The Jesus People Podcast | Jeff & Shaunti Feldhahn: Marriage Secrets, Kindness Challenge & Real-Talk Intimacy

In this marriage-masterclass episode of The Jesus People Podcast, Harvard-trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and her husband Jeff pull back the curtain on 20 years of data-driven insight—and their own story—to reveal what actually makes Christian marriages thrive.

From the surprising power of a simple “thank you,” to decoding why men shut down and women feel unseen, to navigating porn recovery and mismatched sex drives, the Feldhahns deliver research-backed answers wrapped in grace, humor, and gospel hope. If you’ve ever asked, “Why won’t my spouse open up?” or “How do we get our spark back?” this conversation is your quick-start guide.

Key Highlights:

-The “Quick-Start Guide” for Understanding Your Spouse

-How Jeff turned relationship research into guy-friendly cliff notes.

-Two Core Insecurities that secretly drive most arguments—and how to soothe them.

-Initiating vs. Receptive Desire

-Why 73 % of wives (and plenty of husbands) don’t “feel in the mood” until after things start.

-30-Day Kindness Challenge—the one-sided experiment that healed 89 % of strained relationships.

-Pornography & Competence Wounds

-A fresh framework for wives who feel betrayed and husbands who feel stuck.

-Practical Scripts for conflict-free communication, anticipation time, and rebuilding trust.

-If your marriage (or future marriage) needs a faith-filled boost in communication, intimacy, or everyday kindness, hit play—and share it with a friend who could use some hope.

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