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19. The Hidden Toll of People-Pleasing (And the Journey Back to Self-Worth)

19. The Hidden Toll of People-Pleasing (And the Journey Back to Self-Worth)

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In this powerful and heart-centred episode, I’m joined by transformational coach and meditation teacher Danielle Thornton-Walker. Together, we explore what it really means to shift from people-pleasing and perfectionism into unapologetic self-trust, self-love, and deep inner alignment.

Danielle shares her own journey from a high-achieving self-doubter to a woman who now supports others in reconnecting with their inner wisdom and worth. From walking away from a 15-year career to embracing sensitivity as a superpower, her story is one of courage, compassion, and clarity.

We unpack why so many women feel like they’re not enough even when they’re doing “everything right,” and how this cycle of proving, pleasing, and comparing keeps them stuck in stress and disconnected from their truth. If you’ve ever felt lost in the noise of other people’s expectations or exhausted from constantly trying to measure up - this conversation is for you.

Danielle offers wisdom and practical guidance on how to stop outsourcing your worth, return to your inner knowing, and live in a way that feels aligned, soft, and strong all at once.

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

✔ You don’t have to earn your worth - it’s your birthright.

✔ People-pleasing may feel like safety, but it often blocks you from your power.

✔ Sensitivity and empathy aren’t weaknesses - they’re intuitive gifts when honoured.

✔ Self-validation is a daily practice that brings clarity, peace, and purpose.

✔ Coming home to yourself isn’t a luxury - it’s a necessity for living fully.


Timestamps & Key Themes:

[00:00] Welcome & episode intro

[03:15] Danielle’s journey from self-doubt to self-trust

[08:30] Breaking up with people-pleasing & the myth of “doing it all”

[13:45] Why sensitivity is a strength and not a flaw

[17:20] The shift from external validation to inner truth

[23:40] Motherhood, identity, and reconnecting with your inner voice

[30:10] Real tools to support your worth and reclaim your joy

[36:50] Final reflections and how to connect with Danielle


Resources & Links:

📌 Connect with Danielle Thornton-Walker:

Website: www.daniellelouisecoaching.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/danielle__louise__coaching

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-thornton-walker-94b5b76a

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1017169658836980/?mibextid=wwXIfr


📌 Connect with me, Debbie Lucas:

Learn more about me, the podcast, and how we can work together: www.debbielucas.me/links


💛 If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your support helps more women reclaim their worth and live with freedom, joy, and ease.



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