In this episode, Valerie and Emerson dive into an always controversial topic: infidelity. They explore what infidelity actually is, statistics, why people cheat, cultural considerations, and the role therapy can play.

This episode covers:

• 03:28 - Tea & Crumpets: The Osbournes and Shrinking Season 2
• 06:08 - Step Into My Office: HELP! My friend is cheating…
• 10:04 - The DSM: THE hottest debate in all media ever and IRL relationships… let’s talk about INFIDELITY
• 38:29 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 41:52 - Emerson’s Pick: "My Mind" by Yebba
• 46:45 - Valerie’s Pick: "I Write Sins Not Tragedies" by Panic! At the Disco
• 47:53 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: A former chef helping street dogs after they gave him hope in his darkest days & Dan Pelzer’s legacy

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• Prolific reader, former Marine and social worker Dan Pelzer
• Street dogs gave him hope during dark days. Now he’s returning the favor
• "My Mind" by Yebba
• "I Write Sins Not Tragedies" by Panic! At the Disco
• https://what-dan-read.com/

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• Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com
• But For Real on IG: @butforrealpod
• Now That's What I Call... OKAAAAY Playlist
• The Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenter
• Val on IG: @valkaymartin
• The Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co

DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis Text Line (Text START to 741741 in the US) or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: (Call 988 in the US), or visit www.findahelpline.com for international resources.

In this episode, we are excited to dive into all things men’s mental health & the power of gaming with one of The Gaia Center’s team members, Sam DiMartino!

In his clinical work, Sam supports individuals and couples through an array of topics like grief, trauma, toxic masculinity + men’s issues, systemic oppression, identity exploration etc and also leads our men’s group Tearing Down The Walls! As our Client Journey Liaison he assists our leadership team with ensuring excellent client care and experience, and he does a damn good job. When he’s not therapizing, you can find him gaming, creating, being a literal comedian and sharing his love with his wife Ruby and their two cats Sophie and Claus.

This episode covers:

• 00:03:24 - Tea & Crumpets: forRest Mind Ambiance YouTube channel, Heartstopper, and Donkey Kong Bananza
• 00:09:12 - Step Into My Office: Is my little brother addicted to video games?
• 00:18:09 - The DSM: Men’s mental health and the impact of video games in today’s culture
• 00:44:10 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 00:46:12 - Sam Pick: "ZZZ Top" by Aesop Rock
• 00:46:53 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: Older aged folks finding connection through gaming, a city-run program in Seoul, SK is combating isolation among adults of all ages who live alone, and Sam’s cat Claus
• 00:50:14 - Sam Quizzes Val & Em on Gaming
• 00:59:56 - Rapid Fire Q&A

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• forRest Mind Ambiance YouTube channel
• Heartstopper
• Donkey Kong Bananza
• Aesop Rock - ZZZ Top (Official Video)
• Gaming in their golden years article
• Seoul, South Korea community program

Connect with Us:

• Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com
• But For Real on IG: @butforrealpod
• Now That's What I Call... OKAAAAY Playlist
• The Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenter
• Val on IG: @valkaymartin
• The Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co

DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis...

Today’s episode is allllll about MONEY HUNNY – how we are influenced to think about the construct of money, financial wellbeing, and balancing all of this in the modern landscape of capitalism and consumerism.

This episode covers:

• 06:59 - Tea & Crumpets: Stretching in the pool + Courtney Carver
• 11:27 - Step Into My Office: Navigating financial boundaries with friends
• 18:04 - The DSM: The Psychology of Money
• 44:17 - Now That's What I Call...OKAAAAY!
• 45:41 - Emerson Pick: "Seven Rings" by Ariana Grande
• 48:07 - Valerie Pick: "Look At Me Now" by Karmin (CB Cover)
• 48:55 - Fire Dumpster Phoenix: H-E-B supporting Texas flood relief efforts + a crow visiting his Danish “chosen family”

Resources + Stuff Mentioned in This Episode:

• Courtney Carver
• Money Beliefs and Financial Behaviors: Development of the Klontz Money Script Inventory
• Scarcity mindset article
• Conflating Income and Self-Worth. The Money Trap 2 | by Baillie Aaron
• 7 rings by Ariana Grande
• Look At Me Now by Karmin
• The Butt Family, H-E-B, and the H.E. Butt Foundation announce $5 million donation for Texas flood recovery efforts
• A crow visits his Danish chosen family often

Connect with Us:

• Send a story or ask for advice: butforrealpod@gmail.com
• But For Real on IG: @butforrealpod
• Now That's What I Call... OKAAAAY Playlist
• The Gaia Center on IG: @thegaiacenter
• Val on IG: @valkaymartin
• The Gaia Center website: www.gaiacenter.co

DISCLAIMER: But For Real Podcast is not a substitute for individualized mental health treatment or healthcare. This podcast is solely for entertainment and educational purposes. If you are in crisis, please utilize crisis support services, such as the Crisis Text Line (Text START to 741741 in the US) or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: (Call 988 in the US), or visit