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How to Want Someone Without Needing Them (It's Possible) (Day 20) | UNSTUCK: Rewrite Your Love Story

How to Want Someone Without Needing Them (It's Possible) (Day 20) | UNSTUCK: Rewrite Your Love Story

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🎧 DAY 20: How to Want Someone Without Needing Them (It's Possible) | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story



🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION


You're on a date, sucking in your gut and filtering your words: "What if I'm too much? What if they don't choose me?" Here's the game-changer: Wanting someone is a choice. Needing them is a prison.


In this liberating episode of UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (your Sovereignty Coach) reveals how to desire someone without losing yourself.


Discover why your most magnetic self emerges when you stop contorting for love—and how to build relationships that feel like freedom, not fear.


Spoiler: "I don't need you, but holy sh*t, I want you" is the ultimate power move.



⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG


00:00:00 – The Date Night Spiral ("Am I enough?")

00:00:56 – Wanting vs. Needing ("Love isn't about completion—it's about choice.")

00:01:13 – Christy's Marriage Breakthrough ("I was abandoning myself")

00:03:37 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Needing someone to need me."

00:03:56 – The Roar Rebellion (Dance + "I choose myself first")



💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)


"Wanting someone is a choice. Needing them is a prison."

"Real sovereignty in love is saying, I don't need you, but holy shit, I want you."

"Love isn't about losing yourself. It's about finding yourself in the presence of someone who truly sees you."


(Tag @CoachChristyHolt when you choose want over need. 📲)



🔥 YOUR DAY 20 REBELLION: CHOOSE, DON'T NEED


1. THE SOVEREIGNTY TRIO

🎶 Hit Play on Roar by Katy Perry (Rebellious AF Playlist: https://bit.ly/loverebel)

💃 Dance Like Nobody's Watching: Move freely (no filtering!) while shouting: "I choose myself first!"

🌬️ Breathe: 3 deep inhales + "I am enough, just as I am."


2. ADD TO YOUR F*CK IT LIST

🚫 "Needing someone to need me."

🔥 Burn it or scream it into your pillow.


3. INSTANT MAGNETISM BOOST

✨ DM @CoachChristyHolt your "I chose myself!" win (lion emoji encouraged).


SHARE YOUR POWER 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your dance moves + #PlotTwistEnergy.



RESOURCES & LINKS


📖 LOVE, UNSTUCK BOOK: Your guide to wholeness and choosing a life and love that you truly love: www.loveunstuck.com


🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Safe Love Feels Boring (At First) (Why drama isn't chemistry.)



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💌 RATE & REVIEW if this helped you trade need for choice.

💌 COMMENT BELOW: "What's ONE way you'll choose yourself this week?" 🚀

💌 TAG @CoachChristyHolt—your sovereignty inspires others.



#LoveUnstuck #RewriteYourLoveStory #CreateYourHappy #HealthyAttachment #LoveYourselfFirst

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