In this transformative episode of the Infiniti Podcast, Chaya Abelsky and Jay McNaught sit down with Dr. Richard Boyatzis—renowned organizational psychologist and co-author of The Science of Change, the recent breakthrough book now referred to as the bible for coaches. With clarity and warmth, Dr. Boyatzis explores affinity—the emotional bond and human resonance that underpin sustainable behavioral change.

Drawing from his groundbreaking Intentional Change Theory (ICT), Dr. Boyatzis explains how Positive Emotional Attractors (PEAs)—such as compassion, hope, and purpose—activate the parasympathetic nervous system, creating the space needed for learning, openness, and growth. Chaya and Jay dive into what this means for coaches, leaders, and anyone seeking to help others evolve—whether in organizations, classrooms, families, or communities.

💡 Key Takeaways for Leaders & Coaches:

1. Affinity is the starting point – Deep human connection is the gateway to real change, and it’s foundational—not optional.

2. The PEA effect – Neuroscience confirms that when people experience hope and empathy, they access their best thinking and strongest motivation.

3. Lead with resonance – Resonant leaders inspire change by being attuned, authentic, and anchored in vision and care.

4. Shift from fixing to becoming – Coaching is most powerful when it’s about helping people grow into their ideal selves—not merely solving immediate problems.

5. Backed by science, driven by heart – The Science of Change offers a compelling research-backed roadmap to lead transformation with humanity at its core.