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Today, we're talking about friendship: the benefits to your health, confidence and life. We discuss what a great and bad friendship looks like.

We begin with some unhinged social media posts: Hey Blacks!!, Ugly By Proxy and AITA.

The point of today's episode: be open to making some new friends and nurturing the old relationships as well.

GREAT Friendships: Building confidence, add humor, provide empathy, improve your health. Great friends encourage, listen and provide wisdom. Within healthy friendship, you share emotional experiences, have space to be yourself, experience connection. As a great friend, you bring additional perspectives, call out the bullshit in a shitty situation and provide a sense of belonging and empowerment.

We talk about different pockets of friends: forever friends, going out friends, common world view friends... Friendship is so important because these are the people YOU have CHOSEN to be apart of your life. It’s okay to have one or two friends. It’s okay to have certain friends for specific areas of your life.

How to show up for your friends and how do they show up for you? You don’t have to talk everyday… I have great friends that we talk here and there… and show up when it matters for funerals, weddings, when someone had a hard day. You don't have to be there every second. We all have our own separate lives, but we should prioritize showing up and checking in on our friends, as well.

Toxic Friendships - Insult you… weirdly copy what you’re doing… embrace and befriend people that are not your people. People that make themselves the victim… often, doing things you are not comfortable with, disrespect your boundaries... they are not your friends. Individuals that are not happy for you... you feel drained after interacting with them... you have to lie and embarrass yourself to cover up the friend’s mess, you feel obligated to be their friend... they change when others are around... Those are not your friends. See Braving and putting friendships in appropriate boxes in the episode.

BRAVING - Trust - Berne’ Brown: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgement, Generosity

Present for friends during pregnancy - are we happy for this experience? If not yet, I'll be happy when you're happy.

Present for friends during postpartum - make your friends food and literally just show up.

Thank you for listening. Please get out there and make some friends