Breakups don’t have to break you. In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love. I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well. I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness. No matter how unjust their behaviour was, how brutal the break up was and how poorly they treated me… the fact is I would have done ANYTHING to get them back. Focusing on my situation this way made me feel lost, alone, and touched very raw childhood wounds around unworthiness and unlovability. The shock of it all triggered my nervous system and I could only feel raw emotion - my prefrontal cortex literally couldn’t think straight because in this state of high emotional charge, our hard-wired survival instinct shuts down our executive faculties and focuses all our energy and resources on survival - cortisol, fight, flight, freeze, FREAK OUT. It creates a sense of urgency in us - the reaction makes us feel like we have to take survival action STRAIGHT AWAY… so we make unintelligent, misaligned decisions out of desperation. We stalk them on social media, we drive past their house, we think about how they’re feeling, we ruminate on what went wrong, we lament over things not being different. We analyse, pull apart, blame, cry, numb ourself and we convince ourself that we have no control. We feel so separated from them that the desire for re-connection - ANY CONNECTION! - takes over. We feel in that moment that we have nothing to lose and so…. …we send them a message. Then we hate ourselves because on some level we know we’ve just handed even more of our power away. So how can we stop this yucky pattern, and choose self-empowerment instead? After all, there are people who handle breakups REALLY well (I know this because I became one of them). In this episode I share the breakup paradigm shifts that helped me to drop codependency and become a magnet for healthy, awesome relationships. 🎧 Tune in now to learn how to reclaim your power and stop chasing the people who don’t deserve your love.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

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Ever feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?

You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.

In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.

Most importantly, you'll learn practical tools to help you feel safe, loved, and powerful - without having to prove or earn it.

It’s time to stop over-functioning and start receiving.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching 💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Healing after a break up? Sending you hugs - it can feel rough. I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle. Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a loving long-term relationship when the time was right. From that place, being free from need for the first time, I found recalibrating after a breakup to be a positive experience - rather than a the shocking time of deep sadness and anxiety that I used to go through. It was such an amazing shift. You might not be there yet, and that’s ok. Where you’re at is where you’re at, and your journey is divine (just like you are). No matter how dark, lonely or hopeless you’re feeling right now, this episode will guide you through your four best next steps to take before you do anything else. It’s tonic for heartbreak.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. It’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for. Learn more & book in: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

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Are you keeping yourself hidden away behind a bullet-proof boundary that’s keeping you safe from heartbreak, but stifled from love? While building high walls might seem like the best way to keep you safe from potential pain, there’s a better way to stay protected AND safely allow in abundant love… which is what your True Self wants, for all the right reasons - a.k.a. to experience the joy, growth and divine experience that comes from having an intimate relationship with an aligned partner. In this episode, we’re breaking down why staying ‘too safe’ is actually NOT serving you - and the 5 powerful shifts that will empower you to live aligned with your True Self instead.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

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You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship. BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here… Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING. You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always seem to be doing it wrong, and feeling anxious all the time. I see you, please know you’re not alone. It IS possible to be free of this bind - and this episode sheds light on exactly how.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Have you come across one of the myriad of Toxic Relationship Recovery groups on Facebook? Whether you are in a toxic relationship and looking for advice on how to deal with an abusive partner or narcissist, or if you are in the healing and recalibration phase after a breakup, it's likely that your search for answers may have led you to one. As a relationship therapist and coach I dip into these groups every now and then to offer advice, and some of my clients have even been active members of these groups - so I’ve spent some time in these corners of the internet… and I have some insights you’ll want to hear about them when it comes to your own healing journey. It’s so important to get the right help and support when you’re in, leaving, or recovering from a toxic relationship - not to mention the support you need to do the work to overcome toxic relationship patterns altogether. But are Facebook Groups the way to go? Take a listen to find out!

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

School holidays are over - YIPPEE!!! I can actually finish a thought and have time to do other things than make 25 snack plates a day and keep two children busy 😅 It's SO good to be back, podcasting and serving clients! Thank you for listening and keeping in touch over the past few weeks... it totally filled my cup! It sounds like the rebrand resonated with many of you - although the podcast is no longer called Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns, believe me that this is still exactly what you will be doing by listening in 💯✨

Back to today's episode...

Do you feel like you keep attracting the same toxic partners who are emotionally unavailable?

Wish you could change the way you morph into an over-giving people pleaser in relationships?

This episode is to show you the reason you are attracted to the same type of partners over and over again, even if the relationships don’t make you feel good and aren’t serving your highest and best vision for yourself. I know you’re hating on yourself for it but, believe it or not, like everything that is keeping you stuck, its just a learned way of being that you taught yourself as a child to keep you safe - and over the years you’ve held onto it so tightly that it has formed a part of your belief system. But don’t worry - just like a cocoon around a butterfly - when you were young and vulnerable you needed the safety of (what you thought was) a reliable method of fostering connection with your caregivers, BUT, now you’re ready to spread your wings, the cocoon feels like more of an uncomfortable trap. The good news is that, just like a butterfly, you have the resources to break free and embrace the life and love that’s waiting for you. 🦋✨ If you feel stuck in a cycle of relationships that suck you dry, bruise your heart and damage your self esteem, this episode could be the key to you having greater control over who you are attracted to, and who your are attracting into your life.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Are you suffering with physical tension and discomfort caused by the heartache of a breakup? When our emotions manifest somatically, it can be a powerful sign that our unconscious is trying to tell us something very important. So how do we listen in? My favourite way is this easy, gentle and loving 5 step process - and I'm delighted to share it all with you in this episode! Honour your wonderful self by giving it a little time and quiet space to engage in this powerful 5 step process. It's a great way to release physical discomfort brought about by anxiety and stress caused by any number of things, although this episode is focussed on easing the physical discomfort caused by a breakup in particular.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine