Episodes

  • Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

    Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins
    Jul 2 2025
    On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are stuck in a “friendship recession”. The trio get hilariously real about everything from stag do admin to homophobic hang-ups around hugging, going for dinner (too gay?), and why Nando’s is apparently the safest middle ground. Plus, James shares his theory around why platonic love after heartbreak might just be more romantic than romance itself. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    37 mins
  • Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell

    Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell
    Jun 25 2025
    We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all. Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV and the stigma that still surrounds it. From the legacy of Terrence Higgins, the first known person in the UK to die of AIDS, to the urgent need for better sex education for queer men. Richard shares powerful insights and reflects on the challenges posed by formal faith institutions and how we can push for a more inclusive future. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    38 mins
  • Love Yourself Before You Love Another

    Love Yourself Before You Love Another
    Jun 18 2025
    If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season. From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of paramount importance. Happy Pride and we'll see you next week for more profound thoughts?! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    25 mins
  • What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons

    What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons
    Jun 11 2025
    We’re joined by the award winning Elf Lyons on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! She has literally been listed as one of the 50 Funniest Comedians of the 21st Century by The Telegraph, one of the ’20 Names of Now’ by British Vogue and is a multi-Edinburgh Fringe award winner – so you know we’ve got a good one! James, Dan and Elf talk about tackling trauma through comedy, embracing weirdness, flat earth theories, finding comfort in your identity and… what is the male equivalent of brunch? All of these hard-hitting questions tackled without fear! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    36 mins
  • From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!

    From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!
    Jun 4 2025
    On this week’s episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives. From running marathons… to walking through tunnels, and the awkwardness of attending awards ceremonies. James and Dan also reflect on winning the Webby Award for Independent Podcast and give an inside peak into the celebrations! We’ll be back next week with your regularly scheduled programming! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    20 mins
  • Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin

    Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin
    May 21 2025
    Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field. Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine Award. His new book is Deep House, a queer love story set in an era when gay couples faced significant legal and societal challenges. It is released on June 5th. On this weeks episode, James, Dan and Jeremy talk about the importance of gay bars, the significance of the historical and political narratives in the new book, and the resilience and creativity of the queer community. Jeremy shares insights about his relationship, the evolution of LGBTQ rights, and the ongoing fight for equality. Order Deep House now from all good bookstores: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/455205/deep-house-by-lin-jeremy-atherton/9780241629789 Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    33 mins
  • We Won A Webby Award!

    We Won A Webby Award!
    May 14 2025
    SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠⁠⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠⁠⁠ for tickets now. Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan discuss the idea of gay people eating pot noodles. This inevitably leads to Dan's ongoing attempt to perfect his Shih Tzu lawyer joke... We'll be back next week with another award winning episode of the podcast! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    17 mins
  • Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding

    Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding
    May 7 2025
    If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by... another Dan... as they talk about the importance of understanding diverse journeys within the queer community, dealing with judgement and the healing process shared through Dan's new book. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
    Show More Show Less
    21 mins