We tackle the messy meaning of “selfish.” Is it always a bad thing, or have we just been taught to feel guilty for putting ourselves first? From mum guilt and solo living envy to backhanded compliments and babysitting dilemmas, this episode digs into when selfishness becomes self-respect—and when it crosses a line.

We explore:

– What makes someone “selfish”… and who gets to decide

– How boundaries and burnout intersect

– Why single people might be better at self-care

– The difference between cold-hearted and clear-headed

– Why we need a new word for healthy selfishness

Go on, be a little selfish. You might just feel better for it.

When was the last time you were selfish—and proud of it?

Takeaways

• Selfishness can have both positive and negative connotations.
• Putting oneself first is sometimes necessary for mental health.
• Cultural perceptions of selfishness often stem from upbringing.
• Self-care is essential, but it can be viewed as selfish.
• Setting boundaries is a form of healthy selfishness.
• The definition of selfishness lacks nuance in societal discussions.
• Relationships require a balance between self-care and caring for others.
• Motherhood often complicates perceptions of selfishness.
• Being single may allow for more opportunities to practice selfishness.
• Selfishness should not be viewed solely as a negative trait.

Keywords

egoism, selfishness, self-care, relationships, boundaries, personal needs, motherhood, self-awareness, mental health, compassion

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