In this minisode, Colleen unpacks the hidden link between insecurity and control — and how most of us try to manage our anxiety by managing other people’s opinions. Through a grounded, body-based perspective, she reframes confidence not as something you “earn,” but as something you practice by returning to yourself again and again.

She challenges the myth that insecurity means something is “wrong” with you. Instead, she explains that it’s a call to turn inward — to redirect your energy from controlling perception to cultivating presence. The goal isn’t to eliminate self-consciousness, but to move the needle toward self-possession, one thought, one feeling, and one moment at a time.

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Anxiety is a signal to focus inward, not manage others’ opinions.
  
  

• Your thoughts about what others think are still your thoughts — and you can change them.
  
  

• Confidence is a feeling created by intentional thinking, not external validation.
  
  

• The “confident you” is built through repetition — one conscious moment at a time.
  
  

• True growth is reaching the tipping point where self-trust becomes your default state.

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