Episodes

  • Renegade Grief: How to Grieve Out Loud in a World That Wants You Silent with Carla Fernandez

    Renegade Grief: How to Grieve Out Loud in a World That Wants You Silent with Carla Fernandez
    May 7 2025
    What does it mean to grieve in a world that tells you to move on? How do you find light in the darkest corners of loss, and can grief—often seen as a burden—become a source of connection, creativity, and even transformation? After losing her father at just 21 years old, author Carla Fernandez became a "renegade griever," defying societal norms and creating a space where grief could be shared, honored, and even celebrated. In a culture that often shies away from death and discourages open expressions of sorrow, Carla chose a different path. Her journey led to the birth of her book Renegade Grief and a global community called The Dinner Party, that has touched the lives of over 20,000 young adults navigating the complexities of loss. In this powerful Language of Love Conversation, Carla joins us to share her story and the lessons she’s learned from sitting at the tables of countless grievers. If you’ve ever felt isolated in your grief or struggled to find a safe space to express your pain, this episode is for you. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: How grieving "outside the lines" can transform pain into power with Carla’s concept of Renegade Grief. How a simple potluck dinner evolved into The Dinner Party, a global lifeline for thousands navigating loss. The healing power of rituals to stay connected to your loved ones. How society lost its way with grief and why reclaiming communal grieving practices is essential. Find out the most healing words you could ever hear in grief The mysterious world of grief dreams and what they might reveal about your connection to those you’ve lost. How to channel grief into meaningful action without bypassing the emotional work it requires. Looking for support in your grief journey? The Dinner Party connects you with others who get it—find a table near you at thedinnerparty.org. Carla’s book, Renegade Grief, is a must-read for navigating loss with courage and creativity. Need practical ways to honor your loved ones? From altars to grief quests, Grief Rituals offers meaningful ways to process your emotions. Remember to visit Carla’s website for more. Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events. You can also check out my Good Grief Course. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    52 mins
  • The Real Reason You’re Stuck in the Same Fight (Again and Again)

    The Real Reason You’re Stuck in the Same Fight (Again and Again)
    Apr 30 2025
    Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop? The same fights, the same frustrations, the same silent distance—even though you both want things to be better. Here’s the truth: Your partner’s baggage fits yours perfectly. The work isn’t to change them—it’s to unpack your own while holding space for theirs. In this raw and revealing Language of Love session, Brian and Stacey lay bare their struggle—blame, withdrawal, and the aching fear of not being enough. Stacey is fighting to reclaim her voice after trauma, wondering if her needs even matter.Brian admits he’s been avoiding effort, hiding behind the excuse of being “too busy.” Their story is your story. The tiny misunderstandings that explode into disconnection. The love that’s there but buried under frustration. The desperate hope that things could be different—if only they knew how. If you've ever felt invisible in your relationship, used "busyness" as an excuse to avoid hard conversations, wondered why affection feels like a battleground, or found yourself trapped in the blame-defend-withdraw cycle, this episode will leave you breathless—and give you the tools to break free. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why “I don’t have time” is often code for avoidance—and how to fix it The silent killer of relationships: unspoken expectations around affection How just 10 minutes of intentional time can rebuild connection The Drama Triangle (Victim, Villain, Hero)—and how to step off it How to ask for love without triggering defensiveness Why childhood wounds keep replaying in your relationship—and how to stop them Non-sexual touch: The secret to rebuilding emotional safety How to hold space for both love and frustration (yes, it’s possible!) Ready to Heal? Take my free quiz and start 7 Days to Better Sex to transform intimacy today. For deeper trauma work, explore EMDR and the Drama Triangle—because love shouldn’t hurt this much. Your story isn’t over yet. Let’s rewrite it together. Got questions? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Share this episode—love grows when we heal together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    59 mins
  • Tiny Relationship Rituals That Bring Back the Spark

    Tiny Relationship Rituals That Bring Back the Spark
    Apr 28 2025
    Have you ever felt like the spark between you and your partner has… well, fizzled out? Like, maybe you’re sitting on opposite ends of the couch scrolling through your phones instead of actually talking ? Or worse, you’ve started avoiding conversations because they feel too heavy or awkward? Trust me, you’re not alone. What if I told you that fixing this disconnect doesn’t require hours of deep talks, expensive date nights, or some grand romantic gesture? What if all it takes is just five minutes a day? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re diving into why disconnection happens—and more importantly, how you can fix it faster than you think. By the end of this episode, you’ll have an easy-to-follow ritual that will reignite intimacy and bring you closer than ever before. Here’s what we dive into: The 3 most common stealth disconnection culprits A powerful 60 second technique that will maximize your connection How to turn mundane moments into micro-connections The "gratitude hug" that doubles as relationship armor against stress Active listening tricks that make your partner feel truly heard The heart-to-heart hold ritual that synchronizes your emotional wavelengths Don’t miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my Free quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level. Your love life deserves this! Have a love language success story or a challenge you’re facing? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    7 mins
  • When Grief Becomes Your Greatest Teacher with Devi Brown

    When Grief Becomes Your Greatest Teacher with Devi Brown
    Apr 23 2025
    What happens when your world falls apart—and you’re left standing in the wreckage, asking, “Who am I now?” In this moving Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the wise and radiant Devi Brown to talk about grief, trauma, surrender, and the surprising strength we find in our most broken moments. Devi shares how a series of devastating events—including the death of a dear friend, the end of her marriage, and the unraveling of long-held identities—sent her into a deep spiritual reckoning during the pandemic. Yet what emerged was a new, more rooted version of herself, one anchored in faith, self-worth, and radical presence. Devi opens up about how she learned to stop resisting pain and instead, soften into it—finding not only healing, but beauty and transformation. We talk about faith (even when you're not sure what you believe), the difference between self-worth and self-esteem, and why it's okay (and necessary!) to fall apart. She also shares tools from her new book Living in Wisdom, including daily practices to reconnect with your body, spirit, and sense of purpose, even in the depths of sorrow. Here’s what we explore: Why trauma often comes in layers—and how grief can open the door to deeper healing. The difference between surrender and giving up. What it means to have a relationship with God (even if you weren't raised with one). How to recognize the sacred in everyday “tiny joys.” The difference between self-esteem and true self-worth. How meditation can help you move through pain and connect with divine guidance. The practical power of mudras, breathwork, and daily ritual to restore your soul. Why being present with your pain increases your capacity for joy. You can connect with Devi on her website or LinkedIn, and don’t forget to grab a copy of her book Living in Wisdom for even more insights and inspiration. If this episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to visit my website and explore the Good Grief course—it might be just what you need right now. And if you’re looking for a supportive and healing community of grieving souls, join us at the Grief Healing Collective platform. We’re in this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    58 mins
  • Can You Ever Truly Rebuild Trust After Infidelity?

    Can You Ever Truly Rebuild Trust After Infidelity?
    Apr 16 2025
    How do you move forward when trust shatters in an instant? When the person who vowed to stand by you crosses a line that feels impossible to uncross? Here we are with another Language of Love session as I connect with Chelsea, a listener navigating the aftermath of her husband's infidelity. Chelsea's husband confessed to drunkenly making out with another woman at a bachelor party a year ago. Since then, he's been attending therapy, practicing radical transparency, and working to rebuild trust. Yet Chelsea still struggles with obsessive thoughts: Will I ever truly move past this? In this session, we deep dive into: Why betrayal cuts so deep and how a single act of infidelity can trigger old wounds from past relationships or childhood How to create a level of transparency that is crucial in rebuilding trust The "continuum of cheating" and its implications How our bodies can tell us the truth before our minds catch up If Chelsea's story resonates with you - if you're navigating the painful aftermath of betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust - we want to hear from you. Your experience could help others feel less alone. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to share your story for a future episode where I give you my advice. For additional support, visit my website where you'll find expert-approved resources to help heal and strengthen your relationships. And make sure to check out my newest book, Sex Magic: Take Your Body, Mind and Relationship to the Next Level with Spectacular Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    11 mins
  • Lost in Translation: Are You Speaking Your Partner's Love Language Wrong?

    Lost in Translation: Are You Speaking Your Partner's Love Language Wrong?
    Apr 14 2025
    Are you loving your partner the way they need to be loved? In this Language of Love Bite, we tackle the subtle mistakes that might be undermining your efforts to love your partner well. Whether it's distracted quality time or misunderstood acts of service, these miscommunications can leave both partners feeling frustrated and disconnected. But here's the good news: with a few simple adjustments, you can start loving your partner in ways that truly land. If you're new to love languages, make sure to check out our previous episode where we break down all five languages in detail. And stick around until the end of this episode, where I share one powerful question that can transform how you show up for your partner. Here’s what we dive into: Why generic compliments often fall flat (and what to say instead) How technology is secretly sabotaging your relationship The "foreplay" question that delights partners How to use physical touch in a way that fortifies connection How to give gifts that truly touch their heart, without breaking the bank The one simple question that will tell you exactly how your partner wants to be loved Remember to check out my free Love Languages Quiz to discover your primary love language and start improving your relationship today. Remember, love isn't just about what you give - it's about how it's received. And make sure to check out my newest book Sex Magic: Take Your Body, Mind and Relationship to the Next Level with Spectacular Intimacy. Got a love language success story or struggle? Email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com - we might feature your story in a future episode. And don't forget to share this with someone who's trying to love their partner better, because we all deserve to feel loved in ways that truly resonate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    8 mins
  • Connecting with Loved Ones Beyond the Veil with Maureen Hancock

    Connecting with Loved Ones Beyond the Veil with Maureen Hancock
    Apr 9 2025
    Your loved ones, even after passing, are still with you, guiding you, and sending signs of their presence. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Maureen Hancock, a renowned medium, holistic healer, and comedian. For decades, Maureen has been helping people heal from grief by bridging the gap between this world and the next. After surviving lead paint poisoning, a near-death experience, and a serious car accident, Maureen discovered her unique gift to communicate with the spirit world. But Maureen’s work goes beyond delivering messages from the other side—she helps people reframe their grief, teaching them that love never dies and their loved ones are always near. In this episode, we explore: How Maureen’s near-death experiences opened her to the spirit world The role of humor in healing and why laughter is a powerful tool for raising your vibration What life is like on the other side—do our loved ones continue to grow and have “jobs” in the spirit world? How to recognize signs from spirit and feel their presence in your daily life The power of raising your vibration to receive messages from the other side The importance of self-care and grounding to stay connected to your intuition and spiritual guidance If this conversation opened your heart or got you thinking, why not dive deeper? Check out Maureen’s upcoming events and courses on her website, or join her for a live Zoom session to experience her incredible healing energy in real time. You can also follow her on Facebook or explore Helping Parents Heal for even more support. Got a question or a story about connecting with a loved one in spirit? We’d love to hear it! Send us an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and be sure to visit my website for tools like the Good Grief Course to help you stay connected with those you love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • Can Love Survive the Shadows of the Past?

    Can Love Survive the Shadows of the Past?
    Apr 2 2025
    Can love truly heal the wounds of the past? It’s a question many of us ask ourselves when past traumas creep into our relationships, casting long shadows over the love we’re trying to build. For Brian and Stacey, one of the amazing couples who come on the show to get support, this question isn’t just philosophical—it’s a daily reality. How do you rebuild trust when intimacy feels like a minefield? How do you show affection when touch triggers painful memories? And can love, no matter how strong, truly heal the wounds of the past? In this Language of Love Session, we dive deeper into the emotional rollercoaster of Brian and Stacey’s relationship. Will they find a way to bridge the growing distance between them, or will past traumas continue to pull them apart? If you’ve been following their journey, you know this is a story filled with raw emotion, vulnerability, and the struggle to heal. If you’re new, buckle up—this is a journey you won’t want to miss. And if you would like to come on the show to get some support, make sure to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: How past sexual trauma can distort feelings of love and connection Why physical affection can feel both comforting and threatening The double bind of wanting closeness but fearing intimacy How to create non-sexual physical touch that fosters connection The importance of tuning into your partner’s emotional needs Practical tools for building warmth and trust in a relationship How to navigate the Drama Triangle without blaming each other The power of pausing and shifting energy during conflicts Why avoiding each other can feel safer—but isn’t the answer Check out my free quiz and 7 Days to Better Sex to start improving intimacy today. Healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can be incredibly helpful. Got questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—and don’t forget to share this episode, because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    50 mins