Ever wonder how to help your child bounce back from challenges, genuinely care for others, and step up responsibly? We get it. The good news is, there's a powerful, yet simple, framework: The 4 Crucial Cs.* These essential building blocks are core needs, and actively nurturing them helps your child connect meaningfully and contribute positively. In today’s episode, you will learn how by focusing on the Cs, you'll empower your kids to develop self-discipline, and become confident problem-solvers. Ultimately, this approach fosters true resilience, enabling them to navigate life's ups and downs with grace and strength, ready to embrace responsibility and flourish.

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter, Marike Pienaar, and Wendy Tracy

Resources

🎧 For more on Special Time or “Hang Time” listen to Episode 005

💪🏽To focus on strengths check out Episode 011 for a refresher on Noticing What’s Right

📒PocketGuide: A 4Cs Guide

🌮Read about Paige’s family ritual on Taco Night

📝For more about criticism and mattering read Paige’s Interview with Jenny Wallace about her book “Never Enough”

📖 The CircleIN podcast from Family Leadership Center is based on Adlerian philosophy, including the work of Dr. Alfred Adler. Dr. Adler's core needs were translated into The Four Crucial Cs by Drs. Amy Lew and Betty Lou Bettner. The Cs are: Connect (belonging), Capable (movement, progress), Count (significance, mattering), Courage (encouragement).

• Ansbacher, H. L., & Ansbacher, R. R. 1956. The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler, Basic Books. New York.

• Bettner, B.L. & Lew, A. 1989. Raising Kids Who Can. Connexions Press. MA. (available for sale at familyleadershipcenter.org)

• Dreikurs, R. & Soltz, V. 1964. Children: The Challenge. Hawthorn Books. New York.

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