By some estimates, the voice in your head can spew up to 4000 words per minute, making it all the more important that we learn how to live with it. This can be especially hard when it's loud and critical, which (maybe you've noticed) it has a tendency to be at some of the most inopportune times: right before an important event. Today we discuss strategies for turning your inner critic into an inner coach before, during, and after a key performance. We discuss the neuroscience behind self-talk, its impact on your overall health and well-being, practices to reframe negative thoughts and to productively deal with failure, and the effect of the internet and cultural environment on our inner voices.

Books cited during this episode: "Chatter" by Ethan Kross

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Why are some people disciplined and others aren’t? It’s not because of an innate character trait, but because disciplined people have simply trained the skill of being disciplined. Today we break down how to do that by discussing how motivation and inspiration can (and often do) get in the way of discipline, the power of routines and constraints, strategies to embrace the discomfort of just getting started, the difference between positive and negative freedom, and the role that identity plays in discipline. Plus: dealing with the dread that comes from that one item on your to-do list that you can't ever get around to—and how to finally get around to doing it!

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This is the second of two episodes we're devoting to the topic of masculinity. Last week, in part one, we spoke with Richard Reeves about how changing ideas of what it means to be a man have left many men feeling adrift. Today, Brad, Steve, and Clay discuss that episode, reflect on some clips from a few other voices who've thought deeply about this issue, and open a conversation about potential solutions or ways forward. They talk about why the masculinity crisis is really a crisis of meaning, mattering, and mastery; highlight problems with the concept of the "alpha" male, particularly as its portrayed online; discuss pathways to meaningful socialization and personal growth; and propose expanding opportunities for genuine human connections as essential to counteracting the destabilizing effects of screens and the internet. Together, we can chart a better path forward for us all.

Check out "The Crisis of Masculinity, and Why It Matters For All of Us (Part 1)" here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/116-the-masculinity-crisis-and-why-it-matters-for-all/id1505257676?i=1000705663607

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