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A Gay and A NonGay

A Gay and A NonGay

By: James Barr and Dan Hudson
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 In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed2025 James Barr & Dan Hudson Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

    Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins
    Jul 2 2025
    On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are stuck in a “friendship recession”. The trio get hilariously real about everything from stag do admin to homophobic hang-ups around hugging, going for dinner (too gay?), and why Nando’s is apparently the safest middle ground. Plus, James shares his theory around why platonic love after heartbreak might just be more romantic than romance itself. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    37 mins
  • Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell

    Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell
    Jun 25 2025
    We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all. Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV and the stigma that still surrounds it. From the legacy of Terrence Higgins, the first known person in the UK to die of AIDS, to the urgent need for better sex education for queer men. Richard shares powerful insights and reflects on the challenges posed by formal faith institutions and how we can push for a more inclusive future. Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    38 mins
  • Love Yourself Before You Love Another

    Love Yourself Before You Love Another
    Jun 18 2025
    If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season. From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of paramount importance. Happy Pride and we'll see you next week for more profound thoughts?! Follow A Gay & A NonGay TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@gaynongay⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠gaynongay.com⁠⁠⁠ Email Us: ⁠⁠⁠us@gaynongay.com⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    25 mins

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