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What we don't say in relationships is still speaking. Silence, people-pleasing, and passive-aggressive behavior become forms of dishonesty that create voids in our relationships instead of keeping the peace.

• Avoiding hard conversations doesn't keep the peace but creates a quiet war and builds resentment
• The longer we swallow small frustrations, the harder it becomes to address issues before they explode
• When we think we're "fine" but feel disconnected, our bodies often signal the truth through stomach tightness or that gut feeling
• Relationships require brave honesty - having faith that truth, even uncomfortable truth, ultimately serves connection
• Effective communication tools include expressing feelings directly instead of shutting down
• Taking space when needed ("I need 24 hours") can prevent unnecessary escalation
• How others respond to our truths reflects their character, not our worth
• The only way to the other side is through - silence is never neutral, it either protects connection or erodes it
• You don't have to be loud to be heard - the louder you get, the less people will hear you

This week, pay attention to where you decide to be quiet in your relationships. Let's keep practicing brave honesty with ourselves and with others.

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We continue our emotional honesty series, focusing on what it costs us to always be "the strong one" in our relationships and how this role can lead to feelings of resentment and invisibility.

• Exploring the pride and shadow side of being the reliable, strong person in relationships
• Understanding how always being "the strong one" can create distance and breed resentment
• Reflecting on how controlling situations by helping others feel heard can prevent us from expressing our own needs
• Considering whether our strength position is a conscious choice or an automatic habit
• Learning that vulnerability isn't weakness but a path to deeper intimacy
• Journaling exercise to identify moments where we feel compelled to be strong and imagining what asking for help might feel like

Journaling prompts:

• When are moments you feel like you HAVE to be strong?
• Do you know how to pause?
• What would if feel like to allow someone else to be strong for you?
• Who do you feel safest with and why?
• What would if feel like to be still in loud moments?

Keep dancing, even when everyone is watching. Peace.

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Our journaling series continues with an exploration of how to identify and pursue your "personal legend," inspired by Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist.

• Three-minute brain dump exercise to clear your mind
• Reflecting on faith, cutting cords, and trusting your path
• Identifying dreams that feel "stupidly big" yet call to you
• Visualizing in detail what life would look like living your dream
• Recognizing what stands in your way (usually ourselves)
• Taking one concrete step today toward your personal legend
• Reconnecting with childhood dreams that may reveal your true calling
• Looking for signs—like moments of peace and unexpected joy—that confirm you're on the right path

Journal prompts:

• What is a dream that feels so stupidly big that it scares you?
• If I were living that life right now, how would you be moving, talking, or acting?
• If I were living that dream right now, what would it feel like or look like? What colors might you see, what music would you hear, or what things might you see?
• What is one action you could take today to start moving toward your dream?
• What is standing in your way?

Book: "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho

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Today we're taking a break from our series on lying to explore the liberating concepts of faith, cord cutting, and not giving a fuck anymore—where true freedom lives when we're tired of explaining ourselves or hoping others will finally see us.

• Faith isn't the kind you might have been forced to accept growing up, but the messy, grounded faith that chooses you before knowing the outcome
• True faith means saying yes to alignment and no to disrespect, even when your voice shakes
• Cord cutting recognizes that some connections aren't connections—they're chains that keep us bound
• Release relationships that no longer serve you with love and finality, whether they're exes, expired friendships, or family members who make you feel small
• Not caring what people think isn't rebellion—it's self-preservation
• Remember that no one is really thinking about you as much as you believe; everyone is caught up in their own lives
• You don't need to explain your healing or justify your boundaries to anyone
• The most authentic parts of yourself are the best parts; the edited version is harder to maintain
• Care deeply about your peace, joy and purpose rather than others' opinions

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We explore the concept of emotional masks and how they impact our authenticity, focusing on identifying which masks we wear and why we put them on in the first place.

• Continuing our journaling series "The Truth of it All" focusing on emotional honesty
• Examining common masks: the people pleaser, the fixer, and the overachiever
• Understanding what's beneath our masks and why we developed them
• Exploring what parts of ourselves never got a chance to be expressed
• Asking powerful questions like "Who are you when no one is clapping, needing or evaluating you?"
• Reflecting on how faith connects to embracing our authentic selves
• Acknowledging the challenge and beauty of transitioning to new versions of ourselves

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We're continuing our journaling series "The Truth of it All: A Journey into Emotional Honesty" by examining the lies we tell ourselves and how they impact our emotional wellbeing.

• Beginning with a three-minute journaling brain dump to clear our minds
• Exploring common self-deceptions like saying "I'm fine" when we're not
• Discussing how we minimize our feelings with phrases like "it's not that big of a deal"
• Understanding emotional gaslighting and how we question our own reality
• Examining how we often lie to ourselves more when seeking validation from others
• Identifying personal truths we avoid facing because they feel risky
• Sharing vulnerable examples of hard truths I'm currently facing myself
• Considering how self-honesty is a radical act of self-love

Next week we'll explore "Who are you without the mask?" as we continue our journey into emotional honesty. Stay cute, stay loud, keep dancing even when everyone is watching.

Book: 'A Gentle Reminder' by Bianca Sparacino

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We explore the beginning of our eight-week series on emotional honesty, examining why we lie to ourselves and others, and how these deceptions impact our physical health and emotional wellbeing. Uncovering the roots of dishonesty reveals how we've been conditioned to prioritize deception over truth in certain situations, creating misalignment between our authentic selves and the image we project.

• Speaking truth is more powerful than lying, though we often believe the opposite
• We lie to avoid facing consequences or when we're not ready to take action
• Half-truths allow us to feel partially honest while still being deceptive
• Physical consequences of lying include weight gain, skin problems, hair loss, and sleep issues
• Mental effects include forgetfulness, irritability, and developing unhealthy coping mechanisms
• When we withhold information, we manipulate others' ability to make informed decisions
• Identifying specific relationships or topics where we tend to lie reveals our patterns
• Living aligned with our truth reduces stress and creates authentic connections

This week, journal about where in your life you're out of alignment and where you're in alignment. Look at your patterns honestly and consider what it would feel like to live without masks.

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It's time to shake things off after weeks of deep work exploring purpose, shame, settling, and processing difficult emotions like anger. This week is about opposites - saying yes to something you'd normally decline and no to something you'd typically accept.

• Set your timer for three minutes and freely write whatever comes to mind
• Embrace Isaiah 43:18-19 - "See, I am doing a new thing... making a way in the wilderness"
• Try something new this week - a different route home, line dancing, paddleboarding on a weeknight
• Challenge yourself to dine alone, attend events solo, or try karaoke
• Journal about which was harder - saying an unusual yes or an unusual no
• Focus your intentions like threading a needle - remove distractions to create something new
• Remember Eleanor Roosevelt's advice to "do one thing every day that scares you"

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