In this minisode, Colleen unpacks the hidden link between insecurity and control — and how most of us try to manage our anxiety by managing other people’s opinions. Through a grounded, body-based perspective, she reframes confidence not as something you “earn,” but as something you practice by returning to yourself again and again.

She challenges the myth that insecurity means something is “wrong” with you. Instead, she explains that it’s a call to turn inward — to redirect your energy from controlling perception to cultivating presence. The goal isn’t to eliminate self-consciousness, but to move the needle toward self-possession, one thought, one feeling, and one moment at a time.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Anxiety is a signal to focus inward, not manage others’ opinions.
  
  

• Your thoughts about what others think are still your thoughts — and you can change them.
  
  

• Confidence is a feeling created by intentional thinking, not external validation.
  
  

• The “confident you” is built through repetition — one conscious moment at a time.
  
  

• True growth is reaching the tipping point where self-trust becomes your default state.

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In this episode, Colleen introduces “future casting” — a mindset tool that helps you move from emotional reactivity into grounded awareness. She reframes every “problem” as an emotional one, reminding us that what keeps us stuck isn’t the circumstance itself, but the stress response and beliefs we attach to it.

Through this lens, future casting becomes a way to access perspective: to pause, regulate your nervous system, and imagine yourself on the other side of the obstacle — already having moved through it. From that calmer, wiser version of you, the next right thought and action become clearer.

This practice is both deeply practical and profoundly empowering. It invites you to stop fighting your emotions, reconnect with the body, and use imagination not for worry or control — but for possibility and calm.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• All problems are emotional before they’re logistical.
  
  

• Emotional regulation restores clarity and perspective.
  
  

• Future casting helps you access your “resolved self” now.
  
  

• Calm creates insight; anxiety blocks it.
  
  

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In this minisode, Colleen reflects on the stories we grew up with — the ones where the lost princess or overlooked heroine is finally discovered and restored to her rightful place. These stories shaped how many of us learned to wait: for validation, timing, permission, or rescue.

She'll reframe that pattern through the lens of emotional sobriety. True power isn’t something that arrives once circumstances improve — it’s a mindset and a way of being that can exist even in the middle of the mess. Transformation doesn’t come from fixing yourself or performing worthiness, but from believing in the person you’re becoming before your life catches up.

You are invited to examine where you might still be waiting for rescue, and to practice showing up today as the version of yourself who already knows she’s capable, worthy, and ready.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• The hidden impact of waiting to be “chosen” or saved.
  
  

• Power as a feeling that creates new behavior.
  
  

• How belief precedes evidence in lasting transformation.

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Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

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You don't have a willpower problem. You have a nervous system problem.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the eight principles of self-directed neuroplasticity—how to actually rewire your brain so drinking less stops being a battle and starts becoming automatic.

Here's what most people don't understand: You can't change your drinking habits while you're operating in overwhelm. Your brain literally doesn't have access to the circuits required for behavior change when you're in survival mode.

Which is why all the rules, commitments, and white-knuckling haven't worked. You've been trying to force change from a state that makes change neurologically impossible.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why alcohol use disorder is a stress response pattern, not a character flaw

• The 5 steps of the stress response (and why recognizing The Wall changes everything)

• Why shame makes change impossible—and what to do instead

• The 8 principles that make lasting brain change possible

• Why short, gentle daily somatic practices work better than dramatic or intense lifestyle changes

• How to build new habits without fighting the old ones

This isn't fluffy self-help. This is neuroscience. And once you understand how your brain actually works, you stop blaming yourself and start solving the real problem.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

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In this episode, Colleen explores how hidden beliefs quietly shape our choices, limit our vision, and create the illusion of safety at the expense of growth. Most of the obstacles we face aren’t outside of us — they’re thoughts we’ve stopped questioning.

Through the lens of her own experience, she illustrates how well-intentioned reasoning can harden into self-protection, keeping us in familiar patterns that feel comfortable but constraining. This reflection challenges listeners to look beyond circumstances and into the conditioning that sustains them — and introduces a single, powerful question designed to reveal what’s actually in the way of change.

🔑 Takeaways:

• How subtle conditioning reinforces limitation and fear.
  
  

• The difference between real safety and perceived security.
  
  

• A one-question method to identify your true internal roadblocks.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

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In this episode, Colleen traces a quiet, familiar fear that surfaces whenever we step into new territory — the fear of becoming “too much.” What begins as a loving message to stay safe or small can become an inherited boundary that keeps us from expansion.

Through her own reflection, she reveals how deeply patterned beliefs about worth, service, and visibility shape the nervous system’s response to growth. This isn’t a story about trauma, but about awakening — seeing how the rules we once followed out of love can quietly hold us back from the life we’re ready to create.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Growth often feels unsafe because it challenges early emotional conditioning
  
  

• Even supportive family messages can reinforce limiting patterns
  
  

• The nervous system interprets expansion as risk until safety is redefined
  
  

• True empowerment begins when we stop confusing smallness with love

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

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Today I’m sharing a powerful conversation from The Period Whisperer podcast with host Bria Gadd.

We talk about the hidden link between hormones, stress, and drinking—why so many high-achieving women end up using alcohol as a coping mechanism.

You’ll hear the truth about emotional sobriety, how the toxic cultural pressure to be “productive” leads to inevitable breakdown in midlife, and why you don’t actually lose control of your drinking—you lose control of your thinking.

If you use alcohol to quiet your mind or reward yourself for another exhausting day, this episode will shift your diagnosis of the problem so you can start working towards a solution that doesn’t require you to stop drinking completely.

Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL if you’re ready to fully commit to your personal growth and do the work to get emotionally sober. Side effects include an 80 percent reduction in drinking.

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In this episode, Colleen exposes one of the most dangerous lies we tell ourselves:
“Whatever. I don’t care.”

It’s the phrase that sneaks in at the very moment you’re about to follow through on what matters, pulling you back into autopilot. Habits feel easy not because they’re better, but because they’re familiar—and this thought is the detour sign that keeps you circling the same old roads.

She shows how to catch that phrase in real time, flip it, and reconnect with your real intentions.

It’s not about one big breakthrough—it’s about interrupting the trance again and again until your brain learns a new path forward.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• “Not caring” is a mental detour that keeps you stuck in old patterns.
  
  

• Habits feel easier only because they’re familiar, not because they’re better.
  
  

• Interrupt the phrase with: “Actually, I do fucking care.”
  
  

• Each interruption is a small act of rewiring, building momentum and self-trust.

If you are ready to get support from a community of women who are co-creating this change with intention and clarity— Click here to BOOK A DISCOVERY CALL.

Do you want help from Colleen with a situation you’re struggling with? Click here to submit your question for Colleen’s NEW Q&A episodes. Your name will not be mentioned on air!

Find me on:

YouTube: @HangoverWhisperer

TikTok: @hangoverwhisperer

Instagram: @thehangoverwhisperer

X (Twitter) : @NotAboutTheAlc

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