Our Guest for This Episode:

Susan Trotter

Susan Trotter, Ph.D. is a Relationship Coach who is passionate about helping people to feel confident and empowered in their lives. She has expertise in dating, relationships and divorce, with a special interest in the areas of mindset and communication.

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Summary

In this episode of the Better Than Bitter Podcast, Tania Leichliter and Dr. Susan Trotter discuss the importance of intentional dating during and after divorce. They explore how to prepare for life post-divorce, the significance of understanding one's intentions in dating, and the challenges of navigating relationships after betrayal. The conversation emphasizes effective communication strategies, the impact of narcissism, and the necessity of building self-trust and independence. Key takeaways include the importance of clarity in intentions, the value of positive reinforcement, and the need for personal growth before entering new relationships.

• Start thinking about your post-divorce life before you get there.
• Clarity around your intentions in dating is crucial.
• Every experience has lessons that can inform future relationships.
• You can't control what others do, only how you respond.
• Effective communication is key to healthy relationships.
• Positive reinforcement encourages good behavior in others.
• Narcissism exists on a spectrum; be aware of it in relationships.
• Pay attention to behavior over time to understand a partner.
• Building self-trust is essential after a divorce.
• You must do the hard work on yourself before dating again.

Navigating Intentional Dating After Divorce

Building a Brighter Future Post-Divorce

Sound Bites

"Don't date for the wrong reasons."

"Every experience has lessons for us."

"Narcissism is a continuum."

00:00 Introduction to Intentional Dating

02:38 Preparing for Life After Divorce

05:05 Understanding Intentions in Dating

08:43 Learning from Past Relationships

10:54 Navigating Betrayal and Trust Issues

11:45 Regaining Power After Betrayal

13:57 Effective Communication Strategies

17:59 Building a Foundation of Goodwill

19:43 Leading with Positivity in Communication

20:06 Understanding Narcissism and Its Impact

21:15 Navigating Relationships with Narcissistic Individuals

23:04 Recognizing Patterns in Dating After Divorce

25:02 The Importance of Observing Behavior Over Time

27:46 Building Independence and Trusting Yourself

31:50 Intentional Dating and Clarity of Purpose

37:09 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

38:38 Resources for Support and Growth

intentional dating, divorce recovery, relationship coaching, self-awareness, communication skills, trust rebuilding, narcissism, emotional healing, dating after divorce, personal growth

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