Episodes

  • Many Ways to Learn about your Filipina wife AFTER marriage

    Many Ways to Learn about your Filipina wife AFTER marriage
    Mar 5 2021
    This is a continuation of a previous podcast about how to know your Filipina well after you marry her. Of course, there are some things you want to know before you get married but the learning experience doesn’t stop there. Today I will talk about some more ways to keep learning about your Filipina wife. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and learn about finding and experiencing marital love. Leave comments and get notifications for upcoming videos. Here are some learning opportunities- Being away from family-While your Filipina wife could likely still spend time with family while in the Philippines, being so very far away will be something she may not have had a chance to experience.  If she had been a OFW she has a head start in this regard, if not, you will be learning and helping her make this big adjustment.  You will learn how much time she spends on social media and need to be sensitive to that.  If it is too much, then it will be important to find a way a good way to allow her to continue doing this but not so much that it interferes with your ability to relate to her. How she is adjusting to your country-You won’t be able to know this until after marriage also.  How is she adjusting to the different currency?  The colder weather? Your family? The different food? Being away from her long-time friends?  The language? Anything new to her will be something she could use your help with adjusting to.  How will she handle making and having more money than ever before? You will discover how eager she is to ask for help for certain things. Her health-Her health will also be something you will need to learn about as it is possible that she wasn’t able to or avoided regular-check-ups with a doctor.  She might have some issues but not know it.  These are just some ways the Filipina’s husband will learn more about his wife and can be supportive and understanding. What a Filipina needs: Here are some areas I believe your Filipina absolutely will need you to understand about her after you are married-I will post some links where some of this info comes from. Listen to her sincerely: Observe her words, body language, and circumstances in order to compassionately understand her. Make eye contact with her, and ask thoughtful questions, like “How did that affect you?” or basic who/what/where/when/why/how questions. Study her, what pressure is she under? What does she need to feel loved? What are her passions, her skills, gifts and abilities? What energizes her? What does she despise? What does she need to feel safe? Is there someone in her life who is bothering her? To Know She's Loved-You will need to learn how she needs you to express it to her, as we talked about earlier. Understanding and Forgiveness-Forgiveness is a necessity to remaining married to someone. Real Conversation-Having left everything to be with a foreign husband, she will need him to be available to talk to her about more than just the bills, taking care of the children, are chores getting done.  A Filipina might tend to be quiet so it helps if the foreigner asks her regularly how she is feeling, if he can do anything for her, if her needs are getting met, etc. Quality Time With Her (and Your Children)-My wife is able to keep busy without me but there are times she needs me to just be with her, just to eat with her, to rest in bed together.  She doesn’t always need to be talking to me.  The Filipina will have to decide what quality time means.  What it means to me is simply just being with my wife. It can also mean sharing the moment at a movie or watching something on TV. It can mean having a serious talk about something too. To Hear "Yes" More Than "No"-Not yes always but she shouldn’t be afraid or not confident she can ask you for something or to do something.  You can know before marrying her that she will want to hear “yes” more often than she hears “no”. Better Listening Skills-You can already know that your Filipina will need you to learn how to be a good listener. You know how it is, as guys we tend to think that being a good listener means quickly grasping what the problem is that she is having and then giving a salient solution. But this really isn’t about comprehension or solution, it is about letting her say what’s on her mind, what’s bothering her, and being able to remain silent.  Listen to the podcast for even more ways to learn aobut your Filipina wife AFTER marriage, which is when most of it is going to happen. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-women-want-from-husbands-2303313 https://www.brides.com/story/ways-to-get-closer-to-husband-wife www.5lovelanguages.com    
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    17 mins
  • Wanting to Marry a Virgin when you are not a Virgin

    Wanting to Marry a Virgin when you are not a Virgin
    Mar 8 2021

    I hear see this from time to time, a man who has had sex with multiple women in his life, now wants to settle down, however, a big priority he has is to marry a virgin. Is this not a double standard? He is allowed to have fun with any woman he wants but, the right woman for him should avoid men until he is ready to marry her? Casting Beyond The Sea is the channel for Fil-West Higher Education and I want to help make marriage great again. Love is my business, and business is good, but when I see men wanting a virgin when they have been a player, something seems wrong about that.

    I am going to ask a lot of questions and I want you to contribute the answers; give me your response, share your experiences. This is not an everyday podcast topic but I prefer to deal with important matters if you have seen my podcasts and videos. Sometimes I think many people aren’t interested in that or maybe sometimes I hit too close to home. You have permission to talk about this tonight.

    This podcast is about the idea of a non-virgin man insisting on a virgin woman to marry. Why do men think so highly of virgins? I mean, at one point virginity is mocked and ridiculed, then later it is so highly prized like gold at the end of a rainbow. Listen and find out the logic of a player or former player insisting on marrying a virgin.
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    22 mins
  • 100 How to Make Future Plans with a Filipina-Important!

    100 How to Make Future Plans with a Filipina-Important!
    Mar 15 2021

    It is clearly important to have basic knowledge of the Filipina you want to marry or have married, and it is important to have commonality in important areas and having good relationship skills is a must. If a couple aren’t on the same page for their future plans, that needs to be worked on.  I have heard it said that a team is only as strong is its biggest weakness.  If a foreigner marries a Filipina, they may have a lot going for them, but if their weakness is their future plans being the same, that would spell trouble. Does this make sense? 

    My business is love and business is good. If you want the best Fil-West marriage advice, you are at the right place.

    Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and Love Beyond The Sea on YouTube where I will talk about anything I am learning that would help a foreign man excel with a Filipina. I know from experience how wonderful and exhilarating it is to go to the other side of the world to find the wife I have wanted a very long time.  All the communication, adjustments, travel, meeting the family, visa paperwork and fees.  You tell yourself it is all worth it when you are together, and that’s true. Eventually the bloom comes off the rose and the usual challenges of two sinful people show up.  We all go through that.

    As I say that, I think how many couples end up not even having a future as the relationship gets short circuited due to any number of things, one of which could be your future plans not being in sync. Naturally, when you marry a Filipina it will be a while before the topic of future plans really becomes urgent. I am not sure exactly how important it is to talk about that when dating because you are usually focusing more on the present and the immediate future and it is possible you haven’t thought that far ahead. 
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    21 mins
  • 101 Value the Filipina Quality of Unselfishness

    101 Value the Filipina Quality of Unselfishness
    Mar 17 2021

    When I began to consider marrying a Filipina, I only knew that I had heard they made good wives. I really didn’t have anything to go on as to why they made good wives. I knew I had long been attracted to their physical make up since I am attracted to their size and skin tone. You can’t base a marriage on that alone and since I have been married to a Filipina for almost five years, I have had a chance to learn up close and personal of the qualities that make a Filipina, the right one, a great wife. 

    Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and Love Beyond The Sea which is my YouTube channel, that strives to help encourage and equip foreign men in pursuit of a Filipina to marry. 

    Some qualities they are known for are being respectful, cheerful, shy, hard-working, generous, resourceful and they love their families.  I would like to focus a little on the quality of being unselfish. You may have heard how Filipinas support their families, unfortunately sometimes to their own hurt.  We can debate whether or not it is from feeling compelled to do so, genuine love or a combination of both, but helping as they frequently do, does require a certain amount of unselfishness. I would appreciate comments from viewers about the ways they have observed the Filipina in their life be unselfish, to them, their families, to anyone. Here are some ways I have observed it myself.
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    10 mins
  • 102 Is there Anything Good about Getting Older?

    102 Is there Anything Good about Getting Older?
    Mar 25 2021

    This is a podcast that many of you should be able to relate to; if you are already older you can relate to this right now and if not, you will be able to relate to this later. That’s getting older; growing old. What’s good about that? I am facing that and I want to be optimistic about the future I have left. Since Casting Beyond The Sea and Love Beyond The Sea are channels designed to Make Marriage Great Again and is for Higher Fil-West Education, you can bet that there is a component of marriage in here today, but a lot of it won’t be about the great blessing of matrimony.

    Sometimes I feel like on Casting Beyond The Sea that I go where no man dares to go; today will be in that vein as the topic is aging or getting old. I am quite sure I will not cover everything here so please leave comments.

    I am 59. They say youth is wasted on the young and it’s true that young people often don’t appreciate their youth and take for granted the energy, vitality and future they have. However, we aren’t going to enjoy that all the days of our lives if we live a long life, like many of us want to. Medicine is helping to keep people alive longer these days but are they living better?

    I recognize that YouTube is often about having frivolous videos meant to entertain, and that’s fine but many videos are just plain vapid. You don’t learn anything, but on Love Beyond The Sea, I’d like to think I am saying things that people can learn something from. I tend to be serious and that is needed too. Now, let’s talk about what is happening to all of us-we are getting older...
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    22 mins
  • 103 Former NASCAR driver Danica Patrick will Finish Last being Too Picky

    103 Former NASCAR driver Danica Patrick will Finish Last being Too Picky
    Mar 31 2021

    Having options-that’s good. Being too picky-not good, not advised. None of us are getting any younger; even Dick Clark defied aging for a long time but he too, succumbed to Father Time. I am going to make my point again about being too picky by talking about this article (link will be provided). You may be familiar with former NASCAR driver Danica Patrick. She is very wealthy (estimated net worth of 80 million dollars), eligible to be married…but why do I think this might not happen?

    She has been married, had a five-year relationship with another driver and was most recently with Aaron Rogers of the Green Bay Packers (Danica is from Wisconsin). She has also starred in many music videos and advertisements. In addition, she also modeled for ‘Sports Illustrated’. However, being picky might end up being more like a flat tire or running out of gas, then crossing the checkered flag and ending up with a spouse. Subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for marriage talk. Once in a while I will talk about love dolls or hindrances in society to getting married and sometimes mention some celebrities, you know, the ones you would think wouldn’t have relational issues because, well, they have it all right?

    They can be picky, be choosy, but a lot of the time that doesn’t seem to work out. I will talk about an article I read that I will link right here- https://people.com/sports/danica-patrick-next-partner-going-to-be-extremely-high-quality-person/?amp=true
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    14 mins
  • 104 Am I Part of the Philippines Vlogging Community?

    104 Am I Part of the Philippines Vlogging Community?
    Apr 1 2021

    Since starting the YouTube channel Love Beyond The Sea on Valentines Day of 2018, I have kind of struggled with how I should market it. After seeking marriage for an astounding 30 years of the prime of my life and been found wanting, in 2015 I found what I was missing and what I had been searching for-marriage! The woman I married in less than eight weeks from the other side of the world, the Philippines, is still my wife today and I believe we will be together until one of us dies. Yet, even I am not sure that qualifies me to be part of the Philippines vlogging community. That could be a good thing or a bad thing.

    This channel is about making marriage great again. Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea and it may help you decide if you want to pursue marriage or if you want to go your own way. I think the Bible makes it clear marriage is the absolute best for almost all men and women.

    My impression is that there are basically two types of Philippines vlogging channels on YouTube and they are the sexpats and the families who are basically displaying their daily lives on their channels. The former is fraught with drama and the latter is mostly drama free. I do think that there is a stigma about the community, namely because of the preponderance of sexpat channels. I won’t name names, if you are aware of the scene, then you know who I am referring to. There are a small number of channels that attack the sexpats, are not married, and do not offer relationship advice, so that is out there too.

    I will talk about whether or not I fit into that mold.
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    11 mins
  • 105 1-50 Practical ways to make your Filipina feel loved Part 1

    105 1-50 Practical ways to make your Filipina feel loved Part 1
    Apr 2 2021
    I have a list of 100 ways to love a woman, our interest being a Filipina, that is from marriagemissions.com and is from an anonymous author and I will link it in the description box. These are all practical but not something you might think about during the day but they are valuable for me to get out there and hope this resonates with some men in a relationship with a Filipina. Because she is coming from so very far away, the husband might need to be extra good at doing the little things that make his Filipina wife feel loved. I will put as much of this as there is room for in the description box. Guys don’t normally sit around and talk about this so I’d like to do this here on Casting Beyond The Sea.  Please subscribe for information to help you decide if you should pursue a Filipina to marry and for how to have a good relationship with her. This would be a good occasion to comment on what helps your Filipina feel loved.  If you can do these kinds of things, your chances of having a solid and lasting relationship with a Filipina go way up. I have maintained the man, the husband needs to lead or give direction to the relationship, and here are some good ways how, and remember that much of what I talk about can be used with any woman. 1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife. 2. Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled. 3. Communicate with her instead of talking AT her or shutting her out emotionally. 4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings. 5. Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific. 6. Show interest in her friends and if they are trustworthy, give her time to be with them. 7. Do something active together to lift her spirit —even taking a walk hand-in-hand. 8. Express to her that you need and value her. 9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it. 10. Find something that makes you laugh together.  11. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently. 12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks. 13. Try not to make sudden changes without discussing them with her first. 14. Show interest in that which she values as important in her life. 15. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive. 16. When you feel you must correct her, be gentle —speak the truth in LOVE. 17. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey) 18. Show her that she matters more to you than any one you could be with, that threatens her security in your marriage. 19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says. 20. Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together. Additional Suggestions: 21. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once. 22. Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward). 23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year. 24. Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven). 25. Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas of life. 26. Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with her—not taking her for granted. 27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that! 28. Defend her to others—especially to your family. 29. Don’t belittle her intelligence. 30. Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her neck—whatever she’d prefer. 31. Get up in the middle of the night (let her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child. 32. Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well. 33. When she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” —actually give her details. 34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together. 35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead. 36. Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others. 37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her. 38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her. 39. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention whenever possible. 40. Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her. More Suggestions: 41. Keep away from anything that gives you sexual gratification, other than your wife. 42. Be helpful, both before and during the time you have visitors in your home. (If you’re not sure of what to do, ask your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”) 43. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you. 44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift. 45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late. 46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants...
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    24 mins