Hi friend,

What if your needs weren’t something to feel guilty about…but instead, a gift?

In this week’s episode of It’s YOUR Birth Day, we’re exploring The Gift of Exploring YOUR Needs—because so many of us have spent years tuning into everyone else, while slowly tuning ourselves out.

Needs can feel… complicated. We may ignore them. Minimize them. Or not even know what they are anymore.

But here’s the truth: YOUR needs are not too much. They are not inconvenient. They are information. They are guidance. They are yours.

In this episode, we gently walk through:

• Why it can feel so hard to identify our needs

• How we learned to disconnect from them

• Simple ways to begin listening again

• And how honoring your needs is a powerful act of self-trust

This is not about getting it perfect. It’s about getting curious.

✨ What do I need today?✨ What feels nourishing… and what feels draining?✨ Where can I begin to choose myself, even in small ways?

If this resonates, we invite you to listen in. Let it be a soft place to land—and a starting point for reconnecting with you.

And if you’re ready to go deeper, our course The Gift of YOUR Retreat – Rediscovering You is designed to help you slow down, reconnect inward, and begin honoring what you truly need in this season of your life. Want to check it out? Here is where you can find all the details:Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina

Because knowing your needs…is the beginning of trusting yourself again.

With warmth,

Helene & Christina

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Hey Friend,

Do you ever find yourself confused by the way you respond in your relationships?

Why do some of us seek reassurance when things feel uncertain, while others instinctively pull back or need space? Why do certain moments in relationships feel so activating?

In today’s episode of the It’s YOUR Birth Day Podcast, we explore The Gift of Knowing Your Attachment Style with a fellow therapist, Dr. Charity Godfrey who helps us gently unpack how our early relational experiences can shape how we connect today. This conversation truly could have been a day workshop. Don’t let that scare you, friend. It is full of life changing aha moments. Pull up a cup of tea or coffee and settle in. It’s a warm conversation we want you to join.

The idea of attachment was first introduced by psychologist John Bowlby and later expanded through the research of Mary Ainsworth. Their work helped explain something many of us experience but don’t always have language for — the patterns we bring into our relationships (aka- how we behave in relationships).

Learning about attachment styles isn’t about giving ourselves a label.

It’s about gaining insight and compassion for ourselves and for others.

Because when we understand our patterns, we create space for something new: more awareness, possibly new choices, and deeper connection.

That’s the gift.

A gentle reflection for today:

When I feel most triggered in a relationship, what do I tend to do — move closer, pull away, or protect myself in another way?

🎧 Listen to the episode: The Gift of Knowing Your Attachment Style.

PS: If this episode sparks something in you and you’re craving time to reconnect with yourself, check out our course The Gift of YOUR Retreat — a guided opportunity to pause, reflect, and come back to the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself. The one titled, Rediscovering You would be a perfect gift to yourself Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina.

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Hello friend,

We talk about love a lot in this world.
But most of what we’ve been taught about love is incomplete.

Love is often framed as romance, sacrifice, loyalty, or endurance.
As something we prove. Something we earn. Something we give away—sometimes at our own expense.

In today’s episode of the It’s YOUR Birth Day Podcast, we explore The Gift of Love through a different lens.

Not love as performance. Not love as a depletion. But love as a practice.

Love as:

• how we speak to ourselves when we fall short
• how we allow ourselves to rest without justification
• how we stop confusing overgiving with connection

For many women, love became tied to being needed, helpful, or “good enough.” And if that resonates, we want you to hear this gently and clearly:

There is nothing wrong with you for feeling tired around love.
You were taught a version that asked too much of you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• how our earliest experiences shaped the way we give and receive love
• the difference between love and self-abandonment
• why receiving love can feel uncomfortable (and how to soften into it)
• what loving yourself actually looks like on ordinary, imperfect days

✨ A reflection to sit with today:
Where in your life are you offering correction when love would be more healing?

If you’re craving a place to practice this kind of love—toward yourself and alongside others—we created our courses and community with exactly that intention. Not to fix you. Not to push you. But to walk with you as you reconnect to yourself in a way that feels honest and sustainable. Find them and until 3/1 use code IBD20LOVE for 20%off: Create the Retreat You’ve Been Craving – Anytime, Anywhere – It's Your Birth Day Podcast | By Helene & Christina

With warmth and care,

Helene & Christina

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