Ever tried hypnosis and thought, “Cool… nothing is happening,” while everyone else in the comments claims their soul left their body?

Same.

In this episode, we’re pulling hypnosis out of the movie version and into real life. No clucking like a chicken. No blacking out. No dramatic “going under.” Just an honest, funny, science-backed conversation about what hypnosis actually is, why it often feels subtle, and why your brain isn’t broken if you’re still aware of everything.

We talk about blinking aggressively during guided sessions, noticing every swallow, wondering if you left the dryer running, and why all of that is way more normal than you’ve been led to believe. From stage hypnosis myths to clinical hypnotherapy reality, we break down what’s actually happening in your brain and nervous system when you’re in a trance state.

This episode blends clinical insight, nervous system education, pop culture references, and variety-show chaos, because learning about mental health shouldn’t feel like homework.

We cover:

• What hypnosis really is (and what it definitely is not)
• Why hypnosis often feels calm, subtle, and very awake
• The myth of “going under” and where it came from
• Why overthinkers, anxious minds, and neurodivergent brains are not bad at hypnosis
• How hypnosis overlaps with meditation, NSDR, EMDR, and brainspotting
• Why watching TV, driving on autopilot, or losing your keys is already a trance state
• The difference between stage hypnosis, clinical hypnotherapy, and coaching-based hypnosis
• When self-hypnosis can be helpful and when working with a trained practitioner matters
• Why ethical practice and scope of care actually matter in this space

We talk about:

• 00:00 – New setup, unhinged hypotheticals, and stage hypnosis chaos
• 03:15 – Why hypnosis fascinates us (and confuses everyone)
• 06:05 – Listener question, “Why does hypnosis feel like nothing is happening?”
• 09:10 – Am I not hypnotizable? Overthinking, awareness, and myth busting
• 12:40 – What hypnosis actually is (clinical explanation without the snooze)
• 16:30 – The brain science, trance states, and nervous system regulation
• 20:10 – Why watching TV, driving, and losing your keys is already hypnosis
• 23:15 – Stage hypnosis vs clinical hypnotherapy (and why movies lied)
• 27:20 – Hypnosis, ADHD, anxiety, and neurodivergent brains
• 31:05 – Self-hypnosis, YouTube videos, and what actually helps
• 35:40 – When hypnosis is helpful (and when it needs clinical support)
• 40:10 – Pain, gut health, IBS, and what the research actually shows
• 44:30 – Common myths, fears, and losing control concerns
• 48:20 – What hypnosis usually feels like (heavy, light, time distortion)
• 52:10 – Why subtle doesn’t mean ineffective
• 55:00 – Final thoughts, nervous system wisdom, and reframing “nothing happened”

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Music is literally the soundtrack of our lives – and music can be incredibly healing when used in the right way. In this episode of But For Real, Valerie and Emerson dive into the ins and outs of music therapy, how and why it works, and how you can start your own music therapy journey.

This episode covers:

• 04:12 - Tea & Crumpets: Virginia Giuffre’s memoir: Nobody’s Girl + Take Back Your Marriage by Bill Doherty
• 09:47 - Step Into My Office: Could music therapy be right for me, even if I’m not “musical”?
• 15:03 - The DSM: What Even Is Music Therapy?
• 40:02 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 43:34 - Val Pick: "Does Not Suffice" by Joanna Newsom
• 46:40 - Em Pick: "29" by Demi Lovato
• 47:11 - Wait...What? Is this gonna ruin the tour?
• 49:01 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: Fishing as an option for mental health treatment + A stray dog that turned into a service dog has just been crowned the 2025 Hero Dog Award by the American Humane Society!

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• Nobody's Girl by Virginia Roberts Giuffre
• Take Back Your Marriage by Bill Doherty
• American Music Therapy Association
• How to find a certified MT-BC
• Does Not Suffice by Joanna Newsom
• 29 by Demi Lovato
• Fishing as an option for mental health treatment
• A stray dog that turned into a service dog has just been crowned the 2025 Hero Dog Award by the American Humane Society!

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• Now That's...

Conversations around self-growth are all over every media platform these days – and while introspection and commitment to growth and change is important, it’s easy for it to be an all consuming trap that’s actually the opposite of growth.

In this episode, Valerie and Emerson take a deep dive into the history of the self-growth industrial complex, explore what’s useful, debunk what’s not, and give you real advice on how to tackle self-improvement without spiraling.

This episode covers:

• 05:26 - Tea & Crumpets: Bob Trevino Likes It + the Abbey Yung hair method
• 10:42 - Step Into My Office: How do I know when self-growth is actually healthy vs. when it’s becoming too much?
• 21:55 - The DSM: The Self-Growth Industrial Complex
• 43:09 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 44:46 - Em Pick: "Love Myself" by Olivia O'Brien
• 47:41 - Val Pick: "Adventures in Success" by Will Powers
• 48:19 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: 9 year old aspiring pediatric neuro-surgeon Aiden Wilkins very well may become the youngest doctor in the world + The Greenagers group gets youths to love the outdoors

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• Bob Trevino Likes It
• Abbey Yung hair method
• Love Myself by Olivia O’Brien
• Adventures in Success by Will Powers
• 9 year old aspiring pediatric neuro-surgeon Aiden Wilkins
• The Greenagers group gets youths to love the outdoors

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Today we have such an exciting episode and a special guest. Santasha Wright-Comer, LMSW, is a Sex-Informed Therapist here The Gaia Center who believes healing and pleasure go hand in hand. A proud wife and mom of two, Santasha brings both warmth and realness into her work, especially when supporting LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities in finding safety, joy, and intimacy in their relationships. When she’s not in session, you can catch her in dance class, laughing with her family, or researching the latest mods for The Sims 4.

In this episode, SanTasha shares so much wisdom related to sex therapy, sex positivity, and kink.

This episode covers:

• 03:13 - Tea & Crumpets: Listers: A Glimpse Into Extreme Birdwatching - from Owen & Quentin Reiser, Unknown Number: The High School Catfish on Netflix, and The Sims
• 09:10 - Step Into My Office: How do I bring up kink with my partner?
• 13:57 - The DSM: Sex Therapy & Kink
• 45:55 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 47:24 - SanTasha pick: "Persuasive:" by Doechii
• 48:30 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: Mile long table in Denver CO sat thousands of people who wanted to connect and be in community with one another, and Who Gives a Crap,
• 52:49 - Rapid Fire Q&A

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• Listers: A Glimpse Into Extreme Birdwatching
• Unknown Number: The High School Catfish
• The Sims

Connect with SanTasha:

• gaiacenter.co/meet-santasha
• instagram.com/santashawc

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• The Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co

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