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Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Narrated by: Karyl McBride
Length: 7 hrs and 25 mins
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The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.

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"The author provides parenting tips as well as advice on maintaining healthy love relationships and friendships." ( Publishers Weekly)

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  • Dee
  • Australia
  • 29-02-2016

Lifesaving.

Loved it. Listened twice. Bought the paperback as well. This is my "bible ", my manual, map, how-to guide. It is my story. My saving. Thankyou.

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helpful

This book striked a chord with me. I am lookingvat other titles now. Planning on listening to it again.

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I would hug Karyl McBride!

Great advice and insight into a narcs brain to help you understand (contrary to mums believe) it's not your problem! It's mums. This book helped get me out of a very dark place from being intensely hurt by my mother and even got me talking to her again.

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The title says it all!

I think you may only read this title if you have come to find that you were parented by a narcissistic mother.
The content is engaging and thought-provoking. The narrator is easy to listen to.
The author is a highly qualified professional writing out her personal experience and I found this very comforting. You need the first-hand experience of narcissism to really understand what it does to you. Like a tangled web that gets stronger and stronger and changes your perception of the world and your own true self narcissism is insidious and I feel much more work needs to be done. I thought I could binge this book and it would help me in one fell swoop but I couldn't and had to pace listening to it as it brought up so many feelings and memories that I had to sit with before moving on. There are several sections with the final section being recovery. I am yet to get to the beginning of recovery as I need to fully deal with all the feelings that have surfaced as if from a long-closed vault.
It isn't easy, it's not hard but I think you need to be dedicated working through this book. It may take months or years but I know I will get to the end and be better for reading it.

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  • Barb
  • 29-10-2012

A MUST read for everyone!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This book can help everyone that has or knows women that have a narsistic mother. Great for daughters, daughter-in-laws, sons, son-in-laws, spouses and even friends of these victims.

What did you like best about this story?

Finally, I feel like my brother and I are not alone! This explains so very much. And for the first time I feel like I am OK!

Have you listened to any of Karyl McBride’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I felt like Rocky after I finished! I reached the top of the steps and with this knowledge I can deal with the fights. Just knowing that I can clearly see all of the manipulation my mother has used on me for 50 years is so freeing. No one will ever please her and finally I can work through excepting that...because it is her and I am good enough!

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I will listen to this book many more times...especially before major family events (Holidays, Celebrations...). I can now put her battles for attention "in a box" and find my happiness! My husband says he has seen a change in the way I deal with " mom issues".

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  • Virginia
  • 16-01-2012

An eye opener

This is a very important book for those women who always felt something was missing in thier lives ... that they didn't have a normal childhood ... that thier moms were different ... women who whatever they did thier moms never seemed to be pleased ...
This book helps you realize the problem ... face your denial ... make peace with your past and accept reality ... then start the journey towrds healing ...just make sure to take your time and do as the books says ... don't be tempted to skip anything
The author herslef was a victim of a narcassit mother so she knows what she's talking about ...and not only i found the book extremely helpful but the soothing voice of the author and narrator made a great deal of difference

HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

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  • scott
  • 01-01-2013

Liberating, Calming, Soothing, and Healing

What did you love best about Will I Ever Be Good Enough??

This book focused primarily on healing, as opposed to diagnosing and blaming.

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The narrators voice was soothing, caring, and genuine. The book was well written, and analyzed many different angles of these looming and life long maternal issues. Great read!

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  • Lou
  • 24-07-2012

Exactly What I Was Looking For

What made the experience of listening to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? the most enjoyable?

The pure accuracy of this book. Dr. McBride's research is spot on. This book has not only helped me understand the relationship between me and my mother but also helped to improve it by providing a new perspective. It has helped me understand unexplained feelings and behavior. I am still in recovery, but I am well on my way to living a better and happier life! If you have a narcissistic mother (whether the damage was inflicted on you or a sibling), you MUST read this book. Thanks so much Dr. McBride!

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  • Karyna Shackelford
  • 05-10-2016

Finally a book that hits my issues

My mother is an addict who is also self absorbed. I was neglected so much as a child that depression became my best friend. I thought I was damaged and the crazy one. My mom never supported anything I did including school stuff. She would buy me expensive dresses that she couldn't afford instead of money for books. (She always took credit for my looks, which of course I rebelled and hurt myself by gaining weight to try to individualize myself. Sooo Unhealthy I know) I waitressed starting at 15 to 25 to put myself through school. When I got into UCLA my mom wouldn't even visit the campus despite living an hour away. I had to stop talking to her for months till she even came to my graduation. (She was grumpy and critical the entire time that it ruined the special day that I had worked so hard for.) I'm looking forward to working the steps in chapter 11+ to heal. I'm done with having low self esteem, narcissistic bfs, self destructive habits, and not knowing who I am. I choose to be my authentic, healthy self and live my life the way I WANT because this is MY LIFE. Life is a gift and I choose to honor it that way without the negativity and numbness i was raised in.

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  • Lory
  • 24-06-2015

Finally a book that validates my struggles raised from a ignoring narcissitic mother

I found this book very helpful in understanding how your woundedness from childhood affects your adult relationships.

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  • Nicki
  • 24-06-2015

Glad I purchased this book!

Excellent clarification if you're wondering "Is this my mother?" She takes you on a clear mental bus ride of how you ended up with negative, self-defeating thought patterns and habits. She gently guides you in setting yourself free of these but without blaming or bashing your mom. Hers is a diplomatic, knowledge-is-power approach.

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  • Darcy
  • 28-05-2014

Soothing enlightenment with excellently delivery

Would you consider the audio edition of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? to be better than the print version?

I think the narrator did an excellent job of presenting what the book tried to represents, thus I think the audio version would be better. However, I do not have the print version and could see highlighting some areas of the book if I had it.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Will I Ever Be Good Enough??

That a person cannot try to fix or heal a person that does not feel anything for anyone. In addition, the examples presented leads to future narcissistic or co-dependent mothers, and continues if cycle is not broken.

What does Karyl McBride bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

The clarity of her voice provides an authentic note of personality as she describes her experiences as a child, teen, student, and adult.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Mommy Dearest Returns

Any additional comments?

While I listened hanging on to every word, I found myself thinking of great sayings or pointers in each chapter that caused me to start over on each chapter. Thus, it is a book that is worthy of listening to very slowly, perhaps a chapter a day to let pointers sink in. It is worthy to note that the narcissistic mother may not recognize these traits in their self as damaging to others because they relate to envision how it is to be anyone other than themselves. Great story to share with others. I was surprised that the mother was aware of her doing the book...

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  • Miss Fabularian
  • 29-05-2012

Helpful

Very informative book. I think women struggling with manipulative and controlling mothers will find that this book will help them to look at their situation in new ways and recover from emotional and psychological abuse.

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  • A. Harper
  • 01-10-2016

Acceptance and grief

Will I Ever Be Enough showed me how to love myself, and how to be there for the little me.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-03-2018

true and real

this book really spoke to me and resonated within me. I listened to it post recovery and it affirmed my sense of self.

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  • Mum4kids
  • 21-08-2017

Exactly what i needed!

Absolutely outstanding. Suddenly everything made sense. All my struggles, all my worries, my depression, my emptiness, my failures. The questions I asked myself for nearly a decade were answered in this book. A true blessing. Thank you Dr. McBride!

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  • Marcia Staples - Fluid Minds
  • 30-05-2015

interesting

An excellent read... I was amazed how much us daughters take on board....there is hope

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  • jo
  • 07-07-2019

A pathway to smiling inside.

McBride delivers a depth of understanding and insight into a child’s development at the hands of a narcissistic mother.

Then she provides a healing pathway to wholeness and reconciliation by looking into the brokenness of your inner child and repairing her with an insightful and empathetic parent who discovers her way to smiling and laughter.

As a surviving daughter of a narcissistic mother I’m able to find joy through journeying with McBride and her knowing.

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  • Kate
  • 21-02-2019

Excellent

This is a great book, I would highly recommend to anyone dealing with a self absorbed mother

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  • Sarah S
  • 10-10-2018

highly recommended,

Really helpful in a loving a practical way. I'd highly recommend to anyone who is struggling with this.

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  • Telvicky
  • 15-03-2018

It's a must read for DONM'S

This is a very thorough book, it's not only a self help experience, but a guide and support in recovery of many elements of a woman's life including friendships, relationships and motherhood.

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  • Annie
  • 13-03-2018

recommended

recommended if u are unsure if it's you or your mum has a problem or not

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  • julie
  • 09-03-2018

We Never Stop Learning. Take notes.

Truly enjoyed this book. I will Re-read again. Growth Discovery and influential. Highly Recommended for all.

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  • lenkabelka
  • 24-09-2017

Deep, powerful, saved me and my daughter

Very deep and powerful book, requires bravery to go through to the end to the core. Will read this as a bible multiple times. It's a lifetime book which has to kept through out a life time. Get yourself a lot's of tissues and stay brave right untill the end.