

When you’re reading about relationships
and secure attachments, avoidants get thrown under the bus.

As I unpacked my last relationship which was definitely a Trauma Bond,
I had to take ownership of my avoidance behaviors and find the root cause.

I didn’t want to go through the painful push-pull dynamic again.

I wanted to trust myself.

I wanted to trust love.

Even though I was successful at work,
I desperately craved the feeling of love that felt secure.

I didn’t want to die NOT having experienced safe and secure love.

Now, in teaching the people in my cyclebreakers community how to go
from insecure to secure attachments by learning high level skills in relating,
I noticed how much resentment those with anxious attachment carry
towards their avoidant partners.

So I decided to hit the record button to help those with anxious attachment
better understand their avoidant partners.

In this episode I reveal the MAIN THING that avoidants are trying to avoid.

When you understand this— you feel less victimized and resentful.
Your frustration turns to compassion— and from there,
you have much better options than to push them away with more neediness.

This episode is to help those who identify as avoidants
(or those who partner with avoidants) to upgrade your understanding
of what’s really going on— so that you can make the shift towards
emotional healing and creating the most important experience as a human being:

Love that feels fulfilling and connected.

A home that feels like a sanctuary.

Safety in your Nervous System.

This is for you if you want to shift your avoidance behaviors,
or to make it safer for your avoidant partner to turn TOWARDS you
when they are taking space.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

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P.S. Comment and Let me know if this episode resonated with you. I’m listening.
If this resonates with you—whether you identify with avoidant behaviors
or you’re struggling with an avoidant partner—
let’s uncover the blind spots together.
If you’ve tried therapy, read all the books
or feel you’ve done all the personal development and still feel stuck,
share your story with me. Let me know what you’ve tried and where you think you're getting blocked.
If you're ready to finally see your blind spots and break free, ask for my calendar link for a 30 minute
blind spot chat that has no obligation.
I love taking the time to listen to genuine seekers who are open to hearing the truth—
even if it’s painful.
Let’s make this the turning point in your journey to secure love.