This episode explores the challenges of self-sabotage and why building better habits is often harder than it looks. It breaks down the real meaning of habits, discipline, and willpower, and introduces the Mental House Model as a framework for understanding personal change. The conversation highlights how adults learn best, why self-efficacy is crucial for lasting progress, and how systems can simplify behavior change.

Listeners will learn how to close the intention-behavior gap, make conscious trade-offs, and define the vision and identity that drive personal development. This episode is about creating structure, building confidence, and curating the internal and external environment needed to stop self-sabotage and follow through on what matters.

Key Takeaways

• Self-sabotage is common; most people know what to do but struggle to apply it

• Habits, discipline, and willpower each play a distinct role in behavior change

• Discipline works on a spectrum and is not all-or-nothing

• The Mental House Model helps visualize factors that support or block progress

• Adults learn best when they have ownership and self-efficacy

• Closing the intention-behavior gap requires commitment, not just knowledge

• Systems make habits easier by reducing decision fatigue

• Time is created, not found, by choosing priorities

• Trade-offs are necessary to reach goals

• Vision and identity shape long-term personal growth

Memorable Quotes

• “Take a hard audit of your life.”

• “You get what you ask for.”

• “Define who you want to be.”

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Self-Sabotage and Habit Building
02:50 Understanding Habits, Discipline, and Willpower
05:37 The Mental House Model for Habit Formation
08:50 Creating a Supportive Environment for Change
11:35 Defining Your Identity and Self-Concept
14:13 Curating Your Internal and External Inputs
16:59 Establishing Triggers and Contingencies for Success
25:09 The Importance of Maintenance in Life
26:51 Understanding Adult Learning and Self-Ownership
28:39 Building Self-Efficacy and Confidence
34:32 Creating Systems for Sustainable Change
37:43 Bridging the Intention-Behavior Gap
43:55 Defining Your Vision and Values

Calvin Trieu, M.S. | Performance & Nutrition Coach

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