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EP 235: Feel the Fear & DO IT Anyway, Get Support Anyway! ~ Why Recovery Anxiety Is Your Green Light to Freedom

EP 235: Feel the Fear & DO IT Anyway, Get Support Anyway! ~ Why Recovery Anxiety Is Your Green Light to Freedom

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 What if the fear you feel about getting help for your eating disorder isn't a warning to stay away - but actually your internal compass pointing toward freedom? In this powerful episode, Lindsey shares wisdom from her 7-year-old son who said, "When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave." If you're feeling afraid to ask for help, scared to gain weight, or terrified of actually getting better, this tough-love episode will show you why those butterflies are your invitation to do the bravest thing you've ever done. Key Takeaways Fear isn't a stop sign - it's a compass pointing toward your breakthroughIf you could recover on your own, you already would haveThose flutters aren't warning you away from help - they're pointing you toward itYou don't feel brave first and then act brave - you act brave while feeling scaredReady is a feeling that comes AFTER you take action, not before Main Topics Covered The 7-Year-Old's Wisdom Lindsey's son facing his first day of second grade without his big brother"When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave"How children understand fear differently than adultsKids feel scared and do the thing anyway - adults build cases for why they should wait The Real Fears Keeping You Prisoner Fear of asking for help (admitting you can't do this alone)Fear of gaining weight (worth tied to a number on the scale)Fear of actually getting better (losing your eating disorder identity)Fear of investing in yourself (what if you spend money and don't change?) The Lie You've Been Believing About Fear If something feels scary, it must be wrong for youHeart racing when thinking about help = "not the right time"Anxiety about meal plans = "body not ready"Terror about recovery = "maybe not meant for me"Truth: Fear means it matters, it's important, you're about to grow Why Recovery Feels More Terrifying Than Staying Sick The "Safety" Illusion: Staying sick feels familiar = brain labels as "safe"Recovery feels unknown = brain labels as "dangerous" Reality Check - How "Safe" Is: Spending every moment thinking about foodMissing life because you're afraid of restaurantsMeasuring worth by what you ate yesterdayLiving in constant body anxietyIsolating because eating around others feels impossible What Bravery Looks Like in Recovery Admitting you need help when you want to prove independenceFollowing someone's guidance who has been there and recovered when ED voice screams it's too muchGaining weight when diet culture says smaller is betterInvesting money in recovery when you've never felt worth itShowing up to therapy and being honest instead of pretending you're fine The Wisdom Gap: Children vs. Adults Children: Feel scared → Do the thing anyway Adults: Feel scared → Analyze, overthink, research, wait Adult Excuses: "I'm not ready yet""I need to think about this more""I should try on my own one more time""What if it doesn't work?""I can't afford it right now" Fear as Your GPS System Sick feeling about calling a coach = "This way to freedom"Anxiety about meals = "This way to healing"Terror about recovering = compass pointing toward the life you've been dreaming about Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Fear isn't a stop sign. Fear is a compass pointing you toward your breakthrough.""If you could recover on your own, you already would have.""Fear doesn't mean it's wrong. Fear means it matters.""Those flutters aren't telling you to run from recovery - they're telling you you're about to do something incredibly brave.""You don't feel brave first and then do brave things. You do brave things while feeling scared." The Cost of Playing It Safe Questions to Consider: How's playing it safe working out for you?How's trying to manage this ED on your own been going?How's waiting until you feel "ready" been serving your recovery? The Reality: Everything you're afraid of losing by being brave, you'll replace with something infinitely betterPlaying it safe = staying in a familiar prisonTaking action despite fear = walking toward freedom What Going All In Actually Means Not perfection, but: Being willing to be imperfect in the direction of healingReaching out for professional help despite vulnerabilityFollowing meal plans despite ED resistanceGaining weight despite diet culture programmingInvesting in yourself despite never feeling worth itShowing up to therapy even when you want to cancel The Decision Point Two Choices: Let fear drive your bus (stay stuck in eating disorder)Feel the fear and drive anyway (choose recovery despite butterflies) The Truth: Butterflies aren't telling you to turn aroundThey're telling you you're at the edge of your comfort zoneAll growth happens outside your comfort zone Signs This Episode Is For You You feel afraid to ask for help with your eating disorderYou're waiting to feel "ready" before taking actionYou've been trying to recover on your own without successThe thought of gaining weight ...
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