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4: How to Generate Ultimate Confidence

4: How to Generate Ultimate Confidence

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 Hello, hello. Welcome back to another episode of the Freedom Culture Podcast. Today we are talking all about confidence. How to get it, how to keep it, and how to use it to your advantage. So this episode is how to generate ultimate confidence. Let's dive in. The first thing I want to focus on is how can we free ourselves from thinking about what other people think about us. So the number one way to drain your confidence, I would say, is to compare yourself to other people. You know, going on Instagram or social media or wherever and looking at what other people are doing and internalizing that as something that you aren't doing yet or you're looking at an ideal and sort of measuring yourself against that. So one of the books I've been reading lately is called The Gap and the Gain. And that's really all it talks about, is how to live in the gain, not in the gap. And the gap refers to comparing yourself against an ideal as opposed to, um, and sorry, measuring yourself against an ideal as opposed to measuring yourself against what's actually happening, and the progress that you've actually made. And then of course, living in the gain would be focusing on the progress, the gains that you're making every day and really focusing on that. So I wanted to just touch, on a few points that this book has introduced to me and I'm loving this book. So this book is by, Dan Sullivan with Dr. Benjamin Hardy. So one of the ways is to measure your own progress, but using this little tool called WINS. So essentially every day you're going to write down three WINS that you had today and then write down three WINS that you'd like to have tomorrow. So let's talk about how important it is every single day for you to be tracking your WINS and think about what that could actually look like six months from now, 90 days from now, even, what kind of difference do you think that could make for you? Because let me just say from the book, so, It states that writing down three wins daily is one of the most effective ways to stay out of what they call the gap. You feel like you're always winning and making progress. It keeps you in a state of momentum and confidence. Well, I absolutely love that. That's the state that I want to live in. I don't know about you. But measuring your own progress is the best way for you to do that. It's also the best way for you to, um, stay out of that comparison. So, if we're focused on ourselves and what we're doing, the accomplishments that we're making, the wins that we're having every day, it makes very little time for us to be, uh, focused on what other people are doing, or what other people might think of us. And one of the other things that kind of go hand in hand with that is making sure that when we're asking people for advice, we're actually asking people who, can really give advice on a specific topic that we're asking them about. So there's nothing worse than asking somebody to weigh in on something they don't know anything about. And that can sometimes lead to breaking a bit of our confidence because we are leaning on someone that maybe doesn't have the experience or the knowledge to really be able to give us good advice on the subject. But we, we take it anyway. Sometimes it's not what it could be. So I hope you understand what that kind of means. But anyway. Let's move on to the next one. So measuring backwards, let's take note of that. Measuring your wins daily, super important and I think can help us to focus more on ourselves and less on what other people are doing. So another way, of course, to increase your confidence, and I think this is pretty obvious, but sometimes we don't really pay attention to these things, uh, is to improve your self talk. So how important do you think it is for you to be telling yourself a good story about yourself every day? So what is that story that's playing over and over again in your mind that you're telling yourself about you? About who you are, about what you're good at or not good at, about what the things are that you're doing every day, and how it's having an impact. So if our self talk is really negative, or if we catch ourselves being really negative, that's something we can definitely work on and change. I mean, no one can change our self talk but us, and self talk is one of the fastest and easiest way to really, make any kind of change towards having confidence. I know I've caught myself many times, like, uh, Steph, like, what are you doing? Sometimes that's just a matter of, hey, checking in, like, hey, wait a minute. You got to do something different here. But definitely I can be really hard on myself, and I think we all have gotten to this sort of stage of, giving ourselves less grace than we really need. So I think it's important we check in on this. So if this is your cue, if you're hearing this, maybe it's for a reason, like, let's check in with what you're really telling yourself every day. Um, and what kind of words you're using too. So...
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