Hi friend,

What if your needs weren’t something to feel guilty about…but instead, a gift?

In this week’s episode of It’s YOUR Birth Day, we’re exploring The Gift of Exploring YOUR Needs—because so many of us have spent years tuning into everyone else, while slowly tuning ourselves out.

Needs can feel… complicated. We may ignore them. Minimize them. Or not even know what they are anymore.

But here’s the truth: YOUR needs are not too much. They are not inconvenient. They are information. They are guidance. They are yours.

In this episode, we gently walk through:

• Why it can feel so hard to identify our needs

• How we learned to disconnect from them

• Simple ways to begin listening again

• And how honoring your needs is a powerful act of self-trust

This is not about getting it perfect. It’s about getting curious.

✨ What do I need today?✨ What feels nourishing… and what feels draining?✨ Where can I begin to choose myself, even in small ways?

If this resonates, we invite you to listen in. Let it be a soft place to land—and a starting point for reconnecting with you.

And if you’re ready to go deeper, our course The Gift of YOUR Retreat – Rediscovering You is designed to help you slow down, reconnect inward, and begin honoring what you truly need in this season of your life. Want to check it out? Here is where you can find all the details:Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina

Because knowing your needs…is the beginning of trusting yourself again.

With warmth,

Helene & Christina

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Hey Friend,

Do you ever find yourself confused by the way you respond in your relationships?

Why do some of us seek reassurance when things feel uncertain, while others instinctively pull back or need space? Why do certain moments in relationships feel so activating?

In today’s episode of the It’s YOUR Birth Day Podcast, we explore The Gift of Knowing Your Attachment Style with a fellow therapist, Dr. Charity Godfrey who helps us gently unpack how our early relational experiences can shape how we connect today. This conversation truly could have been a day workshop. Don’t let that scare you, friend. It is full of life changing aha moments. Pull up a cup of tea or coffee and settle in. It’s a warm conversation we want you to join.

The idea of attachment was first introduced by psychologist John Bowlby and later expanded through the research of Mary Ainsworth. Their work helped explain something many of us experience but don’t always have language for — the patterns we bring into our relationships (aka- how we behave in relationships).

Learning about attachment styles isn’t about giving ourselves a label.

It’s about gaining insight and compassion for ourselves and for others.

Because when we understand our patterns, we create space for something new: more awareness, possibly new choices, and deeper connection.

That’s the gift.

A gentle reflection for today:

When I feel most triggered in a relationship, what do I tend to do — move closer, pull away, or protect myself in another way?

🎧 Listen to the episode: The Gift of Knowing Your Attachment Style.

PS: If this episode sparks something in you and you’re craving time to reconnect with yourself, check out our course The Gift of YOUR Retreat — a guided opportunity to pause, reflect, and come back to the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself. The one titled, Rediscovering You would be a perfect gift to yourself Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina.

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Hello friend,

We talk about love a lot in this world.
But most of what we’ve been taught about love is incomplete.

Love is often framed as romance, sacrifice, loyalty, or endurance.
As something we prove. Something we earn. Something we give away—sometimes at our own expense.

In today’s episode of the It’s YOUR Birth Day Podcast, we explore The Gift of Love through a different lens.

Not love as performance. Not love as a depletion. But love as a practice.

Love as:

• how we speak to ourselves when we fall short
• how we allow ourselves to rest without justification
• how we stop confusing overgiving with connection

For many women, love became tied to being needed, helpful, or “good enough.” And if that resonates, we want you to hear this gently and clearly:

There is nothing wrong with you for feeling tired around love.
You were taught a version that asked too much of you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• how our earliest experiences shaped the way we give and receive love
• the difference between love and self-abandonment
• why receiving love can feel uncomfortable (and how to soften into it)
• what loving yourself actually looks like on ordinary, imperfect days

✨ A reflection to sit with today:
Where in your life are you offering correction when love would be more healing?

If you’re craving a place to practice this kind of love—toward yourself and alongside others—we created our courses and community with exactly that intention. Not to fix you. Not to push you. But to walk with you as you reconnect to yourself in a way that feels honest and sustainable. Find them and until 3/1 use code IBD20LOVE for 20%off: Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina

With warmth and care,

Helene & Christina

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The Gifts of A Breakup

Hey Friend,

Today on the It’s YOUR Birth Day Podcast, we’re talking about The Gifts of a Break Up—and we want to say this first:

If you’re in the middle of one right now, this episode is not about silver linings or rushing your healing.

It’s about helping you feel seen, steady, and less alone.

In this episode, we gently explore:

• Why breakups hit our nervous system so deeply
• How clarity often comes after the ending
• The reconnection to self that can happen when someone else is no longer centered
• Why boundaries are often learned the long way
• And how grief, when honored, can actually deepen us

We also talk about what not to do after a breakup—like rushing healing, rewriting history, or letting an ending define your worth.

If you’re grieving:
Please know—you don’t have to be okay.
You just have to be honest.

Sometimes a breakup is life saying, “There is more for you—but not this way.”

And even in the middle of heartbreak…
This is still YOUR Birth Day.

With care,
Helene & Christina 🤍

PS: If this episode resonates, we’d love to hear from you. Comment on our social posts or share the episode with someone who might need it. And if you’re ready for deeper support, our courses are designed to help you reconnect with yourself—at your own pace, in your own way. Find our courses at Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina. Bonus Gift: Use code IYB20LOVE until 3/1 to get 20% off your purchase.

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Hey Friends!

Close your eyes and picture Helene & Christina standing in front of you throwing bright colored confetti into the air, giving out virtual hugs, and inviting you to walk on a rolled out red carpet.

We are giddy with gratitude and excitement as we bring to you a labor of love (and courage- you may remember Helene flew on a plane alone for the first time in 25 years) to go to MN where we thought and listened deeply to each of you!

YOU work hard every day, YOU love deeply, YOU give and give. Friends, we get you because we were there too (and slip back into patterns) of over committing and extending.

We want you to have an It’s YOUR Birth Day Life. Our first downloadable course is available! It is called The Gift of Creating YOUR Retreat. You can choose (or ask someone, yes, ask someone, to gift to you) 1, 2, or all 3 topics: Giving Your Body Peace, Recovery from Burnout, and Rediscovering YOU.

With each topic you get to choose if you want to do it solo or with a group of trusted besties. We have videos, worksheets, activities, scripts, and more. This course is like your fairy godmother, teamed up with a travel agent and granted you the wish of time for you with all the planning thought of.

The time to invest in you is now. Christina often reminds us that when you do, the trickle effect it has on other parts of our life is powerful and impactful. Go to yourbirthdaypodcast.com to purchase the course or gift one to a special woman in your life. Purchase now through 3/1/26 to receive 20% off your purchase with the code IBD20LOVE. Happy Retreating!

With Love,

Helene & Christina

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Hello friend,

This week on It’s YOUR Birth Day, we’re talking about The Gift of Courage—a gift that doesn’t always arrive when life feels easy but often shows up right when we need it most.

Courage isn’t loud or fearless.
It isn’t having all the answers or feeling completely ready.

Courage is quieter than that.

It’s the moment you tell yourself the truth.
It’s setting a boundary without over-explaining.
It’s resting when you’ve been taught to push.
It’s choosing yourself—even when it feels uncomfortable.

Research shared in Harvard Business Review reminds us that courage isn’t a personality trait—it’s a practice. It’s built through small, intentional choices that align with our values, especially during uncertainty.

In this episode, we invite you to reflect on where courage is already showing up in your life—and where it may be gently asking for more space.

A reflection to carry with you:

• Where am I being asked to be courageous right now?
• What am I afraid might happen if I choose myself?
• What might be possible if I do?

You don’t need to leap.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need the next honest step.

✨ P.S. If this episode resonated, we’d love for you to join the conversation. Comment on our latest social post and share where you’re practicing courage right now—it’s a simple way to feel connected and remind yourself you’re not alone. And when you’re ready to go deeper, investing in one of our courses also includes the opportunity to be part of a community of others who have chosen to invest in themselves, too. Find them at Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina.

With courage and care,
Helene & Christina
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Hey friend,

Have you ever noticed how connected we all are—yet how disconnected many of us feel?

In today’s episode of It’s YOUR Birth Day, we’re talking about The Gift of Connection—the kind that goes deeper than busy schedules, surface-level conversations, and “I’m fine” responses.

Connection isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being present.
It’s about feeling seen, heard, and safe—by others and by yourself.

Research continues to affirm what many of us feel in our bones: meaningful connection is one of the strongest contributors to long-term well-being and emotional resilience. It’s not a bonus in life, it’s essential.

And yet, so many women disconnect without meaning to.
Busyness, responsibility, loss, and self-protection slowly pull us away—from ourselves and from one another.

In this episode, we explore:

• What connection really means
• Why it matters more than ever
• How to gently reconnect—without overdoing or fixing
• Why connection often begins within

We also share a simple reflection you can try this week—one that doesn’t require extra time or energy, just honesty.

✨ You are worthy of connection.
✨ You don’t have to earn it.
✨ You’re allowed to receive it.

🎧 Listen to The Gift of Connection wherever you get your podcasts.

And if someone came to mind while reading this, consider sharing the episode with them. Sometimes connection begins with a simple, “I thought of you.”

With warmth,
Helene & Christina

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Hey friend,

Have you ever noticed how connected we all are—yet how disconnected many of us feel?

In today’s episode of It’s YOUR Birth Day, we’re talking about The Gift of Connection—the kind that goes deeper than busy schedules, surface-level conversations, and “I’m fine” responses.

Connection isn’t about doing more.
It’s about being present.
It’s about feeling seen, heard, and safe—by others and by yourself.

Research continues to affirm what many of us feel in our bones: meaningful connection is one of the strongest contributors to long-term well-being and emotional resilience. It’s not a bonus in life, it’s essential.

And yet, so many women disconnect without meaning to.
Busyness, responsibility, loss, and self-protection slowly pull us away—from ourselves and from one another.

In this episode, we explore:

• What connection really means
• Why it matters more than ever
• How to gently reconnect—without overdoing or fixing
• Why connection often begins within

We also share a simple reflection you can try this week—one that doesn’t require extra time or energy, just honesty.

✨ You are worthy of connection.
✨ You don’t have to earn it.
✨ You’re allowed to receive it.

🎧 Listen to The Gift of Connection wherever you get your podcasts.

And if someone came to mind while reading this, consider sharing the episode with them. Sometimes connection begins with a simple, “I thought of you.”

With warmth,

Helene & Christina

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