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Once you have taken the enormous step to decide that you want to bring your relationship to an end you need to select the legal representation which is right for you.

Finding the best person (or team) to navigate a path through the inevitable twists and turns that you will face when removing yourself from a relationship with a narcissist is vital. You need someone who understands the pattern of behaviour and who can put forward a strategy that ensures as far as possible that you stay two steps ahead. It is a bit like playing a game of chess - you need to think about your moves in advance, always focussing on the end goal. The wrong person who doesn't understand what they are dealing with could inadvertently make things a lot more difficult - or worse still compound the abuse to which you have already been subjected.

In this episode Karin Walker examines the criteria that you will need to consider and provides her 'top tips' to ensure that you find the support and advice that you need.

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In this episode Karin Walker goes right back to basics and explores the behaviour patterns which are likely to be demonstrated by someone who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissists and very charming and charismatic. They are expert at luring someone into a relationship with them - often very quickly. They will make you feel like you have found your soulmate. The relationship will often move at a very quick pace and you will feel literally 'swept off your feet'.

But then slowly the 'devaluing' phase will begin and they will chip away at your self esteem - the intention being to make you totally dependent upon them. They will try to keep you away from your family and friends so that you become increasingly isolated. they will want you to be completely under their control.

It is extremely difficult to break away from a Narcissist as you will have become trauma-bonded to them rather like an addiction. You are desperate for their approval and will be constantly striving to regain the feeling you had when you first met.

If any of this sounds familiar this podcast is for you. Or if your relationship doesn't feel right; if you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells - you may want to learn more about the behaviour patterns demonstrated by the Narcissist.

Narcissists behave in a very particular way. Once you are able to understand the pattern of behaviour you will be able to predict what they are going to do and how to manage your own response. This podcast will provide you with invaluable tools to protect yourself from narcissistic abuse

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Kelly Pougher is the Founder and Director of Pougher-Round Solicitors, a bespoke law firm specialising in Family Law and Autism.

With over 20 years' experience in Family Law, Kelly is dedicated to helping neurodivergent families navigate the Family Justice system in a way which is tailored to meet the individual needs of each family.

Kelly is an Autism Advocate, Trainer and Public Speaker, who is passionate about leading the way for change within the Family Justice system.

It is not unusual for those who are autistic to be be mis-described as narcissistic - particularly in the arena of separation and divorce - with alarming and misleading implications. In this episode Kelly explores how this can sometimes be the case. She looks at how to identify whether your client (or the other party) is neurodiverse and the very particular steps which may need to be taken by family law professionals in these circumstances.

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If you are in a relationship with a Narcissist it is highly likely that you will be subjected to some form of domestic abuse. Domestic abuse does not only refer to physical abuse but also emotional and financial abuse. The abuser will often seek to present themselves as the 'victim' - attempting to suggest that in fact they have been subjected to abusive behaviour.

Elaine Richardson runs her own family law business. She is a certified trauma informed solicitor and lectures regularly on the topic of domestic abuse, providing domestic abuse training to family law practitioners.

Elaine is a hybrid mediator. She supervises and trains other mediators and family lawyers. She is the co-chair of the national dispute resolution committee for Resolution alongside Tristan Harvey.

During this discussion with Elaine you will learn how to recognise coercively controlling behaviour and all forms of domestic abuse and the steps which you should consider for your own protection. You will also gain an insight into the effects which trauma can have and the potential long term impact of being in an abusive relationship.

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Watching someone you care about being subjected to emotional, financial or even physical abuse at the hands of their narcissistic partner/spouse can be heart-breaking and unbearable - particularly if the 'victim' is your child.

It is so much easier to recognise the existence of narcissistic abuse when you are on the outside looking in. But when your loved one is caught in the web of narcissistic abuse they are often the last person to realise what the are being subjected to. Trauma bonding can result in you vehemently defending your abuser, failing to recognise that you are caught in a highly toxic and dangerous relationship. When you are trying to provide support this can create friction between yourself and the victim, causing your relationship to be strained.

If you want to support your loved one and help them extricate themselves from this abusive relationship it is important that you do not allow yourself the become alienated, particularly as the narcissist will be keen to isolate their partner from any support network, ensuring that they are totally dependent on the narcissist. Handle your loved one with care, helping them to take things at their pace and providing them with support and guidance. Help them to make their own decisions and see through the love bombing to recognise that their partner is someone incapable of unconditional love, in fact incapable of love at all.

This podcast will help you provide support without playing into the narcissist's hands and pushing your loved one away as you look on with despair at the toxicity to which they are being subjected. It will help you assess your role and how you can help draw them away from the lure of the narcissist.

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If you and your partner have separated, your preference may be never to have to see or speak to them again. This will particularly be the case where your former partner is a narcissist when 'no contact' will be the ideal position. If however, you have children together, at least while your children are in their minority, that is not a viable option. Some mechanism will need to be in place to help you navigate ongoing child arrangements.

Marcie Shaoul is the founder of the award winning the Co-Parent Way and author of 'The Co Parenting Method: Six steps to raise happy kids after separation and divorce' published by Penguin and released on 27th March 2025. Marcie is a trained and certified coach, known for her practical and effective approach to helping separating parents. Her work has been described by Sir Andrew Macfarlane, President of the family Division, in the forward of the book as 'inspirational'.

When your co-parent is a narcissist you will quickly recognise the fact that they will only ever 'counter-parent'. The need to limit contact between the parents as much as possible will become apparent coupled with the need to demonstrate to the children the difference between 'conditional' and 'unconditional' love.

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It is generally assumed that most Narcissists are male - which of course is wrong. Narcissistic Personality disorder is a condition which is not gender specific and can apply in the same way to both men and women.

This podcast is intended for those who believe themselves to have become the 'victim' of the female closet narcissist. The closet narcissist is probably the most difficult of the narcissistic personality disorder types to spot. All narcissists are excellent actors - because they have been playing a part for most of their lives as they hide behind the mask which they have created to hide their true self. The closet narcissist will usually align themselves to someone who is particularly successful and extrovert - basking in their achievements and living vicariously through the status which their partner enjoys. It therefore becomes easy for them to create the narrative that their partner is the narcissist and they are the victim in an 'abusive' relationship. As natural liars they are very able to convince even the most astute professionals that they are telling the truth.

So if you find yourself in a situation where you feel as though you have been 'walking on egg-shells for years'; feel that you have been completely manipulated and gas-lit - but you don't understand why - you may find some of the answers here.

The podcast is also intended for family law professionals who may be instructed by the closet female narcissist or who may be dealing with this dynamic as a mediator or arbitrator.

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Despite the 'tinsel' and celebrations, Christmas can be a difficult time. When you are separating and have children, particularly if you are separating from a narcissist, the festive season can be fraught with complications.

Narcissists hate special occasions - and are keen to cause havoc and chaos for everyone around them unless, as part of their fake persona, it suits their narrative to look good to the outside world.

Trying to work through the minefield of Christmas arrangements can become all consuming. A narcissist will delight in any ability to take control and 'call the shots'. They will also delight in causing upset and distress at what should be a happy family time.

In this podcast I offer strategies to deal with these issues - to try to stay one step ahead of the game and anticipate a situation rather than simply react to it - whether you are in the early stages of separation or having to deal annually with your narcissistic ex.