Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary.

Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The First Penguin Dilemma

02:16 Modeling Behavior as Parents

05:02 The Importance of Authenticity

08:04 Going First in Emotional Regulation

10:54 The Shift to Coaching from Parenting

14:05 The 2 Big Coaching Stoppers

16:36 Powerful First Penguin Questions

Takeaways

-The first penguin metaphor illustrates the fear of being first in challenging situations.

-Parents must model emotional resilience for their teens.

-Teens are adept at detecting inauthenticity in adults.

-Modeling behavior is crucial for teaching teens about habits and attitudes.

-Parents should be conscious of their actions--you are always being observed by your teens.

-Going first as a parent can lead to meaningful conversations about struggles and growth.

-Parents should seek coaching and show their willingness to learn to set an example for their teens.

-Overcoming personal barriers to change is essential for effective parenting.

-Asking for feedback can help you identify areas for improvement.

-It all starts with parents modeling changes.

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