In this episode of Meredyth with a Why, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller for a real conversation about sex, desire, and intimacy when life is busy and the mental load is heavy. We talk about what actually helps women want sex again, how to reconnect without pressure, and why small shifts can change your relationship and your health.

What you’ll learn:

• Desire vs arousal, why many women need arousal first, then desire, and how a calm 20 minute warm up rebuilds connection.

• The attention gap, men’s laser focus vs women’s diffuse awareness, and simple ways to quiet the mind and get back into your body.

• Perimenopause and menopause, when bioidentical hormone replacement therapy helps, and why it is only part of women’s sexual health.

• Oxytocin 101, how orgasm boosts oxytocin, lowers cortisol, improves sleep and mood, and supports overall wellness.

• The values pie, a quick time audit that shows whether your partner actually has space in your day.

• Five daily touchpoints, easy flirting with no endgame so touch feels safe and sweet again.

• Better conversations, uncouple touch from expectation, use praise that lands, and plug the tiny leaks that create resentment.

If you are navigating low libido, perimenopause, intimacy after kids, or communication in marriage, this episode gives you practical, evidence informed sex education you can use tonight. So tune in now!

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00:00 Introducing Dr. Diane Mueller

00:52 The Taboo of Sex and Communication Struggles

02:32 Personal Journey and Discoveries

06:40 Applying Knowledge in Relationships

12:04 Understanding Arousal and Desire

19:00 Hormone Replacement and Oxytocin Benefits

24:27 Historical and Societal Influences on Sexuality

31:33 Parenting Challenges and Sexuality

33:31 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

35:22 The Role of Education in Sexual Health

41:39 Touch and Emotional Connection

48:23 Oxytocin and Attachment in Young People

56:40 Final Thoughts

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🔗 Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller:

• Visit her website: drdianemueller.com

• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/drdianemueller

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@mylibidodoc