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Marriage is a team sport that nobody prepared us for. What happens when two different people try to build a life together? How do you create a truly functional partnership rather than just two people sharing space?

Greg and Jess dig deep into what makes relationships work as teams by examining three crucial elements: shared vision, effective communication, and the delicate balance between trust and leadership. They reveal how establishing family values created their roadmap for raising "likable, contributing members of society" and how contentment with both plenty and little stems from mutual agreement about what truly matters.

The conversation takes a fascinating turn when they explore their dramatically different communication styles. Greg's "let's try it and see what happens" approach crashes headlong into Jess's need for careful planning. Their candid stories about navigating these differences offer valuable insights for any couple struggling with similar tensions. "Your brain works way different and way faster than mine," Jess admits, highlighting how understanding these differences transformed their communication.

Perhaps most compelling is their exploration of leadership in marriage. They challenge the notion that one person must lead everything, instead advocating for recognizing individual strengths. "In every relationship, someone is leading," Greg explains, "but that doesn't mean creating a dictatorship." Their perspective on how trust and leadership function together provides a refreshing framework for couples tired of power struggles.

The episode wraps with practical application points, encouraging listeners to identify their "why" behind major life decisions and commit to being lifelong learners together. Whether you're newly married, considering marriage, or decades into partnership, you'll find actionable wisdom to strengthen your team.

Share your thoughts with us! What book has impacted your relationship journey? We'd love to hear what's helped you become a better teammate in your relationship.

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"We had no idea what we were doing." Those words might not be what you expect to hear from podcast hosts sharing advice about blended families, but that's exactly what makes Baggage Claim so refreshingly honest. In this vulnerable episode, Greg and Jess pull back the curtain on their 13-year journey of blending families to reveal the messy, beautiful truth: nobody really knows what they're doing.

The highlight reels we often see of blended families can be intimidating. Core values, behavior lists, and carefully structured routines make it seem like some families have it all figured out. But behind those Instagram-worthy moments are real people navigating uncharted waters, making mistakes, and learning as they go. Greg and Jess share some of their biggest failures—from leaving kids at practice because they missed calendar invites to writing checks for groceries they knew wouldn't clear—and how those challenging moments actually created some of their family's most cherished traditions.

What stands out most is their resilience through financial hardships and communication challenges. As Greg shares the humbling experience of not being able to afford medical care for Jess during a time of illness, they reflect on how these struggles shaped their family philosophy: "If we can't be happy with a hundred dollars in our bank account, we'll never be happy with hundreds of thousands." This perspective shift transformed their approach to both money and marriage.

Whether you're in the trenches of early blended family life or navigating the evolving relationships with adult children, this episode offers comfort in knowing you're not alone. The real magic happens not in having all the answers, but in showing up consistently with love, curiosity, and the willingness to fail forward. After all, if you're failing, it means you're trying—and that's something worth celebrating.

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What happens when a bank teller and a marketing guy fall in love over karaoke at a country bar? In our first-ever guest episode, we're thrilled to welcome Nick and Brandy Kastner, who bring 19 years of marriage wisdom to the table.

Their story begins with workplace animosity (Brandy wasn't thrilled when Nick got quickly promoted at the bank where they both worked) and transforms into a relationship built on compromise, communication, and intentional connection. After a memorable first date where Brandy sang "Baby Got Back"—the moment Nick claims he fell in love—they navigated early relationship challenges, including an ex trying to reconnect. When they finally decided to marry, they skipped the expensive ceremony, opting for a $50 backyard wedding that proved true commitment doesn't require grand gestures.

The Kastners openly share their struggles with balancing busy schedules, raising their now nearly-adult daughters, and nurturing their relationship through different love languages. Despite the chaos of volleyball tournaments, work travel, and everyday life, they've maintained a strong connection by never going to bed angry and making intentional time for each other. They've experienced only three truly heated arguments in nearly two decades together—a testament to their communication skills and mutual respect.

As they prepare for their oldest daughter's graduation and the next chapter of their lives, Nick and Brandy offer practical advice about staying truthful with each other, not forcing expectations on children, and most importantly, creating dedicated time for your relationship. Their journey reminds us that beautiful marriages don't happen by accident—they're built through daily choices, honest conversations, and the willingness to compromise (even on graduation party plates).