Sometimes the best place for a relationship check-in isn’t over coffee or at the kitchen table—it’s in the car, somewhere between snack stops and scenic views. 🚗✨

We’re continuing our summer road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritimes, and along the way we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations.

In this episode, we share two different versions of relationship check-ins you can try, including the RAADAR Method—originally from the Multiamory Podcast but with our own extra “A”. RAADAR stands for Review, Agenda, Affirm & Connect (our add-on), Discussion, Actions, and Reconnect - a practice we teach to our clients and in our Poly Newbies Digital Course - which helps keep these reviews structured, connected, and productive.

We also share a few easy starter questions you can use for your next road trip check-in, and we get personal by answering them ourselves:

• How are you feeling in the relationship right now?

• Any wins or highlights lately?

• Anything you’re struggling with or that needs more attention?

• Anything you’re excited about coming up?

🎧 Heads up: This episode was recorded on the road, so you’ll hear a bit of “road trip ambiance” in the background—consider it part of the experience!

💬 We’d love to hear your ideas!

• What questions do you love asking during check-ins?

• What topics are harder to discuss during check-insHave you tried the RAADAR Method?
• Got a road trip story that brought you closer to your partner(s)?

Join the conversation in the episode comments or in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group.

Show Resources:

• Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group: 🔗 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory⁠
• Curious about working with us through coaching or therapy? Sign up for a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠

• You can also explore other ways to work with us as well as access other great resources at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠
• Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast

It’s summertime in 🇨🇦Canada, and we’re on a road trip adventure! Following the gorgeous Route 132 along the St. Lawrence in Gaspésie, Quebec, and winding our way into the Maritimes, we’re discovering more of this big, beautiful country… and, as we do we end up having plenty of short, topical chats from the car. Or as we like to call them—Carversations which we've decide to share with you!

Our first Carversation? Travelling While Polyamorous or Openly Non-Monogamous!

In this episode, we dive into:🚗 Choosing destinations that fit your vibe💖 Finding community wherever you roam

🌈LGBTQIA+ travel⚡️ Doing your pre-trip research🧳 Solo poly travel tips🛠 Special travel considerations

🔥General hot tips for any travel - like downloading Google offline maps + eSIM cards

…and more!

🎧 Heads up: This episode was recorded while driving, so you’ll hear a little road trip ambiance in the background. We used microphones and cleaned up the audio as much as possible—consider it part of the travel experience.

In this episode we refer to our T&A Sex Clubs, Lifestyle Destinations and Communities Around the World—a community-sourced guide where you can add clubs or destinations you’ve visited, along with insider tips (think special features, facilities, or what makes them unique). If you’ve got a recommendation, we’d love to hear it! You can also add local community groups or organizations that are poly-friendly! Link below!

Show Resources:

• Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group: 🔗 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory⁠
• SDC - Swinger Lifestyle Community online - connect with others, find events, and resources - https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37784
• Hedonism Jamaica - Adults-Only Lifestyle Resort - https://hedonism.com/
• Cap D’Agde, France - Naturist Community - https://www.capdagde.com/
• Hanlon’s Point Beach, Toronto Island - https://www.torontoisland.com/hanlans.php
• T&A Sex Clubs, Lifestyle Destinations and Communities Around the World- https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1t8DzYsOJSQ0g1cboAuBl_ibFYQGwpHoiEO-JdriKUjA/edit?usp=sharing
• Saily eSIM - https://saily.com/ and use code TARACI4818 for $5 off

In this episode we’re digging into the archives to bring you a conversation that originally aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. Since Facebook now only stores live videos for 30 days, we’re working behind the scenes to download and share some of those gems here on the podcast.

In this episode, we dive into a question we hear all the time: How do I attract (and keep) better poly partners?

Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or have been dating for a while, this episode is full of insight, real stories, and practical tools. We talk about:

• How we might be perceived on dating apps when we list “non-monogamous” in our profile
• The (hilarious) story of our first date and what our initial reactions were

We also share how our Securely Polyamorous Framework—which we teach in our course and coaching program—applies directly to dating and the process of meeting and keeping great partners. We explore things like communication attunement, knowing what you want, setting personal boundaries, creating values-based agreements and nurturing connections that are built to last.

And if you’ve ever found yourself attracting people who aren’t a fit (or who vanish after a great first date), we talk about the unconscious ways that might be happening—and what you can do to shift it.

🎁 BONUS! This week, we’re sharing our Online Dating Guide which includes:✅ A list of our favourite dating sites for non-monogamous folks✅ Tips for writing a standout profile✅ An online dating checklist✅ Links to related trainings and podcasts👉Download it for free here: ⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguide⁠

💬 Want to connect with others who get it? Join our private Facebook group:🔗 ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyamory⁠

⚡️ Curious about working with us through coaching or therapy? Sign up for a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara at:

🔗 ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠

✨You can also explore other ways to work with us as well as access other great resources at:🔗 ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠

At the time of recording this episode, it’s the Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy — July 7–13, 2025. This global campaign and week of action, created by Open Love NY, celebrates the many ways people love, connect, and relate outside of monogamy—including polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, and more.

The Week of Visibility exists to:

• Celebrate diverse relationship structures (because monogamy is actually the minority—both globally and across human history),
• Challenge stigma and misconceptions (we’re not perverts, immature, or avoidant, thank you very much),
• Promote inclusion in media, healthcare, education, and law,
• And Uplift marginalized voices, especially queer, trans, BIPOC, and disabled folks whose experience of non-monogamy is often erased or misunderstood.

In this episode, we explore what it means to be visible as people who practice consensual non-monogamy. We reflect on our own experiences around coming out—Tara shares in detail what it was like to come out as non-monogamous to her family, why it mattered, how we prepared, what happened, and how it’s going now. André shares about coming out to his mother—and her openness to the idea and her love.

We also walk through each day’s theme from the Week of Visibility: History & Culture, Identity & Inclusion, Myths & Misconceptions, Public & Private, Law & Advocacy, and Integration & Reflection.

For each, we offer personal reflections and suggest actions you can take to explore what visibility looks like for you—whether that means being out and proud, private and processing, or somewhere in between.

💜 IMPORTANT NOTE:We’re offering visibility as an invitation, not a prescription.Visibility is powerful—but it’s not always accessible or safe. You are allowed to choose what’s right for you.

🔗 Mentioned in the Show:

• Learn more and participate in the Week of Visibility:⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com⁠
• Share your story anonymously (or publicly):⁠https://www.weekofvisibility.com/shareyourstory⁠
• Episode 7: How We Love: What Style of Non-Monogamy is for Me - ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=TBCGeov_R1qUiuE2cEabsg⁠ (this has a link to download a free worksheet)
• Episode 40: Debunking Common Myths about Polyamory ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/0rst1t9Jv2x6xlgkJE2fYP?si=dOKRcCONQxW_k1E8xTdBCA⁠
• Learn more about our Poly Newbies Digital Course and get it for the special Week of Visibility price - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠
• Map of Non-Monogamy - Franklin Veaux - ⁠https://blog.franklinveaux.com/2017/12/an-update-to-the-map-of-non-monogamy/⁠

📝 Connect with Us

We’re Tara & André—coaches, educators, and polyamory advocates helping people create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships.

📱 Instagram → ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/⁠

⚡️ TikTok →⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@letstalkpolyamory⁠ 🌐 Learn more about our programs and services or book a consultation call → ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com⁠

Feeling disconnected or depleted in your long-term relationship while totally lit up by someone new? You're not broken—and neither is your relationship. This is a natural progression of relationships, but it doesn't have to be the death knell!

In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast, we explore what happens when burnout shows up in your long-term relationship—often the one where you share a home, kids, responsibilities or calendar—while you’re riding the high of New Relationship Energy (NRE) somewhere else. Inspired by a recent CNN article and relationship expert Esther Perel’s insights, we unpack the real causes of burnout: emotional labor, domestic imbalance, identity loss, over-functioning, and the exhaustion of being the constant container for your partner’s emotions.

We also share our own personal stories about what helps us keep our long-term relationship feeling playful, connected, and fresh—even while managing real-life stressors.

From RAADAR Relationship Reviews and quality time rituals, to creating intentional transitions around new connections, we’ll walk you through practical ways to rekindle the energy you crave—including simple habits backed by research, like the Gottmans’ 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions that helps relationships stay strong and emotionally resilient.

In this episode, we cover:💡 What burnout really looks like in long-term relationships🧯 The top causes of relationship fatigue (hint: it’s not just about desire)💘 Why NRE feels so good—and how to channel that energy intentionally into other relationship🛠️ Tools for making LRE feel exciting again (without pretending it’s brand new)👫 Our own practices for keeping long-term love feeling alive

💌 Ready for deeper support? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course or join us in the next round of our Polyamory Mastery Program. Links in the show resources below👇

Show Resources:

• CNN Article about Relationship burnout: https://www.cnn.com/2025/05/03/health/relationship-burnout-wellness

• Want to know more about NRE? Check out the episode, New Relationship Energy: The Awesome & The Awful - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=pvkCoL8XRJCKBXjhZ-_fqg
• How Can I Hit the Reset Button and Free Myself From Resentments (YouTube) - https://youtu.be/au6-N8qZTDU?si=PZknyyGE8r_15ASp
• Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠
• Want to have wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer
• Want a deeper dive, customized program with more direct support from T&A, join us in Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery

Re-released in honour of Toronto Pride!

June is 🏳️‍🌈Pride Month in many parts of the world, including here in Toronto, where we've proudly participated in both official and unofficial Pride events over the years—including walking in the parade.

One question that often sparks lively debate is: Should relational identities like polyamory be included in Pride?

Some argue that Pride is about celebrating sexual and gender identities, and that polyamory and other relational identities don't belong under that umbrella.

Others believe that polyamory is a valid identity that deserves visibility—especially when legal recognition, social support, and relationship rights are still lacking.

In this episode, we make an intentional effort to explore both sides of this discussion—sharing different perspectives on where polyamory fits within the broader 2SLGBTQIA+ movement. We also touch on the history of how Pride began and the deeper roots of what this celebration represents.

We’re revisiting a conversation originally recorded in our private Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook group. At the time, we had been running our weekly livestream series Mondays with Tara and André there —something we started during the pandemic as a way to stay connected, offer support, and spark real conversations. You’ll hear us share a little bit about how that came to be at the beginning of the episode.

This particular livestream was recorded just before the 2022 Toronto Pride Parade, when we organized a walking float with members of our community. We did it again in 2023, that time in collaboration with Polyamorous Living Toronto!

⭐️ The sound and video quality isn’t studio-perfect (neither are we!), but we’ve done our best to clean it up. We hope this episode sparks meaningful dialogue—because that’s what Pride is all about.

Let us know in the Comments what you think:
Should polyamory be part of Pride celebrations?

And share your PRIDE stories and photos in our Let's Talk Polyamory group - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠⁠

Show Resources:

• Toronto Pride - https://www.pridetoronto.com/
• Fierté Montréal (Montréal Pride) - https://fiertemontreal.com/en

• Looking for support but want to do it at your own pace? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Email André to arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at: ⁠andreturcottepsych@gmail.com⁠

• Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠

Jealousy… no one wants to feel it, and many of us hope if we ignore it, it’ll just go away. But like going to the dentist, it’s something that’s good for you—and like a cavity, jealousy has to be addressed.

This episode is part of our T&A Alphabet Series, where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex—one letter at a time. Originally broadcast as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, we bring you J is for Jealousy!

Whether you like it or not, you’re going to encounter jealousy—your own or someone else’s. How will you be affected by it? How will you handle it? That’s what we’re exploring in this conversation.

We talk about what jealousy really is, and the deeper emotions that often fuel it—like insecurity, fear, lack of safety, and uncertainty. We might sense a threat that our partner could be “taken” from us, and that fear can lead to reactive behaviors that don’t serve us or our relationships.

We also offer practical guidance for working through jealousy, including 7 strategies to shift your mindset, communicate better, and reconnect with what’s good in your relationship—rather than clinging tightly or spiralling into worst-case scenarios.

And we remind you: jealousy isn’t all bad. It’s an internal alert system. It means there’s something worth paying attention to.

This episode touches on one of the core modules of our Polyamory Mastery program—our deep dive signature group coaching experience for people ready to create secure, satisfying, and sexy non-monogamous relationships. We’ll be running a small-group spring cohort. If you’re interested, reach out to tara@hello.taraandandre.com and visit taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery for more details on the program.

Show Resources:

• Looking for support but want to do it at your own pace? Check out our Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠
• Email André to arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at: ⁠andreturcottepsych@gmail.com⁠
• Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠⁠
• Join the waitlist and be the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out with all the HOT words from A-Z! ⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠