In this episode of the Changeology podcast, I’m walking you through one of the most persistent—and insidious—roadblocks I see in my work with women navigating big life or career changes: the SHOULDs.

These aren’t just annoying expectations or to-do list items. They’re internalized stories that dictate how we think, behave, and make decisions—without our conscious consent. In this solo episode, I unpack what Shoulds really are, where they come from, and why they hold so much power over us. I also walk you through a three-step coaching exercise to help you identify, explore, and reclaim your authority over the SHOULDs running your life on autopilot.

Whether you’re stuck in a job that no longer fits, people-pleasing your way through burnout, or second-guessing every decision you make as a parent, this episode offers both insight and action steps to help you start clearing the weeds.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

🌟 Why “I should…” statements are often a sign of unconscious programming, not actual values
🌟 The three types of SHOULDs—and how they quietly influence your choices
🌟 How to identify the weeds in your mental garden (and what it takes to clear them out)
🌟 A journaling-based coaching exercise to help you keep the shoulds that serve you—and ditch the ones that don’t

If you want support dismantling the stories that no longer serve you—and designing a life that actually does—check the show notes for info about working together 1:1.

The REAL Change Kickstart is a 45-day 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help you:

• Identify the behaviors keeping you stuck
• Unlearn what is no longer serving you
• Create new patterns that align with what you truly want

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Interested in longer-term support for making a significant change? You can apply to work with Meg here.

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In this episode of Pocket Change—the bite-sized series of the Changeology podcast—I tackle one of the most insidious forms of resistance to personal growth: the naysayer.

You know the type. You're fired up about a new job opportunity, a creative leap, or a major life change... and someone close to you responds with doubt, concern, or thinly veiled criticism. Even if it's well-meaning, it stings…and it can completely derail your momentum.

This solo episode unpacks why people naysay (yep, we’re making that a verb), how to spot what’s really going on beneath their concern, and how to decide whether to consider their input—or whether to ignore it completely. Whether you’re navigating a new goal or finally giving voice to a long-held dream, this one’s a (short!) must-listen.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

🌟 Why naysayers' doubts can hit harder than you'd expect—even when you trust yourself

🌟 Four practical strategies to protect your energy and keep your momentum

🌟 How to spot the difference between valid caution and someone else's fear masquerading as advice

🌟 A subtle but powerful script for redirecting unwanted opinions before they sabotage your change

The REAL Change Kickstart is a 45-day 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help you:

• Identify the behaviors keeping you stuck
• Unlearn what is no longer serving you
• Create new patterns that align with what you truly want

Click here to get started.

Interested in longer-term support for making a significant change? You can apply to work with Meg here.

Want to learn more about the art, science, philosophy, and psychology of making significant life changes? Sign up HERE for my weekly newsletter and have the Changeology podcast delivered straight into your inbox!

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In this episode of the Changeology podcast, I’m joined by therapist, author, and relationship coach Katie Rössler, whose work focuses on hidden grief, emotional intelligence, and building strong, self-aware relationships.

Katie brings a fresh perspective to what really happens behind the scenes when we go through big life transitions—like career shifts, perimenopause, parenting aging parents, or simply outgrowing old versions of ourselves. She works with individuals, couples, and companies to teach the real-world skills most of us never learned growing up: how to handle change and stay connected in the process.

This conversation is for you if you’ve ever asked: “Why does it feel like everything is shifting—including my relationships?” Katie helps us unpack what’s really happening when we start to feel stuck, distant, or unsure in our partnerships—and how to use those moments as opportunities to grow.

Whether you're navigating a major life transition or just starting to feel the itch for something different, this episode will help you reflect, reassess, and reconnect—with yourself and the people who matter most.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

🌟 Why questioning your relationship during a transition isn’t a red flag—it’s a growth signal

🌟 The “plant in the closet” metaphor that explains how relationships get neglected (and how to revive them)

🌟 How to handle grief that comes with change—even when it’s not tied to loss in the traditional sense

🌟 The essential communication and self-awareness skills every couple needs—but most of us were never taught

Connect with Katie:

www.katierossler.com/18-questions
https://www.instagram.com/katie.rossler/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/katierossler/
www.katierossler.com

The REAL Change Kickstart is a 45-day 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help you:

• Identify the behaviors keeping you stuck
• Unlearn what is no longer serving you
• Create new patterns that align with what you truly want

Click here to get started.

Interested in longer-term support for making a significant change? You can apply to work with Meg here.

Want to learn more about the art, science, philosophy, and psychology of making significant life changes? Sign up HERE for my weekly newsletter and have the Changeology podcast delivered straight into your inbox!

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