In this episode of Heart and Soulution, Mike and Kristen explore how understanding individual strengths and differences can lead to stronger, more harmonious partnerships.The couple discusses how personality assessments, particularly the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, can be powerful tools for self-awareness and relationship growth. Mike, a certified Myers-Briggs practitioner, emphasizes the importance of understanding one's core wiring, distinguishing between nature and nurture. Mike and Kristen share personal anecdotes, including the infamous "Flooring Incident of 2020," (actually 2021) to illustrate how their different approaches to tasks, stemming from their distinct Myers-Briggs types, can create both challenges and opportunities for collaboration. Ultimately, the couple highlight that these assessments are not meant to box individuals in or provide excuses, but rather to foster awareness, curiosity, and leverage differences for mutual benefit within a relationship.

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Links:

• More about the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) https://www.themyersbriggs.com/en-US/Products-and-Services/Myers-Briggs

Join Mike and Kristen Jones on the Heart and Soulution podcast as they delve into the enduring wisdom of Dr. Gary Smalley's, "Keys to Lasting and Loving Relationships" video series. Despite Dr. Smalley's passing, this powerful resource, containing 19 videos and over 20 hours of content, remains available at smalleyinstitute.com. Mike and Kristen share how this series, which they discovered decades ago, continues to impact their marriage and offers timeless lessons that are still applicable today. They discuss key concepts such as treating your spouse like a celebrity, finding value in "camping experiences" (difficult times), communicating through "emotional word pictures," understanding the fundamental differences between men and women, and the four essential elements for a thriving relationship (security, communication, bonding experiences, and meaningful touch). They also touch upon personality types, like the "Golden Retriever," and strongly recommend this series as a valuable tool for couples or small groups.

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Links:

• Dr. Gary Smalley's "Keys to Lasting and Loving Relationships" Resource: https://www.smalleyinstitute.com/offers/57F5JbDR/checkout

The Heart and Soulution podcast with Mike and Kristen Jones offers an overview of their experiences with premarital counseling and the early challenges in their marriage. They discuss using the SYMBIS assessment ("Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts") and the importance of community and shared resources for navigating difficulties. Mike and Kristen emphasize that conflict can be a tool for growth and advocate for intentionality in relationships and sharing learned insights with others. They also credit Dr. Gary Smalley's video series as a significant positive influence on their marriage.

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Resources we mentioned:

SYMBIS Assessment information

https://www.symbis.com/

Dr. Gary Smalley video series

https://www.smalleyinstitute.com/offers/57F5JbDR/checkout

In this episode of "Heart and Soulution," Mike and Kristen Jones focus on intentional communication within relationships, particularly marriage. They discuss the importance of speaking and listening with purpose, highlighting common pitfalls such as the tendency to "fix" problems rather than simply listening. Mike and Kristen introduce strategies like asking if someone needs a solution or just an ear and emphasize empathetic listening, where understanding a perspective is prioritized over agreement. The conversation also touches on the impact of personality types on communication and the value of expressing feelings clearly to foster healthier interactions.

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Books that we mentioned:

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2002), p. 133, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books.

Scazzero, P., & Scazzero, G. (2022). Emotionally Healthy Relationships: Discipleship that deeply changes your relationship with others (Updated ed.). Zondervan.

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In this episode of Heart and Soulution, Mike and Kristen discuss the importance of boundaries, specifically safeguards, within committed relationships. They use a recent public scandal involving a CEO caught in an inappropriate situation at a concert to illustrate the consequences of lacking strong safeguards. Mike and Kristen suggest that couples should proactively define and maintain clear boundaries, even those that might seem extreme, to prevent their relationship from being compromised. They share their personal rules, such as not messaging members of the opposite sex privately on social media and maintaining open access to each other's devices, emphasizing that these are chosen to protect their marriage and avoid even the appearance of impropriety. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to engage in honest conversations with their partners to establish their own mutually agreed-upon safeguards, ensuring the health and longevity of their relationship.

The inaugural episode of the Heart and Soulution podcast, hosted by married couple Mike and Kristen Jones, centers on the crucial role of intentionality in fostering strong, enduring relationships. Drawing from their 30 years of marriage and Kristen's experience as a certified relationship coach, they explain that a healthy relationship requires effort and deliberate action, much like filling a jar with "big rocks" (priorities) before adding smaller ones. Mike and Kristen emphasize the importance of scheduled connection, such as date nights, to prevent couples from drifting apart. They also suggest practical steps for couples to identify their own "big rocks," encouraging open communication, brainstorming, and even "playfully fighting" for individual priorities to ensure mutual understanding and compromise.

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Books that we mentioned:

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2002), p. 133, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books.

Scazzero, P., & Scazzero, G. (2022). Emotionally Healthy Relationships: Discipleship that deeply changes your relationship with others (Updated ed.). Zondervan.

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Introducing a brand new podcast launch called Heart and Soulution with Mike and Kristen Jones. This podcast is all about learning to do relationships better. Season 1 begins August 6th!