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Conflict creates one of the greatest sources of anxiety in our lives. Many of us believe that avoiding conflict will bring peace...but in reality it only creates more pressure, more worry, and more chaos.

In this episode, I share how to approach conflict from a biblical perspective—starting with Matthew 18 and the call to go directly to the person. We’ll talk about timing, tone, and posture...how to look at the plank in your own eye first...and why humility always goes first.

I’ll also explain how to handle conflict differently when it’s Christian to Christian compared to when it’s Christian to non-Christian, and how to set healthy boundaries when needed.

True intimacy is not the absence of conflict. It is working through conflict prayerfully and humbly and coming out stronger on the other side.

Fearless Tips and Talks is back unpolished and unproduced...raw, real, and prayerful. I may not have the budget for production this season, but I believe the content matters more than the polish. So I’m showing up with truth and tools to help you find peace and freedom in your everyday life.

🎙 Host: Christy Boulware, Founder of Fearless Unite

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What happens when God takes away the very things we use to define ourselves—Less of Me, More of Him – Learning the Humble Way of a True Disciple

What happens when God takes away the very things we use to define ourselves—our titles, our roles, our control?

In this message, Alisha shares one of the hardest yet most transformative seasons of her life, including the humbling reality of jail, and how God used it to teach her what true discipleship looks like.

Humility isn’t weakness—it’s shifting from self-reliance to God-dependence. It’s letting go of performance-based faith and embracing the freedom of presence-based faith. It’s learning to trust that where our strength ends, His strength begins.

Together we’ll look at three powerful truths:

1. Humility Starts with Recognizing Our Need (Matthew 5:3)
2. Humility Frees Us from the Pressure to Perform (Micah 6:8)
3. Humility Makes Us Teachable and Transformable (James 4:6)

Key Verse: “He must become greater; I must become less.” – John 3:30

If you’ve ever felt crushed under the weight of shame, exhausted from striving, or afraid to admit your need for God—this message is for you.

Watch until the end for a prayer of surrender, asking God to shape us into disciples who live with open hands, humble hearts, and a deep dependence on Him.

#Humility #Discipleship #Faith #ChristianEncouragement #Testimony

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Anxiety is hard enough—but what about the fear of anxiety itself? So many of us live in dread of when fear might rise up again, and that cycle keeps us stuck. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a prayerful and practical approach to breaking free from the fear of fear.

Together, we’ll reflect on 2 Timothy 1:7, and I’ll guide you through simple ways to invite God’s peace into anxious moments: prayer, meditating on Scripture, journaling, and even going for a walk to notice His creation.

Remember: fear is a signal, not a sentence. God has given you a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind—and you don’t have to fight fear alone.

📖 Scripture: 2 Timothy 1:7
🙏 Practices: prayer, journaling, Scripture meditation, noticing God’s creation
🎙 Host: Christy Boulware, Founder of Fearless Unite

If this episode encourages you, please like, subscribe, and share with a friend who may need hope today.

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We’re pausing our usual Fearless Tips and Talks rhythm to bring you a special Soul Rest episode—an invitation to wind down your day in worship and peace. This is Soul Rest 5: Worship Meditation, a gentle and powerful time of Scripture-based prayer, progressive muscle relaxation, and deep soul connection with God.

Led by Shaye, this episode helps you release the stress of the day, quiet your thoughts, and rest in God’s presence. Whether you're overwhelmed, anxious, or simply in need of stillness, this guided meditation is a calming way to end your day anchored in truth.

We have four more FREE Soul Rest audio episodes to help you fall asleep in God’s peace—delivered straight to your phone.

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Let this episode be a reminder: you don’t have to strive for peace—just receive it.
Sleep well, friend.

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Are perfectionism, control, or a constant need for approval feeding your anxiety? You're not alone—and this conversation will help.

In Talk 61: Anxiety Answers, Christy Boulware sits down with trusted Christian counselor Dwain to unpack the root causes of anxiety and what we can do about it. Together, they explore the unholy trinity of perfectionism, control, and approval, explain the difference between healthy and unhealthy fear, and provide tangible tools for managing anxiety—spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

Whether you’ve experienced panic attacks, racing thoughts, or the tight grip of fear, this episode is full of truth, compassion, and practical steps for healing. You'll also hear personal testimonies and wisdom on how journaling, body awareness, community, faith, and even food all play a role in overcoming anxiety.

📌 Topics covered include:

• Perfectionism, control & approval as anxiety triggers
• The difference between fear, anxiety, and phobias
• What’s really happening during a panic attack
• Smoke alarms: how your body signals emotional distress
• The SIFT-B method for emotional check-ins
• Food, hormones, and the anxiety connection
• How to trust God when everything feels out of control
• The importance of community in healing

🙌 Let this episode be the fresh breath you didn’t know you needed. As Dwayne says, “To help another person breathe easier is to have succeeded.”

🎧 Subscribe for more Christ-centered mental health tools, and check out our other episodes on anxiety, healing, and walking in freedom.

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This conversation is raw, real, and necessary.

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friends from Pastors’ Wives Tell All to open up about a topic that has deeply impacted my journey—spiritual abuse, church hurt, and the evolving role of women in leadership. We unpack:

• What is spiritual abuse?
• How do we define church hurt?
• Why have these experiences shifted the way I advocate for mental health within the Church?

This episode meant so much to me that I asked permission to share it on Fearless Tips & Talks, because I know it will speak to many of you who have wrestled silently in these spaces.

Whether you’ve been hurt by church leadership, questioned your place in ministry, or just need language for what you’ve walked through—this episode is for you.

You’re not alone.

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In this powerful and honest conversation, Christy Boulware is joined by her husband Troy and pastors Devin and Dustin Thacker to explore what the Church should be—and where it’s gone wrong. Together, they dive into personal experiences, spiritual abuse, unhealthy leadership models, and the corporate mindset that has crept into many churches. From the pain of being discarded to the misuse of titles and programs over people, this episode holds space for real talk and real healing.

They also cast a hopeful vision of restoration: one rooted in discipleship, roundtable leadership, healthy conflict resolution, and a return to servant-hearted community. Whether you've been hurt by the Church or are longing to be part of a healthier one, this episode offers both empathy and direction.

Oh—and don’t miss the lighthearted French fry draft at the end!

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In this episode, we take a closer look at the honest doubts of two of Jesus' closest followers—Peter and Thomas. Peter doubted himself and denied Jesus. Thomas doubted the resurrection and needed proof. And yet, Jesus met them both with grace, not shame.

If you've ever wrestled with questions like: Is God really good? Can I trust Him? Did He actually rise from the dead?—you're not alone. Doubt doesn’t disqualify you. But it is an invitation to deeper faith.

It’s time to stop living faithless and start walking in resurrection power. Let’s talk about how Jesus meets us in our questions, restores our belief, and calls us to follow Him—even when we’re unsure.

God can handle your doubts. He just doesn’t want you to stay in them.

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