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Loving Yourself Through Gender Dysphoria with Tommy Colby McCray

Loving Yourself Through Gender Dysphoria with Tommy Colby McCray

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In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I get the chance to sit down with someone who is just starting out on their gender journey, Tommy Colby McCray. Tommy is a serial writer and uses writing as a therapeutic outlet for stabilizing their mental health. They share their journey of self-discovery, navigating gender dysphoria, and the complexities of choosing a name that resonates with their identity. We also discuss family dynamics, personal loss, and the impact of these experiences on mental health.

Please note: Tommy changed his name after this recording.


We talk:

10:01 Navigating gender identity and name selection

19:58 Family dynamics and personal loss

29:51 Creative aspirations and Tommy’s writing process

40:06 Finding community and support

50:53 Reflections on loss and regret


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Read more about Tommy in his bio below:

I am just learning myself as not only a serial tv writer but as a person who's just been diagnosed with gender dysphoria

  • Twitter @xander_gabriel7
  • IG: @theoshilohmccray
  • Email: gabriellemccray91@gmail.com


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