Episodes

  • Episode 14: Rumour Has It

    Episode 14: Rumour Has It
    Aug 22 2025
    This week, we try and fail to agree on what gossip actually is. We dig into our personal philosophies, codes of conduct, unspoken ethics, and complicated relationships with gossip such as where the boundaries lie. Esther can’t get past the word’s bad connotation and insists that harmless gist doesn’t count. Mofi wants clarity on when it’s okay to talk about a friend… with other friends in the same group. Aisha is on a mission to find out why so many women take issue with those who share everything with their male partners, and whether that’s fair. One thing we can all agree on? All three of us absolutely love to gossip.

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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • Episode 13: The un-coddling of African Parents

    Episode 13: The un-coddling of African Parents
    Aug 8 2025

    This week, we’re asking tough questions: Are African parents too coddled? Is it time to decenter them in our emotional narratives? And how do you negotiate conflict when your values are at odds? We rant about African parents and whether things are actually getting better with each generation.


    Mofi shares the details of a recent fight with her mum and questions why empathy so often feels one-sided. Esther, meanwhile, can’t relate, and isn’t exactly worried about her own parenting skills. And Aisha? She swears she’s not a yapper... but based on how much she had to say in this episode, we’re not so sure. Maybe she just needed to get somethings off her chest?

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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • Episode 12: Apply Now, Conceive Later

    Episode 12: Apply Now, Conceive Later
    Jul 25 2025

    This week’s episode was all about catching up! How did Mofi’s first ìtọ́jú Mentoring event go? How did Esther survive a week of solo‑parenting? And how is Aisha settling into work and life in Nigeria?


    We discussed the realities of childcare in Canada — the hunt for the right daycare and never‑ending waitlists. Aisha and Mofi talked about the “sibling tax” they pay as older siblings, while Esther couldn't relate and proudly admitted to doing the taxing instead. We rounded things off with our summer and future plans (which may or may not include a group trip with you, our listeners 👀).


    We hope you enjoy the episode and yes, the sound quality is better this week 😀 As always, we’d love to hear your thoughts so join in on the conversation by leaving us comments on Spotify or Instagram.


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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • Episode 10: Between Grace and Goodbye

    Episode 10: Between Grace and Goodbye
    Jun 27 2025

    In this episode, we explore the tension of staying in relationship with people we don’t agree with. Is cutting people off always the answer? What’s the cost of continuing the relationship? Can we draw the line between discomfort and danger? We explore how much grace is expected and whether that grace gets in the way of accountability, especially when there is an imbalance of power. Esther shares why grace and understanding should be at the center of disagreement. Aisha and Mofi ultimately agree but with reservations as they reflect on who is always expected to take on the burden of educating and extending grace, and at what cost. We wrap the episode by sharing our accountability goals and ask ask for grace as we move through them.

    Enjoy the episode and let us know what you think. Thank you for sticking with us for 10 episodes. We’re looking forward to 10 more with you.

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Episode 9: On do-overs

    Episode 9: On do-overs
    Jun 13 2025
    We’re backkkkkk! Catch up on what we each got up to during our month-long break and how successful we were on our accountability goals (Spoiler: Someone may need to lay hands on Esther at this point). We also took a trip down memory lane and discussed the things we might do differently if we had to go through high school all over again. Enjoy the episode and feel free to share your own thoughts on what you would do differently!

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    1 hr and 15 mins
  • Episode 8: Strictly Platonic? ft. Koj (SubmaRoach)

    Episode 8: Strictly Platonic? ft. Koj (SubmaRoach)
    May 16 2025
    This week, we’re joined by our very first guest, Sayo a.k.a Koj from Submarine and a Roach podcast! Together, we wade into the murky waters of intimacy in mixed gender friendships, asking the age-old question: Can men and women really be just friends? Esther believes proximity and strong boundaries are key to keeping romantic feelings at bay. Sayo gets why some people might raise an eyebrow, and claims that men can’t be trusted. Mofi highlights the constant shadow of romantic suspicion that tends to follow platonic friendships (even in queer spaces) which makes it hard to be close without it being questioned. And Aisha asks: so what if there’s attraction and you act on it? She challenges the binary thinking around intimacy and friendship, emphasising that people should define these connections on their own terms.

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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Episode 7: The Joys and Woes of Living in the Diaspora

    Episode 7: The Joys and Woes of Living in the Diaspora
    May 2 2025
    In this episode, we explore the layered experiences of life in the diaspora. From the transition out of Nigeria to life in Canada and the UK, we unpack what it means to carry your culture with you and how that culture shifts in new environments. We talk about boarding school life post-Nigeria, navigating the clash between Nigerian and Western values, and the unique challenges of raising children with a sense of identity that spans continents. Esther shares why she prioritises her daughter learning French over Yoruba, while Mofi opens up about her deep need to return to Nigeria regularly even when her queer identity complicates that connection. This episode is about reconciling love for home with the realities of building life elsewhere and how we stay connected, even from afar.

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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • Episode 6: Are you settling or compromising?

    Episode 6: Are you settling or compromising?
    Apr 18 2025
    What does it really mean to settle in love, career, or life? In this episode, Aisha, Mofi, and Esther unpack the tricky layers of settling. Aisha wonders if the matter of settling is something we only decide on after-the-fact when we’ve seen how things turn out. Mofi brings in the role of privilege, pointing out how LGBTQ folks often face more limited options and harsher consequences, yet still take bold risks. Esther shares her hard line on never settling in marriage, but acknowledges that in careers, sometimes survival has to come first. We ask: Are we projecting our own values when we judge someone else’s choices? Is settling always a bad thing or could it just be making the best decision with what you’ve got?

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    1 hr and 14 mins