In this solo episode, I reflect on my recent conversation with Mel Galbraith, the COO of IFSCA, and dive deeper into the challenges of practicing Internal Family Systems (IFS). I talk about the tricky balance therapists often face—how easy it is to show up with the best intentions, but accidentally lead from self-like parts instead of true self-energy. You’ll hear me share some personal insights on why slowing down is so essential in this work, why letting go of an agenda actually helps clients go deeper, and how even seasoned therapists can unknowingly blend with their own parts. I also unpack one of the biggest paradoxes in IFS: when we stop trying to make something happen, that's when real healing starts. This episode is perfect for therapists and coaches who are interested in their own inner healing, as well as the inner healing of their clients.

Key Takeaways:

• Why IFS is “simple but not easy” — and why that matters for therapists and clients alike
• The hidden challenge of self-like parts and how they disrupt therapy without you noticing
• How to spot when you (as a therapist) are blending with your own parts during a session
• Why interventions often backfire — and what IFS teaches us about honoring protector parts

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