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Episode 3: Perfectionism

Episode 3: Perfectionism

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 My, my, my… How are we already on our THIRD episode? If you’ve been listening in so far, thank you! And if you’re just checking us out for the first time, welcome! We’re glad you’re here.Most of us have expected nothing short of perfect from ourselves at one point or another. And why wouldn’t we? Society has done a banger of a job at making us believe it’s the most important element of success and happiness. Sure, it might not be fed to us exactly like that, but it’s hidden in other messaging: The parent who asked why you got 90% and not 100% on that math test, the “guru” motivational speaker who says you must follow these exact steps to reach the C-Suite, or the beauty professional who suggests a few injections could make your face look a whole lot better—when you’re just there to buy mascara.In this episode, we dig into the quest for perfectionism in a world where there is, in fact, no perfect. Humans are so silly. But don’t worry, we share some fun stories along the way.We also referenced two of our books. If you want to find out more you can do that on our author sites:You’re Not LazyLove Lives HereTranscript[00:00:00] Rowan: what I need to remember for myself is I bring my own uniqueness to anything that I do, so it doesn't have to this brand new, perfect, seamless concept.[00:00:37] Lara: Hi everyone. Welcome to unboxing it. I'm Lara Wellman. And I am Rowan Jte Knox. And we are back today with another episode to talk about another fun, and sort of mind bending. If you think about it, the topic, perfection,[00:00:54] Rowan: perfection or perf perfection or see this is, this is. I'm gonna tell this story at some point today because I think it's a good one.But are we doing perfection? Are we doing perfectionism? And what is the difference between the two? That's a good question, right? Like perfection is getting something perfect and perfectionism to me is like is seeking to get everything perfect.[00:01:21] Lara: I think it's both. I think it's both because. We are seeking to make things perfect, but I also think there is no perfect.[00:01:29] Rowan: It's true. There's no perfect except you, of course. But you know, this is how I score podcast points and I need to score podcast points because I'm gonna tell the listeners what happened today. it's actually in its own way. Perfect. so I texted you this morning and I said. Hey. so I did not write down what time we're recording this podcast today.I forgot to put it in my calendar. And also I did not write down what the topic was that we ended up choosing, 'cause we were going back and forth on a couple of them. so, could you give those answers and you said, we're recording at 11. The topic is, perfectionism. And I was like, well, isn't that just excellent?I'm like, I'm the opposite. I won, I won the perfectionism game.[00:02:17] Lara: Well, I think we both did because I was then able to say , I, I said, I. But can we, can we push it? Right. I guess. I don't feel ready. and I think that this sort of, you know, straddles between two of the topics. We're now talking about perfectionism and people pleasing because you're like, oh no, I have not.Been perfect. I have not figured out how to be ready, even though I don't want to be right now, and I don't wanna let you down and ask you to move things, but I did and it was fine. Right? Here we go. This is like us living our lessons in real time so that we can talk about them with full authenticity.[00:02:56] Rowan: It's true. And I was like, I could and, and, and believe me, I thought about it as a recovering people pleaser, I thought. About not telling you that I had no idea what we were talking about today, and I, I was like, I have media training. Like I can just go in there and not know what I'm doing and then wing it, you know, which can work out.Pretty well sometimes and kind of only sort of, well, other times. But regardless if you don't see the shock looked on my face, you're, you're just gonna be like, all right, cool. So he is not as prepared. But he did know what we were talking about today, but I definitely did not. I had no idea.And it's funny how hard we are on ourselves, right? Like as adults, we have. 50,000 things to think about every week. And I don't even think I'm exaggerating, especially these days. There's so much going on. Everything is moving so quickly and yet we're still focused on this idea of getting it all right all the time.it has been pervasive in my own life for sure.[00:03:56] Lara: So let's jump right into the whole topic 'cause this is one I like to talk about often. It's one that has come up. Very regularly for me as a business coach talking to people, helping people move forward in their business because perfectionism. Is the kind of thing that holds us back, right?So when we are trying to make sure that we are doing things, you know, quote unquote perfectly, we often don't think we've achieved that and therefore we are never ready to start, right?...

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