1 Timothy 5:1-2

Never speak harshly to an older man, but appeal to him respectfully as you would to your own father. Talk to younger men as you would to your own brothers. Treat older women as you would your mother, and treat younger women with all purity as you would your own sisters. In recent years, endless investigations have revealed that abuse exists throughout our society. Upon the publication of the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse report in 2021, the BBC’s Mark Easton wrote, “There is barely a corner of this country’s institutional, cultural or spiritual life untarnished by the activities of abusers.” Easton noted that wherever the inquiry looked, it found abuse. Tragically, the churches came in for severe criticism, and every Christian denomination has had to take a hard look at itself. Treating people lovingly, graciously and wisely is a responsibility that we all have, but Paul was particularly concerned for his friend Timothy to get this right. Church leaders find themselves in a vulnerable position, so Paul’s advice is of great importance. Many ministries have been destroyed through foolish indiscretions, and Paul was eager that this shouldn’t happen to Timothy. Paul’s advice was fundamentally to encourage Timothy to think of the church as family. If he needed to say some challenging things to older men, he was to imagine that he was talking to his own father. It would be completely inappropriate for him to be strident and harsh, because that would immediately break the relationship and cause hurt. In the same way, he should speak to older women as if they were his own mother. With younger men he was encouraged to have a brotherly relationship and not to rule over them as if he was their boss. Paul urged him to treat younger women like sisters, with absolute purity. Just as you would never take advantage of a sister, so too should women be treated with dignity and respect. These are words of huge wisdom, and if church leaders had lived by them over the years, unnumbered disasters would have been avoided.

Question In what way do you find Paul’s advice helpful for your own relationships?

Prayer God our Father, help me always to be loving, gracious and wise in my relationships with other people. Amen