What if the stories that once held you back could actually become stepping stones toward healing and growth? In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares how rewriting old narratives doesn’t require a grand moment—sometimes it starts with something as simple as trying avocado toast after decades of avoidance.

Through her personal story, Dr. Phyllis shows how small acts of courage, curiosity, and self-compassion can help us shift the way we relate to our past. You don’t have to erase what’s happened—you only need to reclaim your present.

She also introduces her REDO framework:

R – Revisit with curiosity

E – Extend yourself compassion

D – Do one small brave thing at a time

O – Open to new possibilities

Whether it’s in a relationship, your career, or everyday choices, the old narratives don’t have to define you anymore. Healing starts with just one small step.

Ask yourself: What story are you still letting define you? This week, take one small step to let go of the past and rewrite how it shows up in your present.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“You don't need to erase the past. You just need to reclaim your present”

“When you give yourself permission to take small steps of healing in the present, you allow the past to lose its power over you”

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​​00:00 "Finding Peace in Avocado Toast"

05:54 Overcoming Childhood Avocado Misconception

08:03 "Embracing Avocado: A Vegan's Journey"

12:49 "Rewriting Past Narratives"

17:21 "Reclaim Your Story: Small Steps"

18:56 Purpose and Response