Welcome to this conversation with Janet McGeever, co-author of Tantric Sex and Menopause, a teacher of The Making Love, creator of Womantime and Psychotherapist.

Having experienced a challenging journey around sex and menopause in her 40's, her discovery of Diana Richardson's approach to sexuality flipped her despair to inspiration and hope. She began writing about sex and menopause in 2009 after experiencing The Making Love Retreat with Diana Richardson, which culminated in co-authoring with Diana in 2015. This began a journey of introspection and research to unearth these two taboo topics and it has become her mission to dispel the myths about menopausal women.

Janet shares what she learnt her body needed at menopause and how that differed from earlier years, why goal focused sex doesn’t work for many women especially at peri menopause and menopause, how to make love in relaxation (whether with a partner or own your own), how the breasts can activate sexual energy and how to awaken subtle awareness in the breasts, why it’s good to not focus on lack of desire (and what to focus on instead!), why is it so important for men to understand the affect menopause can have on the women in their lives, what men need to know about menopause and sex, how the conscious sex approach can help women with a range of issues and changes in their bodies such as pain during sex and reduced lubrication and why Kegel exercises are not the solution to prolapse and more!

Janet shares:

• How Janet came to write a book about tantric sex and menopause with Diana Richardson
• What Janet learnt that her body needed at menopause and how that differed from earlier years
• The role of hormones in your health and wellbeing
• The importance of oxytocin
• Why goal focused sex doesn’t work for many women especially at peri menopause and menopause
• How to make love in relaxation (whether with a partner or own your own) and how that differs from how we learn to ‘do’ sex
• The importance of transitions from our busy lives to presence and making love
• How the breasts can activate sexual energy and how to awaken subtle awareness in the breasts
• Why it’s good to not focus on lack of desire, and what to focus on instead
• Why is it so important for men to understand the affect menopause can have on the women in their lives
• What men need to know about menopause and sex
• Why changes in sex at menopause is an opportunity for both partners to step beyond sexual conditioning and experiment with different and deeper ways to create pleasure - its not just about the female partner who wants changes
• How the conscious sex approach can help women with a range of issues and changes in their bodies from lack of desire, pain during sex, reduced lubrication and the thinning of their vaginal walls
• Healing from prolapse and why Kegel exercises are not the solution

Janet is co-author of Tantric Sex and Menopause, has taught The Making Love Retreat in Australia since 2012, and is creator of Womantime, Ancient Wisdom for the Modern Day Woman. As a Psychotherapist, she has supported couples for over 20 years in private practice to connect more deeply in their intimate relationships. Having experienced a challenging journey around sex and menopause in her 40's, her discovery of Diana Richardson's approach to sexuality flipped her despair to inspiration and hope. She began writing about sex and menopause in 2009 after experiencing The Making Love Retreat with Diana Richardson, which culminated in co-authoring with Diana in 2015. This began a journey of introspection and research to unearth these two taboo topics. Her mission became to dispel the myth of the menopausal woman - that she is not broken, that this is not the end. In fact it is potentially the beginning of the most sensual time of a woman's...

I’m very happy to share this conversation with Jade Lotus of the Art of the Bedchamber. I love the Taoist sexual arts. I have studied and explored these deeply and continue to do so, so it was a real pleasure to chat with Jade about this. I feel we have only just got started! Jade shares why there is a big lack of understanding about sex and sexual energy and how this affects people, the Taoist approach to sexuality, the power of sexual energy for healing, what the arts of the bed chamber are, how sexual energy is an amplifier, how your emotions affect sex, what sexual reflexology is, how to practice Taoist arts safely, the difference between healthy and unhealthy polarity teachings, the benefits of both shallow and deep penetration and more! Did you know the vagina has a suck reflex that you can activate? Listen to find out more.

Jade shares:

• Why there is a big lack of understanding about sex and sexual energy and how this affects people
• The Taoist approach to sexuality
• Her definition of sexual energy and how it can be platonic
• How Taoists harvest their hormones
• The power of sexual energy for healing and getting to know more of who you are
• What the arts of the bed chamber are
• How sexual energy is an amplifier
• How you learn to repress your feelings and emotions
• How your emotions effect sex
• What sexual reflexology is
• The suck reflex of the vagina
• The Taoist inner smile practice - an opportunity to join Jade in the practice
• How to practice Taoist arts safely
• The difference between healthy and unhealthy polarity teachings
• The benefits of both shallow and deep penetration
• Why sexual arousal takes time

Jade Lotus is a Tantra Educator And Teacher Of The Taoist Sexual Arts. Her job and passion is to help people to come into their sexual power. She has worked with thousands of men, women and couples to help them to overcome their blockages to sexual fulfulment. She is a certified Tantric Therapist and an Instructor of the Universal Healing Tao. She also has a degree in Chinese Medicine as well as having studied many modalities of bodywork and massage.

RESOURCES FROM JADE

Website https://theartofthebedchamber.com

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/lotusfloweralchemy

Twitter https://twitter.com/TBedchamber

Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvswAOH1u39DdflAYk2NfqQ

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theartofthebedchamber/

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I wanted to include burnout as it’s such an important topic that affects so many.

Clients contact me wondering why they don't desire sex and when I hear how stressed and exhausted they are, no wonder they don't feel like sex!

I loved this conversation with Jolinda who specialises in burnout and perimenopause though this conversation is relevant to all ages. Jolinda shares her definition of burnout and how it differs from the mainstream definition, how to spot the early warning signs of burnout, the 4 stages of burnout and some practical advice on burnout recovery. We also talk about how burnout affects sex, burnout at peri menopause and Jolinda’s take on menopause. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

Jolinda shares:

• The shadow of the wellness industry
• Why it’s important to advocate for your own health and wellness
• The 4 stages of burnout
• What dysregulated cortisol is
• Jolinda’s definition of burnout and how it differs to the World Health Organisation definition
• How burnout affects sex and desire
• The societal messages and structures that contribute to burnout
• How you can burnout doing the things you love
• How to start burnout recovery
• Exercise and burnout recovery
• The early warning signs of burnout
• The importance of boundaries and self compassion
• The gifts of midlife

Jolinda Johnson (M.S.Ed., CHHC) is an award-winning Certified Life Coach and Holistic Health Coach who specializes in burnout and perimenopause. She's obsessed with helping changemakers and revolutionaries get back their spark so they can go set the world on fire. She wants to change the narrative around perimenopause and give attention to the voices that are typically left out of the conversation, including BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and people under 45.

She is a sought after guest on podcasts, has been featured on the cover of Inspired Coach magazine, and was the recipient of the Beautiful You Coaching Academy CEO Shine Award in 2021. She’s also taken to the stage as a motivational speaker for other life coaches and can be found on the popular website Healthline.

RESOURCES FROM JOLINDA

Website www.jolindajohnson.com

Instagram www.instagram.com/coachjolinda

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Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self study course for women

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Today I’m excited to share my conversation with friend and colleague, Kate Lambert. Kate shares the story of how her relationship transformed from rock bottom to deep intimacy and a number of keys that have helped her and her partner along the way. Whether you are looking to revitalise your connection, you’re curious to learn new ways to deepen your connection or you wonder what healthy relating looks like, there are treasures here for you. Enjoy!

Kate shares:

• Her personal story of how her long term relationship transformed
• What anxious and avoidant attachment styles are
• What minimisers and maximisers are in relationship
• What Imago Therapy is
• The importance of safety in relationship
• What makes a healthy relationship
• The value of appreciating your partner
• Simple practices to connect with your partner
• Creating a vision for your relationship
• Rituals for relationship

Kate is a love, sex and relationship coach trained with The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality. She is also an imago couples facilitator helping relationships to regain love, intimacy and connection.

She is female empowerer and women’s sexual liberation expert working to sexually empower women everywhere helping them to reconnect to their sexuality and pleasure and reclaim their inner power source aka their own sexual energy energy!!

RESOURCES FROM KATE

Find Kate online

insta: @sistercircletemple

FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sistercircleinnertemple

Free 30 min discovery call with Kate.

https://kate-lambert-love-sex-relationships.mykajabi.com/union

RESOURCES FROM SARAH

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Ignite Your Sexuality, a 10 module self study course for women

https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/an-online-course-for-women/

Find Sarah online

Website www.sarahrosebright.com

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosebright/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sarahrosebrightsexcoach

Youtube http://youtube.com/c/sarahrosebright

Spotify for some playlists https://open.spotify.com/user/dog9xui4wwpjatvbnpb2t7l3y?si=jnc_V6wxSCqaqr3UhNgD6Q

ABOUT YOUR HOST

Your podcast host, Sarah Rose Bright is a Sex & Intimacy coach and the creator of Intimate Sexuality. Sarah is on a mission to help women and couples to love and celebrate their sexuality, create healthy and happy...

So happy to share this episode with Tobin Zivon. Tobin is the first guest to return to the podcast for a rich conversation exploring tantric sex and living a tantric life. Tobin shares his definition of tantra, what tantric sex is and some ways to explore tantra, tantra as a way of living and how to be with the difficult stuff in life, his views on polarity, how to invite a partner on a tantric journey with you and more.

Tobin shares:

• His definition of tantra
• Tantra as a way of living
• What tantric sex is and some ways to explore tantra
• The importance of presence
• Tantra as a way of living
• How to be with the difficult stuff in life
• His views on polarity
• How to invite a partner on a tantric journey with you

Tobin Zivon has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential for over 30 years. Author of books “The Art of Mindful Living” and the forthcoming “Allies in Awakening: Living the Truth of Unconditional Love in Intimate Relationships,” he has been described as “The Ultimate Guide… A rare, exquisite blend of Therapist, Coach, Spiritual Teacher and Tantra Master all wrapped into one.”

He has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to help them break through stuck patterns and painful dynamics, helping them to find their way into a more fulfilling and connected life of authentic liberation, love and relationship satisfaction.

RESOURCES FROM TOBIN

On Tobin’s website you can download a free e-book, Emotional Alchemy and find details about his private work and online courses:

https://tobinzivon.com

Find Tobin on Facebook and message him to join his group, The Art of Awakened Relationship

https://www.facebook.com/tobin.giblin

RESOURCES FROM SARAH

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Find Sarah online

Website

Instagram

Facebook

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ABOUT YOUR HOST

Your podcast host is Sarah Rose Bright. Sarah is an Intimacy and Sex Coach who helps women & couples to truly enjoy sex and pleasure and create/deepen intimate relationships that are passionate, happy and healthy so that they can feel good about who they are.

Excited to share this episode with my partner and co-teacher, Graeme Waterfield. We love chatting about intimacy, sex and pleasure and have conversations like this all the time. We share some of the common themes that we experience in our work and also explore what is possible when you shift your attention from goal based sex to presence and pleasure.

We explore:

• What is possible beyond the goal based pleasure that most people learn.
• How most people learn to ‘do’ sex and the limitations of that
• Why mainstream sex advice is misguided
• What is possible when we drop inside and meet each other from that place
• The role of the nervous system in connection and arousal
• We are now bringing our decades of experience and our 5 years exploring and growing together to our couples programme, INTIMACY which starts September 2023. At the end of the conversation we share about INTIMACY with a special offer for those listening to this episode!

You can read all about INTIMACY here. https://www.sarahrosebright.co.uk/intimacy/

After reading the info, if you have any additional questions or you would like to book a 30 minute call with Graeme and I to see if INTIMACY is right for you both, please message me.

About Graeme

With 20 years of experience as a teacher and coach and having been on his own 30 year journey, Graeme Waterfield has come to see what helps people evolve and heal physically, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually.

Being a qualified Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gung & Meditation teacher with a background in counselling, Graeme offers completely unique packages of somatic, psychological and energetic tools to help you transform yourself and your life to become everything you want to be.

He has come to see that we all have a unique set of skills, our own unique soul expression or purpose. Once we can awaken and identify this, we can turn our life into a masterpiece. Graeme noticed that people often don’t maximise their potential as human beings because they haven’t yet learnt to harness their mental, emotional and spiritual power.

This is how he can help support you in your own growth. Showing you how to access your highest, most profound levels of thought and being. To help you break free of self-imposed limitation and create your own unique experience of heaven on earth in your relationships, work and life.

‘Actualise yourself,’ was Steve Jobs’ final instruction to all who attended his Stamford memorial service. ‘Self-actualisation’ is the name western psychology gives to personal enlightenment. It states that if we don’t become everything we are capable of being, we will feel like a failure and live an unfulfilled life.

As your trainer, Graeme will guide you into this self-actualisation and show you how to meet your greatest potential as a human being. Using ancient technologies and modern psychological approaches to awaken your inner potential, supporting you in finding the power to overcome adversity and maximise all areas of your life.

RESOURCES FROM GRAEME

https://www.facebook.com/graeme.waterfield

https://www.graemewaterfield.com

RESOURCES FROM SARAH

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Kimberly Ann Johnson is a Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, yoga teacher, postpartum advocate, and single mom. She is also the author of the Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It for Good, as well as the early mothering classic The Fourth Trimester, and is the host of the Sex Birth Trauma podcast.

I invited Kimberly to talk about sex that changes the world as she did an interview with this title which I loved so much as I really do believe sex has the power to change the world for good.

In this compelling and thought provoking conversation, Kimberly shares her thoughts and wisdom on how to reimagine sex with its potential to change the world, the feminine, motherhood, power, sex and relationships in current times and more. Kimberly shares not just her experience as a practitioner, she brings in her personal perspective as a woman and a mum of a teenager daughter. I’d love to hear what stirs inside you from this conversation.

Kimberly shares:

• Why it is important to start where you are
• The ingredients of sex that changes the world
• The importance of connection to your pleasure hormones
• How less sex and less commitment can be survival features
• The impact of the last few years on sex and relationships and how she sees the state of sex and relationships in current times
• How crying during sex can be therapeutic
• The different between the sex you see on the movies and sex which activates the oxytocin circuitry
• The difference between the male and female arousal trajectories
• Why the clitoris is not just for pleasure
• Understanding the feminine and masculine through the lens of Chinese medicine
• What it means to ‘centre’ the feminine
• Her definition of sexual energy
• Motherhood as a threshold for changing how you want to experience sex and how she connected with her sexuality after becoming a mum
• How the language of consent is taking us further away from sex that changes the world
• How sexual desires are not always politically correct
• The landscape of sex and relationships for young people today and how to support the young people in your life
• The impact of the current overculture on men
• Her definition of power
• Thoughts on dating

Kimberly Ann Johnson is a Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, yoga teacher, postpartum advocate, and single mom. Working hands-on in integrative women’s health and trauma recovery for more than a decade, she helps women heal from birth injuries, gynecological surgeries, and sexual boundary violations. Kimberly is the author of the Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It for Good, as well as the early mothering classic The Fourth Trimester, and is the host of the Sex Birth Trauma podcast.

RESOURCES FROM KIMBERLY

Website: https://kimberlyannjohnson.com

https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/mothercircle-facilitator-training/

https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/events/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberly.ann.johnson/

RESOURCES FROM SARAH

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Today I’m delighted to share this conversation with Tamu Thomas. Tamu helps ‘over-functioning, overworking, high achievers to prioritise their own well-being and life satisfaction alongside success and achievement’. She is on a mission to help women ‘enhance how they live, love and work by recovering from their addiction to toxic productivity’.

You might be wondering what this has to do with love, sex and intimacy. A lot!! Your work can have a huge impact on how you experience sex and intimacy. I see this all the time with the women I work with who are often overworking, stressed and exhausted.

As Tamu helps women to have a different relationship with work she also supports them to have a better quality of life through areas like self care, pleasure, rest which we dive into.

In this rich conversation, Tamu shares about what she calls ‘grounded self care’ and how that is good for society, the problems with ‘spiritual capitalism’ and ‘spiritual bypassing’, how pleasure can be challenging for women, how dominant powers in society can affect your ability to experience pleasure, her vision for revolutionising how we work, the impact of work on sex and intimacy, her quest to be a well rested woman and much more.

Tamu shares:

• Her journey from burnout, panic attacks and depression to today
• Her definition of grounded self care
• How self care leads to social and environmental care
• How discipline can be a protective pattern
• The problems with ‘spiritual capitalism’ and ‘spiritual bypassing’
• The difference between the ‘wounded inner child’ to the ‘healthy adult self’
• Why people can find joy, bliss and pleasure unfamiliar emotions
• How women can constrict their pleasure
• The pleasure / power axis and how dominant powers in society can affect your ability to experience pleasure
• Her quest to be a well rested woman
• A practice to connect with how it feels like to be you
• The importance of feeling safe in your body
• How being in a survival state affects pleasure
• Her vision for revolutionising how we work
• How the systems we grow up in shape our identity around work and who you are
• Why many people do not feel safe in their workplace
• The value of getting clear on the type of life you want and crafting your work around that so you live to work rather than work to live
• The impact of work on sex and intimacy

Tamu Thomas helps over-functioning, overworking, high achievers fall in love with themselves so they can make powerful choices about how they live, love and work.

Tamu’s integrated approach is practical and relatable. She's person-centred, evidence-based and trauma-informed. Tamu’s holistic approach to supporting the bodies, minds and experience of her clients makes her work nurturing, deep and unique – just like her.

Tamu’s work is informed by her background of sixteen years in social work, somatic coach training, her love of behavioural neuroscience and polyvagal theory, positive psychology, spirituality and joy. Tamu combines these modalities to create a multifaceted body of work.

Tamu supports her clients and workshop attendees understand themselves as valuable and worthy of caring for themselves. This enables them to prioritise their own well-being and life satisfaction alongside success and achievement.

Her mission is to help women enhance how they live, love and work by recovering from their addiction to toxic productivity.

RESOURCES FROM TAMU

https://www.livethreesixty.com/