Breakups don’t have to break you. In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love. I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well. I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness. No matter how unjust their behaviour was, how brutal the break up was and how poorly they treated me… the fact is I would have done ANYTHING to get them back. Focusing on my situation this way made me feel lost, alone, and touched very raw childhood wounds around unworthiness and unlovability. The shock of it all triggered my nervous system and I could only feel raw emotion - my prefrontal cortex literally couldn’t think straight because in this state of high emotional charge, our hard-wired survival instinct shuts down our executive faculties and focuses all our energy and resources on survival - cortisol, fight, flight, freeze, FREAK OUT. It creates a sense of urgency in us - the reaction makes us feel like we have to take survival action STRAIGHT AWAY… so we make unintelligent, misaligned decisions out of desperation. We stalk them on social media, we drive past their house, we think about how they’re feeling, we ruminate on what went wrong, we lament over things not being different. We analyse, pull apart, blame, cry, numb ourself and we convince ourself that we have no control. We feel so separated from them that the desire for re-connection - ANY CONNECTION! - takes over. We feel in that moment that we have nothing to lose and so…. …we send them a message. Then we hate ourselves because on some level we know we’ve just handed even more of our power away. So how can we stop this yucky pattern, and choose self-empowerment instead? After all, there are people who handle breakups REALLY well (I know this because I became one of them). In this episode I share the breakup paradigm shifts that helped me to drop codependency and become a magnet for healthy, awesome relationships. 🎧 Tune in now to learn how to reclaim your power and stop chasing the people who don’t deserve your love.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Ever feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?

You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.

In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.

Most importantly, you'll learn practical tools to help you feel safe, loved, and powerful - without having to prove or earn it.

It’s time to stop over-functioning and start receiving.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching 💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Healing after a break up? Sending you hugs - it can feel rough. I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle. Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a loving long-term relationship when the time was right. From that place, being free from need for the first time, I found recalibrating after a breakup to be a positive experience - rather than a the shocking time of deep sadness and anxiety that I used to go through. It was such an amazing shift. You might not be there yet, and that’s ok. Where you’re at is where you’re at, and your journey is divine (just like you are). No matter how dark, lonely or hopeless you’re feeling right now, this episode will guide you through your four best next steps to take before you do anything else. It’s tonic for heartbreak.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.) Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.) Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality. It’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for. Learn more & book in: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine